SemperParatus Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 If you read my previous posts you will seethat my ex and I had begun talking and hanging out and she was sending all of these mixed signals. I thought she wanted to get back together. But it turns out she doesn't. She just wanted me in her life. Saturda morning we were texting and even though she was replying she didn't seem to be too into out conversation. Well, we ended up getting into it after I told her how I felt (still loved her) and somehow (even though she is block on Facebok) she knew I was kind of dating someone else. And then she threw it up in my face that she is kind of seeing someone or whatever. I don't know. It had really hurt and I put her on my block list. Almost midnight Sunday I got a blocked call. I didn't answer... I was in bed. But. Monday I checked my blocked logs and had two texts from the ex both just saying "heyy". I ignored them and carried on with my day. Today. I am really questioning whether or not I should talk to her. I KNOW I shouldn't. I am just at that stage where I miss her and think about her, but I don't cry and it is not stopping me from doing anythng fun in my lfe. Please help. My ex isn't used to me ignoring her... I never really do. =[ I just know I need to keep this up. But I also want to break NC SOOOOO bad.
Wrenne Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 you should be honest with her. if you still love her and want her in your life as a girlfriend, tell her that and let her make up her mind. you shouldn't settle for less. if you think you guys have a chance of working things out, don't ignore her attempts to reach out. but if she is just contacting you for attention and to string you along, then you need to set some boundaries.
BigProc Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Your situation is very similar to mine, in which I have recently put a post up about. We both split up a couple of months ago, but remained in contact and met up a few timesfor sex, BIG MISTAKE. I still love her to pieces, but about 3 week ago I suspected she was seeing some1 else as the txts and her intersestdied off. So i also went out and met some1 on the rebound. To cut a long story short it turned out to be true she had gone back to her ex. I maintained a nc for about 5 days and then she contacted me last thusday night after she had, had a couple of drinks. She was saying how much she missed me and we should meet up etc. We both admitted we had slept with other people. However next ady she didnt want to know and was once again ignoring my txts and carried on seeing her ex (We have a mutual friend who gives me all information AGAIN NOT GOOD). She knows I love her to bits and Im back to square 1 again goin through hell, but im guna try and stay strong. What Im trying to say is make it clear ONCE AND ONLY ONCE if you have not done it already that ypu love her and wana get back with her then start the serious nc. No txts, emails, facebook or asking people about her. If you chase her she will love it as I found out and she will play on your feelings for her own ego. She kn ows where you are if she wants you she will let you no. Absence makes the heart go stronger and all that and if she doesnt you willmove on and be a better person for it. I suppose i should listen to my own advice but it is easier to comment on other peoples situation Good luck
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