e.clipse Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 when i was in a relationship, i did not depend on my SO financially and vice versa. had i received $30m dollars when with him, no, i would not have left him. i would have wanted to share the money, without a doubt. today, however, if i was offered $30m versus "love," . . . i'd take the money and run, run, run. if i were in a relationship right now and was given $30m, yes, i would leave him. absolutely.
Married_and_Lonely Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 we're fighting today.... so at the moment, I'd like to leave her for free!
denise_xo Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 we're fighting today.... so at the moment, I'd like to leave her for free! MaL, I read a couple of your threads - good luck to you (both)! I would certainly stick with the man...
Pyro Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I am somewhat surprised but give the average married woman a million dollars and she is out of there. the average person....man or woman isn't that cold-hearted but like it matters to you. You will reply with the typical "its the truth and I have seen the average woman get up and leave for no reason blah blah blah" The only experience that you have with a married woman is your ex who is off her rocker and your current wife who you say is the exception, so as far as the average married woman goes you have no experience to speak of, just a biased opinion.
quankanne Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I am somewhat surprised but give the average married woman a million dollars and she is out of there. given the original question and Wog's supposition, I am laughing my head off at the irony of this being posted today of all days: After dragging our feet 18 years, DH and I have completed and turned in paperwork to get his first marriage annulled so we can have our marriage blessed by my church. so not only no, but hell no, would I dump my husband if I hit big on the lottery. Money is nothing, when you think about it. A committed, healthy relationship is everything ...
Toodamnpragmatic Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 She looked me in the eye and said of course not.... Then she though a minute, looked at me again and said "Now if I won 30M, that'd be a different story":p:laugh:..... BTW not making that up....
NancyBotwin Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 would you leave your significant other?Heck no! I would spoil him rotten! We would have FUN!
Stung Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 No way. Why would I leave when we finally had the means to make the dreams we've been struggling towards reality? I feel confident that he would say the same. I do like to think about what we'd do, together.
mem11363 Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 I would bet my left arm (and I am a southpaw) that my SO would not leave me. I can't wait for the gender gap on the answers to this. My answer would be no.
aerogurl87 Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 would you leave your significant other? Haha, no. In fact I'd pay for him to go to university if he still wanted to go, buy him his dream car and all the parts he wanted to customize it. And I'd retire myself with the rest, probably buy us a house and pay for a really nice wedding and honeymoon.
xxoo Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 She looked me in the eye and said of course not.... Then she though a minute, looked at me again and said "Now if I won 30M, that'd be a different story":p:laugh:..... BTW not making that up.... That's hilarious Your wife should post here!
Toodamnpragmatic Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 That's hilarious Your wife should post here! And she'd read my posts too..... Lucky we have a good marriage (sometimes great) and don't snoop at all..... She's not into advise columns and such......
MR2U Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I wouln't bolt. But what if I kept the money a secret, stash most of it and then say I got a big raise:cool: and my hours have been reduced a lot;). haha. People who win the lottery have higher divorce rates I have heard. I guess this is because they quit their jobs and stay home together, which is like a 400% increase in the time spent together. Then drive each other crazy and then get a D! like icons? I guess I'm all smiles about this fantasy.
Woggle Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 If we won the lottery my wife and I would spend a year just driving around the country. We have actually discussed this.
Chinook Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 Nope, I'd be with him until the end, whatever that turned out to be. What's more, I'd give a share of it to his ex to make sure his kids are provided for... so that he gets more peace of mind with their well-being taken care of. The rest I'd work out with him what to do with but it would probably involve a fair few donations to charitable causes we're both fond of.
crazycatlady Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 If we won the lottery my wife and I would spend a year just driving around the country. We have actually discussed this. How funny! That's what my H and I have talked about doing if we won. Definately hitting route 66 from beginning to end where possible (actually he wants to make this his 45 birthday present if the lottery gods aren't with us). We have even a rough sketch of what we would like our house to look like. We are such dorks. CCL
Pyro Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 We have even a rough sketch of what we would like our house to look like. We are such dorks. CCL Its not lame. I have always kept a few ideas in my head on what I would want my own house to look like.....well parts of it. I've mentioned it already, but in addition to CE and I traveling the world and seeing all the sights that we have always wanted to see, we would also stop off and meet up with all our friends here on LS.
Woggle Posted July 24, 2010 Posted July 24, 2010 I would actually keep my house and maybe get a 2nd place out in California where my in laws live. I might buy the property next to us and add some additions to our current house though.
NoIDidn't Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 I would stay, if I left I'd only have $15M - less taxes and I wouldn't be able to get him to share his half!!! LOL. Seriously, I'd stay. We've already discussed this as, unfortunately, we've had several older relatives pass that did leave one of us a huge chunk of change. If we didn't leave after such generous inheritances, we will still be kicking it together and planning how to manage the $30M. We've got at least 20 years of college educations to pay for, so that money would definitely come in handy!
OliveOyl Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Well, given that I have already left, the answer is not really relevant. But I wonder if we would have a chance at working things out if I won $30M. The enormous stress of the household and taking care of a special needs child drove a huge wedge in our marriage. I wonder if we could pay for all outside/extra help, (full-time housekeeper, nanny, babysitters, counselors, etc. etc.) whether that would have been enough to keep us *together*.
lordWilhelm Posted July 30, 2010 Posted July 30, 2010 Absolutely not. We'd do things like travel that we wanted to do right now that we couldn't before because of financial constraints; we'd probably even continue doing the same things that we're doing now but feel more relaxed about it and do our things more for their intrinsic merit than for the financial incentive (I'm talking about careers now).
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