chriss Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 My boyfriend (21 years old) broke up with me almost 5 months ago. We're both graduating college next year and we go to the same university. We have been NC for a little over a month. I miss him so much and i want to know how he's doing and all that but Im not planning on contacting him. Ive been so depressed lately. I know hes been talking with this girl who just graduated high school whom he met about a month ago. Im assuming she's around 18 or 19? I dont know what is going on between them. I know i shouldnt care but I do. Im soo affected by it. Last night was tough as i saw something that could mean that they could be together. Again another assumption but its not for sure. He still has our pictures on his profile on facebook. Which makes me think, if he has a new girl, wouldnt the new girl care that his pics with his ex are still there? Also, what is the likelihood that a relationship like that would work? I mean the age difference isnt really that big but maturity wise, i dont know. I dont even know why im asking all these things here. I dont even know why i wanna know so bad whether or not he is seeing someone else. Maybe if i have an idea, id stop thinking or hoping? I dont know. I think for me its the feeling of being replaced right away. We were together for 2 years and was in a very serious relationship. He was my first love and I was also his first love. I guess a part of me is angry that I have been replaced already. I know 5 months is already quite a while but its not that long. I know im not ready for anyone new. Im just hurting so much. Im the one that initiated NC but now i regret it. Maybe i shouldve just remained friends even if it was hurting me.
A Hot Mess Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I know you're not gonna want to hear this, but you're YOUNG. Trust me, move on and find someone else. You'll look back at this relationship in a few years (after you've more than likely gone through many changes in life) and laugh that you even wanted to continue it. Sure, it hurts. Right now. All rejection does. But you've got PLENTY of time to find the right person for you. Learn from this relationship, so that when that person does come along (which may even be 3, 5, 10 relationships from now), you'll be in a much better place, and will be able to navigate the choppy waters that come with all couplings.
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