Spectral Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Hi All, One of my best friends is losing her father. She went out of state to visit him for about a week. I sent her a letter of support, stating my sympathy for her, that I love her, and that I'm thinking of her and praying for her every day. She just came home tonight and she was livid that no one called her while she was away. She said that nobody cares about her and that she has nobody, and just started screaming at me. I did not call her, but she was only gone for about a week, and I did attempt to stay in touch via written word. I feel just awful. I told her I didn't do my best for her while she was away, but that I am here right now. I've called and messaged multiple times without an answer. I feel like a terrible friend, but I'm doing the best I can now. Does anybody have any advice for how I can cope with this? I'd especially like to hear from anybody who has experience helping a friend through such a tough time as this.
blueyedgrl85 Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I think you just need to have a lot of patience and understanding for your friend. She is going through so much right now that she is taking her grief out on you and her other friends. She may need someone to talk to about what she is going through, so offer to go out for coffee or do something fun to distract her from what is going on. (Depending on her personality.) Be prepared if she isn't ready to talk or if she lashes out at you. (It's nothing personal and when she is able to process everything, she'll thank you for being there.) If it gets to the point where you are uncomfortable, then it is best to help from a distance. Send her a card or something to know that you are thinking of her during this tough time. I think you're being a very caring and thoughtful friend. I've been in your friend's position and it's good to know that someone is there for you during an extremely difficult and emotional time. All the best!
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