Not strong enough Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I can't figure out if this is a well planned scam..a very well planned scam, or it's legit. Anyone ever read or tried this book???
GrayClouds Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I can't figure out if this is a well planned scam..a very well planned scam, or it's legit. Anyone ever read or tried this book??? Save your money, you will get better advice here for free, it may not feed your hope, but you will be happier in the end.
starryeyed12 Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 It is a scam aimed at people who are in their weakest moments trying to cope with the lose of an ex. Pathetic! Get real. There is no PLAN that will get anyone back. It takes pain, rebuilding of your life, and time to heal before you could ever think of going back to something that is right now broken. You need to fix YOURSELF, not try and scheme and plan to get someone back. The effects are short-lived and unhealthy. You want progress, read some of the excellent posts here on LS and take their advice. Don't be the fool who thinks they found some secret that no one else knows except him if you just enter your name and email...and pay 2 easy payments of 29.95...and this and that and the other. This is life. It hurts sometimes and theres nothing in the world we can do to make the hurt just go away forever or take us back to better days. Accept it. **************************************************** Cause there's beauty in the breakdown.
spyyder Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 (edited) I have the ebook. It's more of a strategy and concept. I don't regret buying it because it did make me feel better just reading it, has some pretty good tips, and after reading it I feel like I am more prepared for the next time I get heartbroken. Like Greyclouds said, it should feed your hope, but in the end you might be worse off after your ex leaves you again once the challenge this ebook makes you do wears off. I can confirm that it is NOT a scam. You do get what you buy - a guide on how to possibly get your ex back. Whether you actually KEEP your gf/bf after you get him/her back is another thing. To me a scam is like weight loss pills...they give promises but have 0% chance of actually working. This ebook isn't really a scam as it does have a pretty good chance of actually working depending on your situation, your exs understanding and your ability to execute the ebook's strategy. It does have some useful tips, and I can see how it could work. The ideas are very good and 1 of the tips actually has worked for me in the past. I'm still trying to get my ex back, and I'm taking a few tips from the ebook, so I can't say it does work just yet. Most people here on LS are really geared towards helping people move on, not move on to get their ex back, but just move on period.. The ebook does tell and help you move on, but also move on to get your ex back. The ebooks strategy IS NOT EASY at all. It might be the hardest thing you will ever have to do! If it does say 'easy' then it would be a scam because its more like 'unbearably difficult'. You need to do things that would really drive you nuts, and squeeze your heart. Only buy it if you really do want your ex back and would do anything to do so, AND know that if you got her/him back that you will actually change. This is the major flaw with the ebook as it only works if you have actually changed! Most people only change after a very long time, so the ebooks idea of getting your ex back in 1-2 months is unreal. After what I've experienced, I know that it takes much longer to change and try to get your ex back for good will be a long term investment with no guarantee of return. Also you must also feel and KNOW that you are good for your ex, and don't just want him/her back just for yourself...you must know that you are good for him/her. Edited July 22, 2010 by spyyder
starryeyed12 Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Well, after you try...and probably fail...at least LS will be here for all the free advice you can handle.
Author Not strong enough Posted July 23, 2010 Author Posted July 23, 2010 Well, never said i was going to buy it. Just curiousity really, because i see absolutely no bad reviews, but half the web sites i see look like the domain is owned by the author himself, so i really was just curious. However it does seem an aweful lot like most of the advise you get is to just move on. Which if thats not what your trying to do is counter productive. From all the searching ive done, i realize every relationship is different, but they all share common things. So, it makes me believe that a guide would be helpful but would have to be tailored to the situation. The price of it really never scared me, seeing as how i spend probably 8-10 times that a week trying to keep her off my mind and better myself. Which works to a point, somehow ive reached a calm place, where i dont have anxiety attacks thinking about it. It happend pretty much like opening a book. But that hasnt changed my mind in anyway about her, i still love her, i wont ever stop loving her. I had one ex similar to this in the past, we broke up mutually because of distance, we talk everyday and have since the break up with a hiatus for about 8 months after the break up. That was 4 years ago. You know what, i still love her, just as much as always, the love just changed over the years, from romantic, to more like something of a sister. I had ex's inbetween my current, and felt strongly about them, until we did break up, then id have my moments, but always knew we werent right for each other. My current ex, well she's different, i really do love her. I always will, and if i can do anything to make us work again I will. If not in time, i hope we can be close friends. So, I can't say i didn't think about the buying the book, but i find it hard to believe with all the information floating around the internet, that i havent already seen whats in the book before. And if i would have paid for current knowledge, well someone would have got a swift kick in the ass.... I was just curious if there really was something in this book that isnt already public knowledge. I guess for now i will bide my time and hope this works out in our favor. You can't force someone to love you, but in my mind atleast, true love, never dies, it may evolve and change, but it never dies. I just hope it really is true love, i still have faith that it is, i wont waste my gift of life from god trying to force something to happen, but i will hope for it.
cavedweller Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Not strong enough, I have not read the book..But, I would like to see a list of magic or 'plans' to help someone mend a broken relationship...I think that would be interesting.
Maverick1983 Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Don't waste your money seriously.These books not only give false hope but they offer a way to trick you're ex into wanting you back which is never good.If you intend on mending things with your ex then this isn't the way to go IMO.Spend the money on something for yourself.
spyyder Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 It does kind of make you trick your ex into coming back. It's not really immoral because sometimes people do need to be tricked to do the right things, however because of this trickery your ex might not stay for long after once the trick/challenge is over, unless your've really changed and you ex still wants to work things out. I got the book and didn't care about the money because I was already spending 10 times of that a week to do things that would keep my mind off my ex.
cavedweller Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 What kind of 'tricks' could a person use to get their ex back?
starryeyed12 Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 I had one ex similar to this in the past, we broke up mutually because of distance, we talk everyday and have since the break up with a hiatus for about 8 months after the break up. That was 4 years ago. You know what, i still love her, just as much as always, the love just changed over the years, from romantic, to more like something of a sister. I had ex's inbetween my current, and felt strongly about them, until we did break up, then id have my moments, but always knew we werent right for each other. My current ex, well she's different, i really do love her. I always will, and if i can do anything to make us work again I will. If not in time, i hope we can be close friends. I have a similar situation to this with an ex that I dated about 7 years ago. We are still good friends and talk all the time. My recent ex was slightly jealous at times because he didn't really understand the concept. But, like you said, the love has changed. It's a rare and unique situation we share. He is truely a friend to the end, and I would not want to go back or change what we have now. We understand (though at times me more than him if he's bummed that he doesn't have a girl) that this is how we work. It sounds like your current ex is similar too. I love him and some part of me always will. Being apart makes me kind of ache, and I still feel like someone knocked the wind out of me when I see something or think of something that reminds me of him. I can instantly well-up with tears. It's tough. But you know what? The magic of making up can't really be bought from a book. I think we all know this, but we're in such a tough time that we really do want to believe that there is a magic fix. Thats why it really rubs me the wrong way, because ppl who sell that kind of thing for money are just taking advantage of your desperation. You can find everything you would find in that book free on the internet. Probably the best thing we all found was this site bc ppl on here are honest and keep it real. Those who don't support the book do so because we see the bigger picture. When you step back for a moment, you're gonna realize that if it's meant to be then nothing in that book really mattered at all. And if it's not, then the things in that book just brought you prolonged heartache and failure under the guise that "you tried everything." Go ahead and do it if you gotta get stuff like that out of your system. As I said before, LS will be here no matter what.
GrayClouds Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 What kind of 'tricks' could a person use to get their ex back? Tell them your dieing of cancer. Tell them you just won the lottery. Make them jealous by dating another person you do not really care for. Get a new hairstyle and new clothes to get them to think you a new person. Like spyyder said none of this things our immoral because some people need to be trick into doing what WE think is the right thing for them. And the person will love you forever because eventual they will see that you care for them so much you was will to use dishonesty to get them back and we all know that better the roses and chocolates.
cafe267 Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 The Magic of Making up isn't a scam...its working fine for me right now as I'm on my 2nd date now w/my ex tonight and seemingly on the right path. I think if anything it just helps you adopt the right frame of mind on how to move forward after a breakup. A lot of the information on the forum here is exactly the same as the e-book. I guess the e-book just gives you a plan to follow which helped me when I felt hopeless, lost, and unsure how to proceed. Its not hard to find it online for free as well, just search around. If you post your email I'm sure someone might have some helpful information
Author Not strong enough Posted July 24, 2010 Author Posted July 24, 2010 The Magic of Making up isn't a scam...its working fine for me right now as I'm on my 2nd date now w/my ex tonight and seemingly on the right path. I think if anything it just helps you adopt the right frame of mind on how to move forward after a breakup. A lot of the information on the forum here is exactly the same as the e-book. I guess the e-book just gives you a plan to follow which helped me when I felt hopeless, lost, and unsure how to proceed. Its not hard to find it online for free as well, just search around. If you post your email I'm sure someone might have some helpful information Dont want my private or work email public knowledge, but i made one just for this. [email protected] Thanks
monkeymaid Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 i used it. ..it worked i learned how to manipulate my ex back over a year and a half ago with the key word being manipulate. we broke up this year in late february as the relationship was not rock solid and it was based on a manipulation. dont do it. just move on with your life.
Author Not strong enough Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 So, what i am getting is, from this forum and others is that it actually works, but through a not so wonderful method. Because of the method it might not work out in the end. My next question, are the techniques in this book really not already public knowledge, like saying your sorry, but in a specific way, making them think your happy when your really not. Or is it a really well kept secret, because i don't understand how this thing seems to always work. Now im starting to give myself the want what you cant have syndrome and wanting to buy it....
monkeymaid Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 $45 for peace of mind is worth it in my book. ive spent more on stuff that i didnt need or use once i found out what it was. ...go for it. then only thing you lose in this case is money
GrayClouds Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 So, what i am getting is, from this forum and others is that it actually works, but through a not so wonderful method. Because of the method it might not work out in the end. My next question, are the techniques in this book really not already public knowledge, like saying your sorry, but in a specific way, making them think your happy when your really not. Or is it a really well kept secret, because i don't understand how this thing seems to always work. Now im starting to give myself the want what you cant have syndrome and wanting to buy it.... Why do you want to be with someone who does not want to be with you and the only way to get them back is by tricking them into it? What do you think the long term survival rate of a relationship built on that? You deserve a someone who chooses to be with you because they love you, but you will not get that until you start believing it. Save your money to spend on that person.
ar1 Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Why do you want to be with someone who does not want to be with you and the only way to get them back is by tricking them into it? What do you think the long term survival rate of a relationship built on that? You deserve a someone who chooses to be with you because they love you, but you will not get that until you start believing it. Save your money to spend on that person. Eh, after looking at this thread I decided to find a copy of it online. The book more or less confirmed what I had in mind all along. What it essentially says to do is to give the person some space, work on yourself, and pretty much reignite any lost feelings through a series of dates. Intuitively, it makes sense and doesn't involve any type of "trickery".
Author Not strong enough Posted July 25, 2010 Author Posted July 25, 2010 Well, i did about the same thing ar1, so i dont believe ill be buying it now. To answer greyclouds which seems to be full of doom and gloom. I found out i was an idiot, and over reacted to a situation. Found out my ex was txting another guy, got so mad, i went berzerk, screamed and cussed at her, drove wildy while doing it, and punched through a 3/4 inch piece of mdf (medium density fiberboard, think of it as refined particle board) and scared her half to death, after i broke up with her the first time because i was in a bad mood and she was pmsing and she took me back. Wellll i knew i had overreacted but felt that after a 2 year relationship, how could she do that, going behind my back flirting with another guy. Well come to find out 3 months later through a customer of mine, who later found out he knew the guy she was txting. That she was txting him yes, but telling him that she loved me and would never cheat on me, when all i saw was his txt calling her sexy. So now after she took me back the first time, and i went ape $h*t on her, she has an emotional wall up and wont speak to me, atleast she wouldnt 2 months ago. Now she is dating this guy, but thats after 4 weeks of him chasing her in her darkest hour (this came out of his mouth) So im quite sure he is a rebound which doesnt bother me to much anymore. What bothers me is that i ruined and dumped the girl i planned to marry and may have scared her badly. So i feel like an ass, she didnt really didn't do anything wrong besides try to take me back after i made her cry once, only to have me act like an ass later. Btw part of the reason i acted so insane is because we had only been back together for 3 weeks when this all happend. Thats why i want her back grey clouds, its my fault, and has been, and after 3 months of me being mad at her for "cheating on me" i find out i went insane on the girl who loved me and was only trying to spare me of trying to see someone else hit on her. Now why don't you tell me i'm better off without her, because everyones situation is the same.....
GrayClouds Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 (edited) Doom and Gloom? Save your money, you will get better advice here for free, it may not feed your hope, but you will be happier in the end. That was my first post of this thread and it was correct from the start. And at the expensive of being sounding arrogant here is something else correct: So if you really want her back prove it. And that is not done by reading some $49.99 e-book(which is about 2 times the price of a hardcover book you would by at a store, that alone should communicate it's main purpose; to make money on your heartbreak) You can justify and rationalize what you did for what ever reason by why should she believe it simple wont happen again, because you feel bad, you say you wont. You have shown you have anger and trust issues what are you going to DO about those. Your words mean crap at this point, it will be actions that will innate change. Are you reading books on anger and insecurity? Are you seeing a professional to help you understand why you could not communicate you emotions in a more positive way? Putting action into feeling bad about what happen will make you feel better, communicate to the world that you do want to improve, and go along way to improve any relationship you have in the future. A e-book will not tell you that, for this stuff take a good deal of time and effort, and most people who are hurting and wanting desperately to "correct" erase the pain wants something quick and easy. Finally let me offer on bit insight they in your time of heartbreak you may be missing; Part of your insecurity was warranted, she was has been pulling away from and was looking around. Being emotional walled up is pulling away. Yes you might have some real work to do on your anger and trust, but the emotions of insecurity and fear of loss, were, most likely quite legitimate on some level. Edited July 25, 2010 by GrayClouds
SadKitty78 Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 $49.99 for some throwaway advice while you can get GrayClouds' great advice for FREE...courtesy of Love Shack! Joking aside, thanks for that post GrayClouds! It was chock full of good advice, something I will take away with me as well...after my guy-atus! You are correct though in that some of these emotional issues and communication skills take quite some time to work on and resolve, an ebook is NOT going to help and yet people actually pay so much $$$ in moments of despair!
starryeyed12 Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Wellll i knew i had overreacted but felt that after a 2 year relationship, how could she do that, going behind my back flirting with another guy. Well come to find out 3 months later through a customer of mine, who later found out he knew the guy she was txting. That she was txting him yes, but telling him that she loved me and would never cheat on me, when all i saw was his txt calling her sexy. Honey, sweetie, let me tell you from a woman's perspective. She may love you and tell the other man "i'll never cheat," but she is still putting her line in the water, still keeping herself out there in the sea of possibilities. She is not innocent. It is not okay to be leading a man on like this, and then pulling back on the reigns by dropping your name when she suddenly has an attack of conscious. How did he get her number in the first place, hm? This behavior is not consistent with someone who is madly in love. Let me take a wild guess that you are in your early to mid 20s, as well as your ex. She's the typical young woman of this post sexual revolutionary world who seems to still be at a point where she wants to have some cake and it it too. Why? Thats something you need to ask yourself, and really contemplate whether she has ever been truely ready for what you have to offer. Thats why i want her back grey clouds, its my fault, and has been, and after 3 months of me being mad at her for "cheating on me" i find out i went insane on the girl who loved me and was only trying to spare me of trying to see someone else hit on her. Now why don't you tell me i'm better off without her, because everyones situation is the same..... Blaming yourself is only making the Magic Book that much more enticing. I don't believe anything is ever ALL anyones fault. If you think the book tells it better then we on LS, go buy it. But I don't agree with the idea of taking money from the lonely and despret with ideas of "magic." Good marketing on their part though, I have to say. You can't fix what is unhealthy and broken in a day. Or a week. Or a month. Or if it was really sick, maybe ever. Relax and realize that time will heal wounds and reveal truths. Let Time work its magic. Grive your lose and accept the unpleasantness. Control your self. Think. Think some more. Stay busy. Work on you. Find forgivness. Watch for new doors to open.
Pink Cupcakes Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I didn't read the entire thread, lots to read through, but absolutely nothing will work to get your ex back if the feelings just aren't there anymore on their side. If she/he has met someone else and they are having the spark with that person, you're done. Just move on.
Author Not strong enough Posted July 26, 2010 Author Posted July 26, 2010 I realize it's not all my fault starryeyed. We had other problems, though mild, i didn't give her as much attention as she wanted or deserved, because of a business. I'd be an idiot to think she didn't even look at other people, because i can't say i was innocent of that. I should have given her more attention though. If it didn't work out for other reasons, id be better with it. It shouldn't have ended like this though. As far as trying to shut it all out i have not, but i am past the anxiety attacks and i see everything more clearly, that's why this all seems to be ridiculous looking back at it. I'm not busting down her door, or saying anything to her, and its been a while now. I haven't shut myself off either, I'm dating at the moment, rather successfully, but i know it's not what i want. I've been trying to let doctor time work its magic as well, I know it will never work, if she doesn't want me back the same as I want her. I want the advise though, to help me make an entry when the time is right. Because after 2 years i know her very well. I know her emotional background, she will sit there and never say anything about whats bothering her, or what will make her happy, you just had to look at her and judge it. She had a very difficult child hood, the moves always going to be up to me, the last time i tried was way to soon and i realize that. The other thing is, regardless if we get back together or not, which i really hope we do. I'm not going to leave another scar on her. So I'm trying to do a balancing act in my mind. Do i keep waiting and hopefully raise my chances of getting her back, or do I just go ahead and say i'm sorry for how I wronged her now. Because i am not kidding myself I want her back, always will, if i can't have her back id rather just make my peace and move on. But I don't want to because I still believe even if its 6 months to a year or two down the road, that we can make it right again. The words of a desperate man everyone's gonna say in there mind, but i just have faith, if i am wrong for that then so be it. I'm just thankful that now i don't beat myself up constantly over the situation. I'm just trying to play the cards right now.
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