I'm Batman Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 There's been many discussions on who should pay for a meal, is there some kind of rule when it comes to family? I've been invited to dinner by my gf to meet her sister and her friend (her bf couldn't make it). I don't mind paying for my gf, since she's been paying multiple more times than me for meals. But should i even offer to pay for the entire dinner? Would i look foolish just paying for me and my gf? Would i look cheap if I just paid for my meal? Thanks in advance LS!
cabarc1 Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 You wouldn't look cheap at all paying for just you and your gf! Of course it would be very generous of you to pay for everyone, but it's definitely not expected. I could see guys doing it the first time they meet family members but not every time.
Green Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 How old are you. If you are young and not well off really I think that her family should pay for you. Most likely you shouldn't make a big deal about the check and I bet when the bill comes they will just hand it to her family and they will pay it. If you make good money and you are in your 30's or older then go ahead and offer to pay... i think they will probably just pay. If you do end up paying for the entire family then just deduct that ammount you spent from your budget on things you can spend money on with your gf lol. Personaly you are worrying about this for nothing in my opinion as if you keep quiet they will most likely just pay for you. Especialy if they were the ones who invited you out for dinner they should pay. Thats the rule with who pays really.
kalikula Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Well since you're just meeting with her sister and her friend, I think it would be fine to just pay your half or your half and your gf's.
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 There's been many discussions on who should pay for a meal, is there some kind of rule when it comes to family? I've been invited to dinner by my gf to meet her sister and her friend (her bf couldn't make it). I don't mind paying for my gf, since she's been paying multiple more times than me for meals. But should i even offer to pay for the entire dinner? Would i look foolish just paying for me and my gf? Would i look cheap if I just paid for my meal? Thanks in advance LS! If she has been paying more than her fair share.... you should offer to cover her and her sister both. It's the right thing to do, because you owe her and it's her sister.
2sure Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Be nice and let your GF show off what a gentleman you are. Pick it up for everyone. Like you said - she has been paying for you more often anyway, consider this paying her back all at once.
threebyfate Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Why not pick up the entire tab and when they offer just say "I'll get it this time and you ladies can pay next time". This way you look good and it's set up for next time.
Pink Cupcakes Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Dude, don't let her continue paying for meals.
shlee Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 There's been many discussions on who should pay for a meal, is there some kind of rule when it comes to family? I've been invited to dinner by my gf to meet her sister and her friend (her bf couldn't make it). I don't mind paying for my gf, since she's been paying multiple more times than me for meals. But should i even offer to pay for the entire dinner? Would i look foolish just paying for me and my gf? Would i look cheap if I just paid for my meal? Thanks in advance LS! You pay for you and your gf and split the bill with whomever else is paying, same as any other social dinner where you want to pay for one of the parties.
Author I'm Batman Posted July 21, 2010 Author Posted July 21, 2010 How old are you. If you are young and not well off really I think that her family should pay for you. Most likely you shouldn't make a big deal about the check and I bet when the bill comes they will just hand it to her family and they will pay it. If you make good money and you are in your 30's or older then go ahead and offer to pay... i think they will probably just pay. If you do end up paying for the entire family then just deduct that ammount you spent from your budget on things you can spend money on with your gf lol. Personaly you are worrying about this for nothing in my opinion as if you keep quiet they will most likely just pay for you. Especialy if they were the ones who invited you out for dinner they should pay. Thats the rule with who pays really. lol, i might be blowing things a little out of proportion. I'm 28 and have a decent salary does that count? Dude' date=' don't let her continue paying for meals.[/quote'] Why do you say this? She earns more than me, but I don't see her differently as an individual. I pay for many of our activities together, and once in a while I'll pick up a meal tab. Is there something wrong with this? In the end, i think i spend more than her, lol. You pay for you and your gf and split the bill with whomever else is paying, same as any other social dinner where you want to pay for one of the parties. I like your thinking. Thanks to all!
that girl Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 I think you should probably pay the whole thing. This is slightly different, but I know of two guys in your age range who when meeting their girlfriend's family did not offer to pay and instead let the parents pick up the tab. Both times it made a spectacularly bad impression. A sister is a little different, but I still lean towards paying since this is the first time you've met her. It is sexist, but if a woman doesn't pay on a meet the family outing no one is likely to notice. If the guy doesn't pay, he often looks cheap.
Green Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Do what ever you feel like doing. I think I would only pay for my gf. Plus if you are in a seriouse relationship and your gf makes around the same amount of money as you then she should have to pay for half the meals or what ever. If she makes a good amount less then have her pay for meals that you think she should in her budget.
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