Not strong enough Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Ok, i dont know whos been following my whole situation. It's very long, and im sure you can look at my past posts. Pretty much I want to contact her, been about 6-7 weeks since i last said anything to her, and only a few days since her friend said the not so pleasing thing having to deal with some of my belongings. My question is, what her friend said had to come from her, and as of now i've yet to say anything about it. But from the advice ive gotten from others, one being an ex, that i had a great ploutonic relationship with. It means shes jelous, either about a new girl ive been seeing or something else. Even though her past comment to me and her family that she hopes that I would find someone to make me happy, after I broke things off with her, with the whole cheating situation.... I tried to contact her a few weeks after and she basically said, that she didnt hate be but couldnt deal with talking to me, so i left it alone, now for many weeks. In hopes that months down the line, the problem could be resolved after she got to be herself, got to experience life without me, and maybe start to miss me some after her emotional wall came down. I did find out recently that despite the fact that she was talking to him, this came straight out of his mouth, and I heard it from a third party, that she never would cheat on me, and that he was trying to get her too.... that made me feel really bad because my insecurity lead to me breaking it off with someone that i truely do love. I just dont know, if that message in some way ment, i miss you, and i wish you would try to talk to me now, and I dont have the nerve to do it anyway else, because i think if she was trying to truly hurt me she would have said it herself rather than though a third party, or if it was, im jelous and pissed off that you have someone new even though i do. Or if it means something completely different. I want to contact her, but by doing so i dont want to give her an ego boost, and make it easier to move on if thats what shes trying to do. Or hurt my chances of doing it by making it easier for her to move on, but i dont want to miss my window if this was her cue to please come talk to me, and by giving her the cold shoulder push her away more like, ive got a new life done with you, thanks for the 2 years of love, but ur old news. So, do i leave it alone for now and wait, i planned on doing it for a week or so to see if she would say something else. Or do I say something to her like, look I dont know what the whole situation with what your friend said is about but if you want to talk to me you know you can, and see where that goes, or do i attempt to get her to meet with me in person, and try tear down the wall she had and get her to truly talk to me, make my case and let her make hers. I want real advise, not NC NC NC, its the best, because no contacts not going to help me here, its gotten no easier, infact besides the first day i broke up with her which hurt me really badly, its gotten worse and worse, probably because i dont want to let go, even though i try my mind just wont let me. I've been able to pull it together with help from friends to hold back my pain, hold back my feelings, and it really takes ever ounce of strength i have. I need adivise on how to play my cards right to get her back when the time is right. So please guys help me out here.
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