theconfusedguy Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 My wife is perfect,affectionate,happy and takes care of me. She left everything for me when we got married a couple of years ago. She wanted to wait to get married but I kept pushing the marriage. We ended up getting married. There have been times where I have wondered if I am doing the right thing since we have gotten married. There are times when I tell her I love her more than she loves me but I am certain that she loves me significantly more. Me questioning our marriage has been ongoing for several months now, but it has always been minor. Fast forward to present day. I have developed a crush for someone I find is like me. Now I feel very guilty for developing a crush while married. My guilt has me questioning myself 24 hours a day whether I should get a divorce. I keep feeling more and more guilty as time goes by because my wife treats my like the best wife in the world. I feel like that in a marriage you both parties should be 110% sure about their love for eachother. I feel like the fact that I have questioned our marriage more than once proves that I am not 110% sure about my love for my wife. My wife is sweet and perfect and I am starting to feel like I may be wasting the prime of our life by not giving her my whole heart. At times I feel like she deserves someone who truly gives his heart to her 100% of the time at full capacity. I have no idea what to do. I was thinking about letting the crush cycle through my system but even that makes me panic and feel uncertain. Has anyone else been in the same situation? I am afraid I may regret make such a decision and would like to stick through this.
whichwayisup Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Forget the girl that you have a crush on. Involving her and cheating on your wife will only make this worse and you'll devastate your wife, let alone change who you are inside. Go seek counselling, marriage counselling and figure this out. And, talk to your wife! Be honest and allow her to help you. Or, maybe just talking about it will help relieve your own fears. Maybe she's abit unhappy too. I will say, stop looking at your wife as perfect and putting her up on a pedistool. She isn't perfect.. From what you've said it seems like you just connected with the other woman and now are questioning what you have with your wife. Those new and crush like, intense feelings.. Or did you not ever feel them with your wife? All I can say, if you can't see yourself being with your wife forever, grow old and grey with her, have kids, grandchildren etc, then walk away now and let her find a man who will adore and love her. Keep in mind that eventually that lust/love fades and in it's place is a long lasting love, that grows continually..Knowing that person is your bloodline, your support, your cheerleader, no matter what. Wouldn't it be a shame if you divorced, and went for the OW, thinking she was more suited for you, then you realize that you made a huge mistake by divorcing your wife for someone else. IF you plan on divorcing, let it be because YOU are unhappy and can't stand being married anymore and feel you'd be better off alone..Not because some chick caught your attention and made you feel good. I am sorry I'm being harsh, its' just that I do wonder how much of this has to do with the new crushy feelings you have and you're comparing them to what you feel for your wife now. Make sense?
just_some_guy Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I am not given to crushes, as life time events, I can count them on one hand. Other people develop crushes all the time. I think most people get crushes from time to time. The thing you have to remember is that the reality of the person you have a crush on is likely to be very different than the image you have of her. In fact, what you feel about her is likely a projection from your own sub-conscious of what you desire. Don't repress your feelings, just acknowledge and feel them. Let it bubble around in your head. It will burn itself out. Crushes always do. That "in love" feeling fades and it turns into the long-lasting feeling of love. The psychologist Robert A. Johnson called the long-lasting love, "stirring the oatmeal" meaning you bring love down to earth, enjoy the sharing of day-to-day life and little things. The mind-blowing high of falling in love will fade. You're probably craving that. But if you find the joy in day to day life with your bride, you may find a deeper satisfaction that can last forever. Let the high bubble along and let it go. It's just like having a few too many drinks - it feels great, but it doesn't last and when you wake up, your problems are all the same again and you have a hangover.
TaraMaiden Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I get so pi$$ed off with posts like this... because THIS.... My wife is perfect,affectionate,happy and takes care of me. She left everything for me when we got married a couple of years ago. She wanted to wait to get married but I kept pushing the marriage. We ended up getting married. Unfailingly becomes, THIS..... Fast forward to present day. I have developed a crush for someone I find is like me. Now I feel very guilty for developing a crush while married. If I could print all the names I feel like calling you right now, two things would happen: The auto-censor would blow a fuse, and I'd be banned from this planet, let alone the forum. Take a good step back, buddy. You describe your wonderful wife in glowing terms. You admit you pushed for marriage, and she didn't. You admit you got your way. Blah, blah, blah...guilt, wonderful wife, perfect, so good to me, blah blah, blah.... I have no idea what to do. I was thinking about letting the crush cycle through my system but even that makes me panic and feel uncertain. Has anyone else been in the same situation? I am afraid I may regret make such a decision and would like to stick through this. I know exactly what you want. You want to live in a situation where your oh-so-wonderful wife carries on being your oh-so-wonderful wife, in every way, and you stay married to her because she really is the answer to your dreams - but you'd like it to be completely legitimate and acceptable for you to go ahead with this crush, turn it into something physical, and slip your trouser-boy between the legs of another woman - and it will all be fine and guilt-free. That's what you really want. Isn't it? Well, it's not going to happen. You have to choose: Come clean to your wife, admit your feelings are not strong for her as they should be, and ask her to go to counselling with you, because you are in real danger of screwing this up. Literally. And you play this to her rules. Do something to fix whatever's amiss in your relationship with her, but admit - to yourself and to her - that something is seriously off-kilter. OR: Tell her you want to divorce, because you no longer have the deep feelings for her you once had, you are drawn to seeing other women, and you want the liberty to have your fun, but you will NOT cheat on her, be a liar, or deceive her by being unfaithful in the marriage. This will be fairer on her than screwing around behind her back and letting her believe that everything is perfect, when you know damn well, it's anything but. if you can think of a workable third option, I'd love to hear it.
tank Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 For what its worth, I think you should put your focus on your marriage. Stop thinking about the crush, look for all the things that attracted you to your wife. Plan a day trip away and surprise her with it. Go see a Coun. for yourself and figure out what has changed for you. Look into MC with your spouse. Talk to her about what you are feeling. Try to reconnect. Give everything you have to the marriage. If you walk away, you might regret it. Something made you choose this women to be your companion and you entered into a life long committment. As you have said you have honoured that committment up until now. Get help before you break it. The grass isnt greener on the other side of the fence. KYou obviously still care for your wife, it seems your marriage has just got stagnent. You need to wake it up, create some excitment, really put some effort into it. Marriage is a give and take, but really its just give. You need to give everything you have to her, and if your in need, she will give everything she has to you. Thats the beauty of it. You give and she gives back. Dont be selfish, remember you chose her and there is something still there. Find it and re juvinate your marriage.
wrencn Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 The thing you have to remember is that the reality of the person you have a crush on is likely to be very different than the image you have of her. In fact, what you feel about her is likely a projection from your own sub-conscious of what you desire. Could you please have a talk with my husband lol. Listen to these words confusedguy, they are the truth!!!!!
What_Next Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I agree with the posters, stop this foolishness (yes I am calling it foolishness). A crush? Really, come on. You claim to love your wife, you claim she is perfect. Well why are in infatuated with another? Remember your vows? Here's a thought, go back and re-read them. OK, I've thumped on you enough. Remember that coming in here and starting a thread like this on LS will likely result in many challenging you. Especially those that have been left, or those that have went through a near hell in a marriage. My advice, get IC, get MC, that is if you want to save your marriage. If you don't, man up, grow a set and tell your "perfect" wife what is going on and let her go. I personally think you are acting selfish. I assume there are no children involved, or rather I pray there isn't.
habs53 Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Mmmm, she changed her whole life for you and now this. Give your head a shake there dude. Jump right to a divorse for a crush. lol
spriggig Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 There are times when I tell her I love her more than she loves me but I am certain that she loves me significantly more. Yeah, marriages based on lies tend to fail. BTW, she's probably lying to you too. At least you haven't cheated--yet. If you love her you'll do one of two things, you'll buckle down and seek out education on how to be a (much) better husband or you'll divorce her and THEN follow your dick. Don't cheat, you're better than that.
solitary_man Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I'm probably the last person that be jumping on the high horse folks are riding through this thread, but I'm going to. I honestly believe that some situations warrant divorce. Cheating, absolutely. Abuse, absolutely. This? No way! You pressured her to leave her home behind and marry you because you wanted that so badly. And now you're feeling bored and want out. This, to me, seems hugely unfair. Especially considering how you recognize she's so good to you. The way I see it, one of the following is true. Either she isn't as perfect as you think and is not fulfilling all of your emotional needs, or you have too many emotional needs for one person to fulfill. More likely, the problem is caused by a combination of the two. You said yourself that you pressured her into marriage, that leads me to believe that you are the kind of person that is more interested in what he wants than what others want. I'm not pointing a finger, but just trying to tell you what I'm seeing here. As long as you put yourself before you put your wife, the marriage won't work. It's not enough to put her first, either. Rather, you both need to put the marriage itself above all your own desires and needs. Nothing less will save it. If that's not something you're willing or capable of doing, then stop wasting her life and leave. One last thing: infatuation tends to modify our perception of things. My dad always called it "the rose-colored glasses of love." Don't expect to make informed decisions as long as you're giving your heart to someone else. I speak from experience, there. When you are in love, you make choices you wouldn't make otherwise. If she respects you, accepts you, and treats you well, and is faithful, you've got a lot more going for you than most of us on this board have, man. Don't turn your back on that, and be careful coming here for support because, as you've probably notice, you're going to hit a few nerves. 1. drop the crush 2. talk to your wife. she deserves to know where you are, emotionally. 3. pursue counseling either with or without your wife.
GorillaTheater Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I could be reading this wrong, but what I'm picking up on is that because you had a crush, you don't love your wife 100% (which may well be true). Married couples must love each other 100%. Thus, due to the fact that you may love your wife less than 100%, you should probably ditch the marriage. Did I get that straight? Holy fairy tales, batman. Add in the fact that you were the one who pushed for the marriage in the first place, and I'm left with the impression of some guy with some seriously over-romantic and idealistic ideas of what marriage looks like. Marriage is pretty damn tough at times. Other times it's as sweet as can be. Sometimes I'm head-over-heals in love with my wife, sometimes I don't particularly like her all that much. Welcome to life. That's the common dynamic of two individuals trying to make a life as one. It's not a fairy tale, it's work. Sometimes the best work you'll ever do, but work nonetheless. So get to work.
just_some_guy Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I could be reading this wrong, but what I'm picking up on is that because you had a crush, you don't love your wife 100% (which may well be true). Married couples must love each other 100%. Thus, due to the fact that you may love your wife less than 100%, you should probably ditch the marriage. Did I get that straight? Holy fairy tales, batman. Add in the fact that you were the one who pushed for the marriage in the first place, and I'm left with the impression of some guy with some seriously over-romantic and idealistic ideas of what marriage looks like. Marriage is pretty damn tough at times. Other times it's as sweet as can be. Sometimes I'm head-over-heals in love with my wife, sometimes I don't particularly like her all that much. Welcome to life. That's the common dynamic of two individuals trying to make a life as one. It's not a fairy tale, it's work. Sometimes the best work you'll ever do, but work nonetheless. So get to work. Totally agree. This "110%" thing is a FAIRY TALE. Human beings fall into crushes and they fall right out of them too. The OP thinks he is in conflict about this and not living up to some high-ideal he has. But it just ain't realistic, this high ideal. I would not advise speaking to the wife about this "crush". That will simply hurt her feelings. Go chat with a counsellor and search on why you feel so conflicted internally about it and why you think your supposed to have some unattainable level of love in your own head. Think of all the crushes you had in your life. Where are they now? Fond memories, even the ones that went absolutely no where?
habs53 Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I get so pi$$ed off with posts like this... because THIS.... Unfailingly becomes, THIS..... If I could print all the names I feel like calling you right now, two things would happen: The auto-censor would blow a fuse, and I'd be banned from this planet, let alone the forum. Take a good step back, buddy. You describe your wonderful wife in glowing terms. You admit you pushed for marriage, and she didn't. You admit you got your way. I know exactly what you want. You want to live in a situation where your oh-so-wonderful wife carries on being your oh-so-wonderful wife, in every way, and you stay married to her because she really is the answer to your dreams - but you'd like it to be completely legitimate and acceptable for you to go ahead with this crush, turn it into something physical, and slip your trouser-boy between the legs of another woman - and it will all be fine and guilt-free. That's what you really want. Isn't it? Well, it's not going to happen. You have to choose: Come clean to your wife, admit your feelings are not strong for her as they should be, and ask her to go to counselling with you, because you are in real danger of screwing this up. Literally. And you play this to her rules. Do something to fix whatever's amiss in your relationship with her, but admit - to yourself and to her - that something is seriously off-kilter. OR: Tell her you want to divorce, because you no longer have the deep feelings for her you once had, you are drawn to seeing other women, and you want the liberty to have your fun, but you will NOT cheat on her, be a liar, or deceive her by being unfaithful in the marriage. This will be fairer on her than screwing around behind her back and letting her believe that everything is perfect, when you know damn well, it's anything but. if you can think of a workable third option, I'd love to hear it. Awsome post
Author theconfusedguy Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Thank you all for replying. I didn't expect this many replies.* I must say that when I was rushing the marriage I had religious reasons behind it. Additionally I have questioned my feelings toward my wife for months now. This attraction to another individual has just triggered me to release my suppressed thoughts. In all honesty my wife didn't have my full heart from the beginning and it was a mutual understanding because I was still mourning the loss of a loved one when we first met. * I would never cheat on my wife and have never had a cheating history. This marriage is also my first serious relationship.* I know I am being selfish in my thoughts as I am the one who rushed a marriage that may not have otherwise not happened. We have completely different lifeplans and aspirations and I know they were cut short with an early marriage.* A part of me wants to divorce so that both of us are able to Start over again while we are still young. But the other part of me is afraid of not finding something so secure and perfect later down the road.* I did tell my wife about my feelings about the marriage. I did leave te crush out though. At this point she wants either my whole heart or none of it and it is clearly a fair ultimatum. *We are at a real important point and I am findig it difficult to make a final decision.*
whichwayisup Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I did tell my wife about my feelings about the marriage. I did leave te crush out though. At this point she wants either my whole heart or none of it and it is clearly a fair ultimatum. *We are at a real important point and I am findig it difficult to make a final decision.* Then go to marriage counselling with your wife. She is right, if you can't love ALL of her with your heart and you don't want to reconnect and try to fall inlove with her on a new level, then divorce so you both can find someone else. Why didn't you tell her about the OW? Or is it because you'd feel that the decision to end the marriage would be in your wife's hands and not yours? Sooner or later you need to make a decison, so please consider the MC with your wife.
Author theconfusedguy Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Then go to marriage counselling with your wife. She is right, if you can't love ALL of her with your heart and you don't want to reconnect and try to fall inlove with her on a new level, then divorce so you both can find someone else. Why didn't you tell her about the OW? Or is it because you'd feel that the decision to end the marriage would be in your wife's hands and not yours? Sooner or later you need to make a decison, so please consider the MC with your wife. The MC would be expensive wouldn't it? Also I am afraid the OW would come up at MC. I don't want to tell her about the OW because it's embarassing and to an extent my wife would have the choice of divorce in her hands. What exactly would an MC do that we cannot do?
just_some_guy Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 The MC would be expensive wouldn't it? Also I am afraid the OW would come up at MC. I don't want to tell her about the OW because it's embarassing and to an extent my wife would have the choice of divorce in her hands. What exactly would an MC do that we cannot do? How involved are you with the OW? Fantasy? Talking? Kissing? Sex? You are hiding from the truth and avoiding the consequences. Man up. Live the truth in all things. I suspect it is possible that you don't know your own truth. You need some individual counseling, most likely, so that you can face up to yourself, first. M/C is expensive, but divorce even more so.
TaraMaiden Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 (edited) I must say that when I was rushing the marriage I had religious reasons behind it. So vowing before god to remain faithful to her in sickness and in health, etc etc etc, for as long as you both shall live, is obviously no longer important? What you're trying to say is that you got together because of god, but now that's no longer good enough? Additionally I have questioned my feelings toward my wife for months now. This attraction to another individual has just triggered me to release my suppressed thoughts. In all honesty my wife didn't have my full heart from the beginning So your entire marriage is actually based on deceit? Everything you vowed was a lie, and you really meant none of it? perfect. Just perfect. and it was a mutual understanding because I was still mourning the loss of a loved one when we first met. * I doubt very much it was a 'mutual understanding'. I suspect that your wife married you out of love, while you married her out of need. You pushed for the marriage, she wanted to hold off. But you insisted. Don't now try to tell us it was a 'mutual understanding'. You messed up. I would never cheat on my wife and have never had a cheating history. This marriage is also my first serious relationship.* You don't get it, do you? You have in effect already 'cheated' on your wife by virtue of the fact that there is an OW. Emotionally speaking, your heart is elsewhere. You are to all intents and purposes, an Emotional Cheater. I know I am being selfish in my thoughts as I am the one who rushed a marriage that may not have otherwise not happened. We have completely different lifeplans and aspirations and I know they were cut short with an early marriage.* Then do both of you a big favour, do the right thing, and end it. Agonising and wondering won't fix this. A part of me wants to divorce so that both of us are able to Start over again while we are still young. But the other part of me is afraid of not finding something so secure and perfect later down the road.* That is your problem, and your gamble. You brought this upon yourself, now deal with it. But don't condemn your wife to a life of second-best, just because you're too selfish to set her free, due to your fear of never finding security and perfection down the road. Oh and by the way - that's a load of baloney too. Your wife thought she had 'secure' and 'perfect' when you insisted on marrying her. Well, look at her Mr Secure and Perfect now...If you can't be that guarantee for her - don't even think of expecting it for yourself. Perfection and security - Don't exist. I did tell my wife about my feelings about the marriage. I did leave te crush out though. so you are basically telling her what you want her to hear, to assuage your own feelings of guilt. This really doesn't make you a very honourable person at all, does it? At this point she wants either my whole heart or none of it and it is clearly a fair ultimatum. *We are at a real important point and I am findig it difficult to make a final decision. As I said - this is because you clearly would prefer the best of both worlds. Your cake and eating it. Well tough luck buddy. It's a no-brainer, isn't it? The MC would be expensive wouldn't it? Also I am afraid the OW would come up at MC. You really are a piece of work, aren't you? What the hell happened to your sense of honesty? Can't you just for once put your own fear and embarrassment to one side, and put your wife first? She deserves the truth! She has a right to know that you have intentions of cheating! Yes, MC would entail openness, honesty and frankness. Not something apparently, that you've been capable of, even before you got married. I don't want to tell her about the OW because it's embarassing and to an extent my wife would have the choice of divorce in her hands. So let's just re-cap: You're a deceitful liar, you're a cheater, you're selfish... and now, you're also a coward. That would look impressive on any CV, huh? Boy, your wife really has a priceless gem on her hands.... You are even willing to deny her the right to make her own decisions, by being completely spineless and omitting vital information....because it's 'embarrassing'....? What exactly would an MC do that we cannot do? They would encourage frank dialogue... Oh no...sorry, you don't want that.... Openness.... Ah...yes... That too is off limits.... Honesty... I know, I know.... not an option..... and the courage to face the issue and deal with it together. I knew I couldn't keep a straight face while I said that.... MC is a professional body designed to put you both on a level playing field and giving you both he opportunity to speak in a frank, open, completely honest and clear way, that will resolve the issues concerning you, even if it means you eventually split up anyway. Given that while you continue as you are, this marriage is doomed anyway, I'd advise cutting out the Middle man (MC) and do this woman the biggest favour you could. Let her go. Edited July 22, 2010 by TaraMaiden
NancyBotwin Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 You should tell your wife you have a crush on someone else. You obviously are not interested in counseling, or commitment for that matter, so let her know so she can divorce you, and stop wasting her life on someone who doesn't really give a rat's azz about her. Sorry for the run-on sentance.
Author theconfusedguy Posted July 23, 2010 Author Posted July 23, 2010 It's nothing more than daydreaming about a crush and being single.
HopelessinDTW Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 So vowing before god to remain faithful to her in sickness and in health, etc etc etc, for as long as you both shall live, is obviously no longer important? What you're trying to say is that you got together because of god, but now that's no longer good enough? So your entire marriage is actually based on deceit? Everything you vowed was a lie, and you really meant none of it? perfect. Just perfect. I doubt very much it was a 'mutual understanding'. I suspect that your wife married you out of love, while you married her out of need. You pushed for the marriage, she wanted to hold off. But you insisted. Don't now try to tell us it was a 'mutual understanding'. You messed up. You don't get it, do you? You have in effect already 'cheated' on your wife by virtue of the fact that there is an OW. Emotionally speaking, your heart is elsewhere. You are to all intents and purposes, an Emotional Cheater. Then do both of you a big favour, do the right thing, and end it. Agonising and wondering won't fix this. That is your problem, and your gamble. You brought this upon yourself, now deal with it. But don't condemn your wife to a life of second-best, just because you're too selfish to set her free, due to your fear of never finding security and perfection down the road. Oh and by the way - that's a load of baloney too. Your wife thought she had 'secure' and 'perfect' when you insisted on marrying her. Well, look at her Mr Secure and Perfect now...If you can't be that guarantee for her - don't even think of expecting it for yourself. Perfection and security - Don't exist. so you are basically telling her what you want her to hear, to assuage your own feelings of guilt. This really doesn't make you a very honourable person at all, does it? As I said - this is because you clearly would prefer the best of both worlds. Your cake and eating it. Well tough luck buddy. It's a no-brainer, isn't it? You really are a piece of work, aren't you? What the hell happened to your sense of honesty? Can't you just for once put your own fear and embarrassment to one side, and put your wife first? She deserves the truth! She has a right to know that you have intentions of cheating! Yes, MC would entail openness, honesty and frankness. Not something apparently, that you've been capable of, even before you got married. So let's just re-cap: You're a deceitful liar, you're a cheater, you're selfish... and now, you're also a coward. That would look impressive on any CV, huh? Boy, your wife really has a priceless gem on her hands.... You are even willing to deny her the right to make her own decisions, by being completely spineless and omitting vital information....because it's 'embarrassing'....? They would encourage frank dialogue... Oh no...sorry, you don't want that.... Openness.... Ah...yes... That too is off limits.... Honesty... I know, I know.... not an option..... and the courage to face the issue and deal with it together. I knew I couldn't keep a straight face while I said that.... MC is a professional body designed to put you both on a level playing field and giving you both he opportunity to speak in a frank, open, completely honest and clear way, that will resolve the issues concerning you, even if it means you eventually split up anyway. Given that while you continue as you are, this marriage is doomed anyway, I'd advise cutting out the Middle man (MC) and do this woman the biggest favour you could. Let her go. TaraM: You hit the nail on the head, and then some!!! ConfusedGuy: Perfect choice of name BTW. You're reasoning is incredible, self-serving, and completely self-centered. Sorry for being so blunt, but you are not ready to be in any kind of relationship. Please try acting like an adult human being for once, and let your wife know that you are screwed up, and that you need to get your head fixed! Then send her here so that we can tell her how much better off she'll be without your sorry a**. Good luck buddy!
just_some_guy Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 It's nothing more than daydreaming about a crush and being single. If that's all it is - you need to get this worked out. It isn't cheating if it is only in your thoughts. It can be cheating if you are having regular meet ups with the object of your crush. I doubt there is a married man anywhere who does NOT daydream about being single or get an occasional crush. Stop turning it into the end of the world. You should really get a counselor for you and learn how to resolve this conflict in your own head first. Seriously, there's nothing wrong with that and you need to learn how to deal with it. You have got to get honest with yourself and do some maturing. Cause you know what? This is not the last crush you'll ever find yourself in. If you can look at your wife and find the joy in every day life, then you have love. Lofty ideals only exist in romance novels, sappy hollywood movies and stupid love songs. Love in real life is chasing a spider out of the bathtub, passing the salt shaker, kissing her goodnight.
OliveOyl Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 (edited) How old were you when you got married? What were the religious reasons? Did you marry so you could have sex with her? Edited July 23, 2010 by OliveOyl
Author theconfusedguy Posted July 23, 2010 Author Posted July 23, 2010 How old were you when you got married? What were the religious reasons? Did you marry so you could have sex with her? 21 att marriage. Im a Mormon. We consummated prior to marriage so I felt partially obliged to marry her.
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