WildWildWest Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I have always been the shy and timid when it comes to sex.. I guess because my last partners had been the aggressive ones and always iniate everthing... well the new guy I am with always has to be the one to iniate everything all the time and I think it makes him feel like I'm really not into him... I want to change all that.. but its gonna be hard for me to do... usually when i go over his house to spend time with him I just sit next to him on the couch and talk for a bit.. not makin any moves or even sitting close.. he is the one who always has to make the first move.. well this time i wanna spice it up a bit, but idk how to go about it.. I have the idea that instead of coming over and sitting next to him on the couch and talkin I wanna come in the door.. sit on his lap and just start kissing him.. not even say hello... then i wanna tell him that i want him now and me be the one to lead him to the bedroom instead of him... and then after that.. i dont know what to do I want to show him that I really am into him... and make it more interesting where hes not the one doing all the work.. so what i need are some ideas... should i undress him and push him on the bed? HEEEELP!!!!!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Awwwwwwwwwwwww, this is so sweet, and you are so sincere. All you have to figure out, clearly, is that the mere VIBE of YOU asserting yourself and making it clear just what YOU WANT... is going to be enough to WOW! him. You won't need special perfume, you won't need special make-up, you won't need special clothing... just be yourself. If it were the middle of winter you could show up in an overcoat with nothing on beneath it... During summer maybe you can go with a halter top and nothing on under that... and just knock on his door, and when he answers, reach for his hand and bring it to your stomach, and then look him in the eyes as you guide it UP and underneath... You really need to pay attention to my words here: IT will be any obvious signs of BOLDNESS and DARING you exhibit that will turn him on to no end!!! Because women are always 'expected' to be the passive ones, when they get bold and confident, guys are extra turned-on. It hardly matters what you do, especially since you have for so long lulled him to social sleep with your passive ways... once you turn over this new leaf he will be EXCITED!!! You really can't/won't go wrong with your newfound efforts. Good luck! (it should be fun for you to just monitor how quickly he warms to your efforts)
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Oh, and let me address some of your additional concerns: What will matter MOST is just that very first (sexual excitement) for your having done something so bold... you'll quickly start kissing, and he'll probably guide/help you soon after that. BUT I want you to figure out just HOW exciting your BOLDNESS IS... and then, as things go further, realize that you can still show even greater, never-before-seen boldness and SURPRISE him so much more! Like maybe, talking DIRTY... and making it clear how much you want his c**k in your p***y... just resolve to CHANGE YOURSELF for his eyes, ears, and body only. You need not be any different outside in the world, but when you're together and alone, keep experimenting with how well received your bolder sexual self really is.
denise_xo Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Hi WWW, Imagine for a moment that you were not shy at all and could do anything you wanted with this man - what would that list look like?? A bit like SOL is saying, if you tune in to your own vibe, what is it YOU want to do with him, if you weren't feeling inhibited? Throw him on the floor and get on top of him? Sit across him on the couch and start kissing his neck and slowly working your way down? Wake him up in the morning with a special treatment? Just answer that first question (if he really turns you on, I'm sure you can answer it), and then just relax, be yourself and go for it. As long as you're enjoying it, he's probably going to love it and the risk of failure is pretty low.
Author WildWildWest Posted July 21, 2010 Author Posted July 21, 2010 Such great advice! Finally found someone who understands where I am coming from and can actually help me out.. I kno I probably sound like I am a teenager lookin for advice cuz I dont kno what Im doing, but that is hardly the case.. I am in my late 20's.. just never been aggressive when it comes to sex.. However I have always wanted to.. I have so many ideas in my head of things I would like to do with this guy but I always chicken out.. i guess because I fear I will look stupid or he wont like what I'm doing.. which really doesnt make sense since we been seeing each other for almost a year... He hasnt told me that I need to be more aggressive but he has asked me in the past if I enjoyed myself cuz it didnt seem like I was into it... plus it makes things kinda awkward cuz he really isnt a really aggressive person either... I just wanna surprise the hell out of him... let him kno he does turn me on, that im into him and i do want him... i just need to get over the shyness.. I am supposed to be seeing him this evening.. and I am already nervous... I guess I worry bout it so much cuz I really like him.. but I'm guessing I am going to go for my original idea and just come in the door... Im sure he will be sittin on the couch.. not even say hello.. just straddle him and start kissing him... then whisper in his ear that i want him now... and me be the one to lead him to the bedroom... then maybe once in there I be the one to partially undress him and myself.. since he is always the one who has to do that.. haha... he will prob be confused and dont know whats going on... i just wanna get opinions from guys and see if that is something that would turn them on.. and maybe some idea's of things to do after that... U have been a great help... i hope I can go thru with my idea's :/
denise_xo Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Such great advice! Finally found someone who understands where I am coming from and can actually help me out.. I kno I probably sound like I am a teenager lookin for advice cuz I dont kno what Im doing, but that is hardly the case.. I am in my late 20's.. just never been aggressive when it comes to sex.. However I have always wanted to.. I have so many ideas in my head of things I would like to do with this guy but I always chicken out.. i guess because I fear I will look stupid or he wont like what I'm doing.. which really doesnt make sense since we been seeing each other for almost a year... He hasnt told me that I need to be more aggressive but he has asked me in the past if I enjoyed myself cuz it didnt seem like I was into it... plus it makes things kinda awkward cuz he really isnt a really aggressive person either... I just wanna surprise the hell out of him... let him kno he does turn me on, that im into him and i do want him... i just need to get over the shyness.. I am supposed to be seeing him this evening.. and I am already nervous... I guess I worry bout it so much cuz I really like him.. but I'm guessing I am going to go for my original idea and just come in the door... Im sure he will be sittin on the couch.. not even say hello.. just straddle him and start kissing him... then whisper in his ear that i want him now... and me be the one to lead him to the bedroom... then maybe once in there I be the one to partially undress him and myself.. since he is always the one who has to do that.. haha... he will prob be confused and dont know whats going on... i just wanna get opinions from guys and see if that is something that would turn them on.. and maybe some idea's of things to do after that... U have been a great help... i hope I can go thru with my idea's :/ So enjoy tonight then go down on him after that and it should be a right hit. No need to be nervous, don't see any reason why this wouldn't fly... Since he's your boyfriend, he probably really likes you, and wants you!
Author WildWildWest Posted July 21, 2010 Author Posted July 21, 2010 yeah I am going to try my best to not be as nervous and go with the flow.. I dont see why he wouldnt be into it... even tho technically we arent labeled as BF and GF... since I just got out of a terrible marriage and he has been burned soooo many times before me we decided we dont want anything to serious... but yet we dont see other ppl and act as if we are BF and GF, just dont label it.. doesnt make much sense.. but yeah.. lol... I kno he's into me and wants me..I guess its just the fact I never had to be the aggressor before... I hope all goes well... who knows I might actually like being the aggressive one.. haha
e.clipse Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 hi www. just drink a lot of whiskey prior to going over to his house, and the rest will come naturally. trust me.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 A bit like SOL is saying LOL @ "SOL" And to the original poster... don't get the feeling that you will need to choreograph all sorts of grand steps to make your new efforts work. The mere fact that you are on OFFENSE at all (think of a football game that way) will BE SO UNIQUE... that it can't hardly help but surprise/excite him a great deal.
SassyKitten Posted July 25, 2010 Posted July 25, 2010 Easy solution, when you're watching tv, jump in his lap, kiss him, start to undress him, and let everything go from there....
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