terminalmoraine Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Need some advice... My 21 year old ex dumped me out of the blue in May and it has been 100% no contact from both sides (possibly) up until now 2.5months He said he would text me to see how I was when we last spoke in his car (when he dumped me) and that we could be friends but I never heard from him. I deleted him off facebook after a month. So the other night I got a text just after midinght from an unknown number. It said: "Hey, do you remember who I am?, Just realised I still had this number on my phone haha Xx" (To me it sounds like its written by a male and the kisses at the end and use of haha are odd) I know its not his number but I never give out my number and save anyone who texts me. I was with him for nine months. I dont see why someone would text after a year of meeting me and ask if I know who they are. I seem to keep thinking its him. I wonder if my boyfriend was on a night out and since hes not heard from me since the breakup thought it would be funny when he was drunk to send this message from a friends mobile to just see if I would reply. So he doesnt need to speak to me with me knowing that its him. I never replied to the text dont want to ruin my no contact but how likely do you think it was him? Cheers for all replies
Author terminalmoraine Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 If it was just a general text I would say yeah wrong number. But the actual question "do you remeber who I am?" either the person whats to find out if I've forgotten them and wants me to guess. Would you text it back just to get some peace of mind?
lunita Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Honestly no. It's kind of a cowardly way to go about it don't you think? Don't you deserve better?
Author terminalmoraine Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 Yeah deep down I know I deserve better , just have a gut feeling it was him and am intrigued but they do say curiosity killed the cat haha. So maybe its best to leave be.
A Hot Mess Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Either way (if it was your ex or a wrong number), I think the result is the same.. you don't reply. If it was actually some long-lost person trying to get ahold of you, wouldn't they sign their name at the end or something? I'd say put it out of your mind. You gain nothing by thinking about it any further.
Author terminalmoraine Posted July 21, 2010 Author Posted July 21, 2010 Yeah exactly the way its worded just seems too thought out. I know why ask someone to name you it doesn't have good intentions behind it. Well I have deleted the text and if it is someone important they can call.
Kamille Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 I understand the compulsion to want to believe it was him. I think you want to feel like you were special enough for him to think about you from time to time. I feel, though, that for your sake it's best to assume it was a meaningless wrong number. Besides, why would a man you've dated for months wonder if you remember who he was? And why would he text from an unknown number? There are as many arguments in favor of the wrong number as you seem to think there are to indicate it was him. The bottom line is, you're looking for meaning where no meaning can be ascribed. ps: Some stranger sent me random texts messages for months thinking I was some girl he had met in a bar, this, in spite of the fact I told him he had been given a wrong number and proceeded to ignore his texts.
Author terminalmoraine Posted July 21, 2010 Author Posted July 21, 2010 Yeah I understand where your coming from . If it had been someone important they would have called or text again to at least say they are. Probably was a wrong number.
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