natsuiro Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 (edited) I need some advice with old "boyfriend" Many years ago I met a very nice boy on an internet forum, who lived near me. I myself was just getting over some traumatic experiences (I was raped at a party when I was 14) and the boy himself claimed to be asexual, so we hit it off in mutual understanding of our sexual dysfunctionality. We were friends for years, and never once did he bother me about my inability to keep a boyfriend for more than a week, and I about his dislike for females. Fast forward a few years, when my only friend was this guy. I told him I appreciated and loved him as a friend, and he developed this into a romance between us two. He had extreme issues with women (in his eyes, they were all disgusting shallow whores, including me): because of this animosity regarding women, I was terrified to bring our pseudo-relationship up and state that I was NOT in fact his girlfriend. I tried once or twice, but whenever I mentioned it, he'd call me a sociopath and imply I was only friends with him because I was - once again - a shallow disgusting whore. As an insecure 16 year old girl, I believed it. Basically this escalated into 3 years of him trying to control me because I was obviously his to command (note: we were never in an official relationship, I never once agreed to it) and me shaping my life and my friends around his desires, to the point I started locking myself in my house and refusing to have any social interaction with anyone because I was scared of this guy, who called me a slut and a worthless cunt whenever I talked to any other male who wasn't him - even if I simply mentioned saying 'hello' to my 15 year old neighbor. Two years ago I finally found some good friends, who told me to ditch him - I did, after 6 months of trying to ignore him under the guise of being 'sick', terrified he'd realize the truth. He's been contacting me through email for about a year now. I'm scared. He's trying to guilt trip me back into being in a relationship with him by saying he's changed, and that I should repent for my horrible behavior by being with him. I don't know what to do. He ****ed me up and guilt-tripped me and called me a crazy antisocial slutty bitch so much I don't even know if I was right to cut off all contact with him -- maybe he was right? Please help me. This man ruined my life for 7 years. Edited July 22, 2010 by natsuiro
Joe10 Posted July 27, 2010 Posted July 27, 2010 Sorry to hear this story. It's best if you ignore him. Don't read the messages. Maybe you also need to see a therapist, if you have not already, to sort out your issues and move on with your life, friends, boyfriends, and so on. Good luck.
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