katie xo Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 I'm having such a hard time getting over him even though it's been over 2 months since we ended our 13 month relationship. Here's our story: We met unexpectedly during the summer and we were instantly crazy about each other. We had everything in common and never ran out of things to talk about! At the time i was 16 yrs old and had never had a serious relationship. After about a week, he started pushing handjobs and continually tried to get up my shirt. Due to my lack of experience, i was very ambiguous about my comfort zone and kept asking him to stop but eventually gave in. I assumed that by doing so, it would allow our relationship to grow. Because it was a "summer romance," we went back to our respective towns at the end of the summer with the agreement of just being friends. That soon failed and he came up to visit me a month later. By that time, I had really fallen in love with him. It was an incredible weekend with my only complaint being: he came into the trip determined to get a blow job. I refused. When he came back to my house in january, the pressure was on. He would NOT stop begging me for the bj until i finally gave in. I, once again, thought it would make us grow stronger as a couple. Instead, the act seemed almost thankless. After that, all "good" conversations in his mind were sexual. He went as far as begging me to take off my shirt over skype and became angry when i didnt. I was torn. He was my best friend; the only person i could call about anything and feel comfortable doing so. But i didnt like the person i was becoming. Sex and blow jobs were just not what i had in mind, which seems far-fetched in today's soceity but i really thought he'd respect that. When i went to his house, every time we were alone he'd try for another blow job. After being forced to do 2 in 14 hrs, i declined the third. He became upset with me. I gave him one more before leaving. I wasnt too happy about myself. Our conversations now revolved around our plans to have sex over the summer. Inside, i knew i wasnt ready. however, i didnt want to lose him either. I went along with it for awhile before suggesting not going any further and cooling it down with the blow jobs. That blew up into a fight. a HUGE fight. Out of anger, i broke up with him. Even though i loved him (reallllly loved him), something in me just cracked. I half expected him to beg to get back together in a week. It never happened. I saw him for the first time a week ago. He seemed very bitter. I feel like he never even loved me, he just kept putting on a show to get what he really wanted (sex and bjs). Even so, I cant get over him. all i do is think of him and miss our relationship. I think the thing that is haunting me most is whether or not i did the right thing by breaking up. Half of me keeps saying that I shouldve had sex and done the bj deal and enjoyed my summer with him ( because ive always liked him as a person). The other half thinks that I wouldve regretted it and that if he really loved me he wouldve listened when i said no. What do u think? p.s. thank u so much for reading this whole thing!
cookiecrumbles Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 get out of there while you still can he doesnt sound like he loved you he just wanted sex, noone would treat someone like that if they loved them, he just loved sex! you dont wanna be with someone like that especially at your age. Dont let someone change you into something your not. Someone should love you for who you are, remember that.
Author katie xo Posted July 21, 2010 Author Posted July 21, 2010 Thank you soo much that made me feel wayyy betttter ! Do u think that most teenage/college guys expect bjs and sex in a serious relationship? I'm beginning to feel like that..
ResetReality Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 (edited) stories like this REALLY piss me offf i'll tell you why I NEVER EVER pressured my EX to do anything sexual, i let her take charge of all that, she was naive to it all and i wanted her to feel comfy in doing it, i waited a whole year before we started sexual things, and even then, i kept asking if she was ok with it i contained it, for her, i wanted her to know that i was interested in her and her only, sexual things can happen whenever i would of rather sat in the park cuddling and talking about random things then jump into bed and what happens i get dumped and she hasnt looked back maybe i should of forced her into everything and treated her like crap that seems to work alot better then treating girls like princesses! you don't love him! this guy is a scum bag Edited July 21, 2010 by ResetReality
Author katie xo Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 aww im really sorryy just so you know, a lot of girls would kill for a guy with that much respect for them. Even so, I know how hard it is to move forward when u saw so much in a person.
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