Silvermantis19 Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Will I ever get closure? My girlfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me back in March. She and I we're always close but we had a some-what rough start to 2010, school and work caused alot of stress and we had a small argument over Valentine's day, but I apologized for anything wrong I said or did. We said "I love you" every day and talked on the phone everyday. Then she began to get distant and cold. I had to confide in her that I wasn't going to the same university she was this past spring semester because I couldn't afford it, but I did not tell her until february because I was ashamed and scared she would get upset, she did. She broke up with me March 12th, and never told me why other than "your tone of voice on the phone". I loved her and always told her how special she was to me. We had so many great times, how could she leave me!? Will I ever get closure?
TaraMaiden Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 No. And her excuse is paltry. I think I can be reasonably convinced that she was busy with another guy. Closure is only something you can do for yourself. And without her. Closure will never come from her, because it wouldn't be honest, frank and forthright. it will only be what she feels like telling you, and wants you to hear. Not what she should be telling you and what you need to hear. Give yourself the closure you crave. Drop it, let it go, look forward to your new semester and meeting new friends. Because looking back and wishing, just keeps you stuck in the mud.
BigProc Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 I feel for you, I split up with my ex 2 month ago and im in bits at the moment. I assume you have told her how you feel? Does she still feel the same and has she given you any indication you might get back together? Its been 4 months since you split and it sounds a little bit like me you have been contacting eachother quite a lot. If there no chance ou getting back together you need to start nc immediatly for the healing process to take place. No txts,calls,facebook etc. I also made the mistake of getting information about her off a mutual friend, that is suicide i can tell u. U sound young and you have got your whole life to live. It sounds old advice but you need to go out with friends and family,through yourself into hobbies and never sit at home dwelling on the good times that is mental torture. The thoughts of your ex will over time become less painful. Im trying to do the exactly the same thing and its hard. But I have been in the situation before and I know there is light at the end of the tunnel. good luck my friend.
Author Silvermantis19 Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Thanks for the replies. To be honest it, it's been hard and so scary at times. To do all this alone, working full-time to pay for school, and getting set up for school all alone. It's difficult, she always kept me centered, but I have to keep going even if I never get that closure. Now like I can lay down and die. She said she'd always love me, and even wanted to marry me one day.
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