Spectral Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 I've been friends with a man for 3 years now. He knows that I am attracted to him, and, he has said that he is attracted to me, as well. However, things aren't going anywhere. I sent him this message last week. "On a side note. ****, you've seemed really happy lately, it's given me a case of the smiles- so, keep doing whatever you're doing. I love you, and it's really good to hear you laughing." He never responded to my email. But the next time I saw him, he seemed happy and engaged with me. However, he still hasn't responded to my email. I sent him a second one after I saw him, and he seemed happy (1 week after the first). The second one said I meant every word of it But he hasn't responded to this either. I wouldn't really know how to best respond to either of these emails myself. And, perhaps no response really is the best response. But it's confusing. Do you think these are appropriate emails to send to a friend that you share some attraction with (minus the romantic relationship)? Do you think it is appropriate to not respond to these emails? He is still engaged with me, but we have yet to discuss our status. Do you think I should just chill? How would you respond if you received my emails????
tantus Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 he likes you, but he is taking the time to think if he is ready to date you. He enjoys being around you but needs the time to think if he is ready for the next step. Continue to take things slow, b/c if you some how push him he may go the othe way and just want to stay friends and not date.
DimensionZero Posted July 23, 2010 Posted July 23, 2010 he likes you, but he is taking the time to think if he is ready to date you. He enjoys being around you but needs the time to think if he is ready for the next step. Continue to take things slow, b/c if you some how push him he may go the othe way and just want to stay friends and not date. Yeah i would do this. OP: I would hold off. Chances are he might not really respond to e-mail. Does he respond about other stuff online? Does he seem interested in anyone else or talk to other girls? Wait a month i would bring it up again in a conversation in person when you are alone with him. But i wouldn't push it or really even say too much just ask him "so have you thought about 'us'?" If he doesn't sound positive i would change the subject immediately.
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