justaguy123 Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I just found out today that my ex might be sick and has been in and out of the hospital. I was just wondering if I should contact her to make sure she is ok. She is prone to getting sick easily and I surprised myself today by actually being worried about her. I hate her guts but I dont want her to be in trouble. I know me not contacting her will not hurt her in anyway, she has her family and new boyfriend to worry about her and she doesnt need me to worry to. Hell I wish I didnt. I think I shouldnt do it if I think I am just doing it as an excuse to talk to her, and I think that might be part of why I want to but Im also worried. Writing this down now make me think that I shouldnt contact her. She has her life and I have mine. They are separate and should remain so. Im just worried thats all, you cant spend that much time with someone and not care about them. Well I guess I answered my own question, but any comments would be appreciated.
USMCHokie Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Writing this down now make me think that I shouldnt contact her. She has her life and I have mine. They are seprate and should remain so. Im just worried thats all, you cant spend that much time with someone and not care about them. You did answer your own question. If she had wanted your sympathies and well wishes, she would have told you about her condition. I know it's hard, if not impossible, to see someone you used to love in a bad way and not do anything about it. It's easy for me to tell you as a third party that you need to maintain NC, but I know it'd be hard for me to be in your position. Don't break NC.
ResetReality Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 leave it be mate, shes got her new life, and you've got yours, if she wanted to let you know should would of, and she still can, she knows where you are, a simple text would do the trick, if she hasnt told you about it you have to ask yourself why? leave it be, say a prayer for her and carry on
Username37 Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 She kicked you out of her life. Don't bother. Stick with NC
DenverBachelor Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Writing this down now make me think that I shouldnt contact her. She has her life and I have mine. They are separate and should remain so. Im just worried thats all, you cant spend that much time with someone and not care about them. Well I guess I answered my own question, but any comments would be appreciated. If she's dieing, send her flowers anonymously with a get well card. You stay NC and take the high road all at the same time. Life's too short. If she's terminally ill, you bet your bottom dollar I'll send ANY of my ex's flowers and a card. It's the human thing to do.
Thorgs Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 She has her friends, family, and new boyfriend. If you hate her guts then you answered your own question.
Author justaguy123 Posted July 21, 2010 Author Posted July 21, 2010 Yup you guys are right. Heck Im probably over anylizing it anyway. I asked a mutual friend if she heard anything about it and she said she didnt so Im guessing it was nothing serious. Anyway thanks for the comments. Best of luck to all of you.
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