NIN Posted February 8, 2004 Posted February 8, 2004 Okay, I'm not sure what I should do about this girl, and I was hoping somebody would give me some advice. Here's what happened. This girl and I used to work together until our job closed. She asked for my number though so we could keep in contact, and I got hers too. Since then, we went to a bar and a movie together, and the other night I went by her place to watch a movie with her and her roommates. After her roommates went to sleep, the two of us just hung out and talked until like 3:00 in the morning. Now I asumed that she liked me since she asked for my number, kept going out with me, and had me over at her place really late. So as I was leaving I went to kiss her, but I think she thought I was just trying to give her a hug, so she turned her head and hugged me. So I decided to try again, and she turned her head the other way, obviously avoiding me this time, and I ended up kissing her cheek. So I just said "bye" and left. Then the next day (yesturday) I called her and left a message asking her to go with me to watch my friends band play downtown. She hasn't returned my call yet, so I asume she must not like me. So what I'm wondering is if I should just forget about her, or try talking to her. I really like her, but I'm not sure if there is any point in calling her again because of what happened. So if anyone has any advice, please let me know.
DerangedAngel Posted February 8, 2004 Posted February 8, 2004 So what I get from your post is that she didn't want to kiss you yet. You've been on what, like 3 dates or so? I once dated a guy for 10 months before kissing him. But that was bad. Still, in your situation, I don't think that's a big deal. Also... you called her yesterday, and she hasn't returned your call yet. Can people not be busy these days? I really like her, but I'm not sure if there is any point in calling her again because of what happened. So if anyone has any advice, please let me know. If you don't hear from her in a week or so, maybe call her up and invite her to do something else. If she says no, or you get her machine/voice mail, the ball is in her court, so let it stay there. -Deranged
Author NIN Posted February 9, 2004 Author Posted February 9, 2004 Thanks for the advice. I know she could have just been really busy, but you would think she would have 10 minutes free to call me to let me know if she wanted to go see my friend's band with me or not. So I was assuming she is avoiding me. But you're right, it's possible she hasn't called me back yet for some other reason. The other thing is that we're both in our early twenties, so I think three dates would be enough to kiss her. I mean, if she likes me, why wouldn't she be ready to kiss me yet? Anyway, when I talk to her again, do you think I should bring up the other night, or should I just act like nothing happened? And should I tell her how I feel, or ask her how she feels about me? Thanks again for the advice so far. It definately gave me a more positive outlook on the situation.
monkey00 Posted February 9, 2004 Posted February 9, 2004 buddy you're rushing things!! and when u rush u know what that means, i want quick n easy sex! she probably gets that from you, plus you stuck around 3am talkin for how long? even if you werent exhausted she was. the mystery and challenge in the dating game got easy for her....she knows she's got you on her fishing line. the more you want something, the more she wont give it to you...keep on reelin that line! next time u go over, dont overdo your stay...say you're busy and you got something to do or you gotta head back home to finish something... plus get a life! she may feel you dont have a life if you make it as if you revolve around her.
Author NIN Posted February 9, 2004 Author Posted February 9, 2004 Okay, I guess I may be rushing things. But sex hasn't even crossed my mind yet, I just really like this girl. But I get what you're saying, that I should act less interested. I just hate playing games like that. You see, my last girlfriend and I were together for 6 years. So I'm not used to the whole dating thing any more. That's probably most of my problem. I guess you're right though. Thanks for the advice.
Author NIN Posted February 11, 2004 Author Posted February 11, 2004 Okay, listen to this. I called her to say I didn't mean to make her uncomfortable the other night, and that I still want to be friends, but her cell phone number is disconnected. Now I know it’s not just a coincidence that she happened to change her number right after that incident happened between us. But isn't that kind of messed up that she would change it just to avoid me because of such a little thing? I mean that's obviously what she's doing, right? It just seems too extreme to comprehend, like she's treating me like I'm a stalker or something. If that's not the reason it’s disconnected though, I could try her on her home line, but one of her room mates might answer, and I can't really leave my message with them. Now I really don't know what to do. I just don't want to leave the situation all weird like this. Please, I need some suggestions on how to handle this.
nicolas465 Posted February 12, 2004 Posted February 12, 2004 hey man, maybe she's uncomfortable anyways... ppl are all different, in my opinion the best thing to do is leave her alone, you dont' want to keep persuing her unless you want the 'stalker' title, no matter how good your intentions aer, if a person is trying to avoid you and you keep pursuing them you'll be called a stalker.. so just let her come to you. I know you like her, but sometiems u gotta just let it be u know?
Recommended Posts