GorillaTheater Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Bluz, it's been what? Almost a year since you broke up? This guy is getting WAY too much rent-free space in your head. What do you care what he's doing? He's not your problem any more, and hasn't been for some time. It's time to move on, and it honestly sounds like you haven't. Get busy living life and kick this guy out of your head once and for all. Bit by bit if necessary, but get him out.
Author bluz73 Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Bluz, it's been what? Almost a year since you broke up? This guy is getting WAY too much rent-free space in your head. What do you care what he's doing? He's not your problem any more, and hasn't been for some time. It's time to move on, and it honestly sounds like you haven't. Get busy living life and kick this guy out of your head once and for all. Bit by bit if necessary, but get him out. Thank you I needed that wake up comment..you are right he dont deserve to run thru my mind freely. he isnt my problem, I guess its not that I want him back, I was hoping for his new thing to end so he can sit and realize what a dumb fool he has been and maybe contact me so I can gove him the cold shoulder he gave me when I needed him the most. Looks like its not going to happen. I just wish something good would happen with mylife to push the thoughts of this breakup completely out of my life. I have to move out of this town away from all these hauntting memories. thanks Gorilla
GorillaTheater Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Yeah, I understand the "I wish he would contact me so I can reject HIM" thing. Perfectly natural. But don't sit around waiting for good things to happen in your life. Get busy and make them happen.
Author bluz73 Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Yeah, I understand the "I wish he would contact me so I can reject HIM" thing. Perfectly natural. But don't sit around waiting for good things to happen in your life. Get busy and make them happen. i am trying honey thank you, i wish LS had a "like" button lol like facebook
jlr Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 Like I said, this isn't something men do. It's something confused people do. Men and women. And I'd think it was sorta weird for him to be hanging around teenagers too. I mean, sure it's his choice now, but you have every right to feel how you feel about it. Especially, if you have teenagers yourself. We've all been there. We've all seen our exes change and do things they wouldn't normally have done, or at least not with us. It can stir up emotions in us, and that's normal. I don't think it's "judging," if you've spent alot of time with that person. You know them. Or, thought you did. So it's perfectly understandable that you'd analyze his new behavior. But not forever... I think Denver Bachelor was trying to say this, but it came off harsh (which I get the tough love angle though), this dude isn't your problem anymore. If anything, look at this way, you dodged a bullet. I mean, he obviously is immature and relates to teenagers. He was never going to be a mature dude who wanted to be a father figure. There is someone out there who'd love to be a part of your life and your family. This dude WAS not that guy. You can do better. Let him have his teenagers. One day, he'll realize it's time to grow up, and realize he's the creepy old dude who hangs with kids. We all know one of those, and it's embarrassing to watch. **** him. Someone better awaits you.
Author bluz73 Posted July 24, 2010 Author Posted July 24, 2010 Like I said, this isn't something men do. It's something confused people do. Men and women. And I'd think it was sorta weird for him to be hanging around teenagers too. I mean, sure it's his choice now, but you have every right to feel how you feel about it. Especially, if you have teenagers yourself. We've all been there. We've all seen our exes change and do things they wouldn't normally have done, or at least not with us. It can stir up emotions in us, and that's normal. I don't think it's "judging," if you've spent alot of time with that person. You know them. Or, thought you did. So it's perfectly understandable that you'd analyze his new behavior. But not forever... I think Denver Bachelor was trying to say this, but it came off harsh (which I get the tough love angle though), this dude isn't your problem anymore. If anything, look at this way, you dodged a bullet. I mean, he obviously is immature and relates to teenagers. He was never going to be a mature dude who wanted to be a father figure. There is someone out there who'd love to be a part of your life and your family. This dude WAS not that guy. You can do better. Let him have his teenagers. One day, he'll realize it's time to grow up, and realize he's the creepy old dude who hangs with kids. We all know one of those, and it's embarrassing to watch. **** him. Someone better awaits you. Thank you so much for understanding what i am saying. We were together a long time. I thought I knew him, He seemed mature then, had friends our age. Had standards and dreams. I know its not my problem anymore, I think its the creeper factor that he may been looking at my daughter like that and I had no idea. So I keep racking my brain trying to remember any signs of this. He now lives in a bad part of town and drinks and does drugs with teenagers and i am so embarrassed and ashamed. I hope someday he realizes how foolish he looks. This girl he is with is really as desparate as him to want someone like him. But I am moving an hour away in august cause I cant take the grapevine stories anymore. I am starting over and doing me for a change
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