Serenitynow Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 When a guy approaches you, you talk to him, and end up giving him your number. . . Do you think you decide to give him your number purely on his looks and how he interacts, Or do you think a big part of it is that rush you get that someone found you attractive ? .
EYECANDY000 Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 When you meet someone the first thing you go off of is there looks. And then their conversation. I think people who have really low self esteem, would be surprised that someone is hitting on them. Is that what you meant?
Knittress Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Me? When someone I don't know hits on me I get anxious and start looking for the nearest exit. I've never felt that 'rush of power' thing you're talking about and I wonder if it's as prevalent as you think. If anything, I feel burdened not to hurt or upset the other person - which is why I'll make conversation and give contact info unless the guy totally creeps me out.
USMCHokie Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 When a guy approaches me and we make conversation, I will give him my number if we share a common interest that would make it likely we'd want to contact each other in the future to engage in said interest. No homo.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 When a guy approaches you, you talk to him, and end up giving him your number. . . Do you think you decide to give him your number purely on his looks and how he interacts, Or do you think a big part of it is that rush you get that someone found you attractive ? . In this day and age, the decision is based more on whether it would be less awkward to GIVE him your number than it would be to NOT give it to him, than it is on instant satisfaction on the physical-attraction meter. Most of the time, those who seem attractive enough aren't going to be the ones asking, as most are still attempting to "date up" from their own number/standing.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 When a guy approaches me and we make conversation, I will give him my number if we share a common interest that would make it likely we'd want to contact each other in the future to engage in said interest. No homo. Too late for that "no homo". You already spilled .
USMCHokie Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Too late for that "no homo". You already spilled . Hahah, damn...now I have to create a new LS name and persona...
kalikula Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I wouldn't give my number to someone just because of the "rush" that they found me attractive. In that case knowing that they asked for my number would be enough, and I wouldn't give it to them for that reason. However I might give them my number because I feel too awkward to say no, or because I'm sort of giving them a chance even though I don't really feel a connection.
elizabethjane Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I give my number to a guy maybe 40% of the time I get asked for it. It depends on a lot more than looks. Mostly the conversation. Also, when you're in a bar, it's hard to tell what a guy is actually looking for - someone to date? Booty call? Ego boost? It definitely depends how sincere you seem. I know this can be hard to do in a bar, and that is probably part of the reason it is hard to actually meet people in bars. Also, this is wrong, but sometimes if a guy is really persistent, I'll give him my number just to shut him up. But, honestly, if you're trying that hard, you probably know she's not that interested, and you're really only doing it to prove something to yourself. That's the only time I give my number out without any intention of returning his calls. Of the times I do give out my number, I actually follow up when they contact me maybe 2/10 times (I've never given my number to someone who didn't contact me). I don't think that this is uncommon, and probably doesn't have too much to do with the guy - more just having second thoughts the next day. A guy has to make a pretty big impression on me for me to be excited to receive his call or text after I give him my number.
SilentVoice Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 @ Serenity I love love love your signature ... Don't worry your pretty stripped head...lmao If I happen to give a guy my number it is because how we interacted. Most likely if it is a short interaction .. I most likely liked something he said I don't do it for the gratification of someone finding me attractive, if it was so I will be handing out numbers all day. I don't mean that in a cocky way . But just saying I don't give out my number to everyone who finds me attractive. Well back to the point , if I give someone my number it is solely based how we interacted .
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zengirl Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 When a guy approaches you, you talk to him, and end up giving him your number. . . Do you think you decide to give him your number purely on his looks and how he interacts, Or do you think a big part of it is that rush you get that someone found you attractive ? . Honestly, I can only remember one scenario where a guy came up to me and successfully got my number without my giving him some sort of fairly signal to do so (talking to him for awhile, literally going up to him and saying, "Hey, cool shoes," having a short convo, and then asking if he wanted to call me sometime, asking him if he wanted to play a game of pool/darts, or staring at him or something that indicated, "Yes, dude, come over and talk to me". . .). And I'm pretty sure this is out of hundreds. But, then, I'm not a big fan of guys randomly approaching me. It kind of creeps me out. (Unless they're approaching me as a person; like they see I'm reading a book they really like, or we have friends in common, or there's some reason beyond, "Hey! That girl's pretty.") So I guess I don't really get a rush from some random guy finding me attractive. In fact, I get sincere and acute discomfort and the attention is rather unwanted, if I haven't invited it/don't happen to think the same. So, consider all that when I say: It was/would have to be the guy (how he looked, the chemistry, the vibe). In the case I mention above, the guy sincerely noticed my outfit, a thrifted outfit I really like, (no he wasn't gay; just a little bit of a hipster), quoted Vonnegut within the first 10 minutes, was adorable and awesome, and we had tons in common.
somedude81 Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 In this day and age, the decision is based more on whether it would be less awkward to GIVE him your number than it would be to NOT give it to him, than it is on instant satisfaction on the physical-attraction meter. Of the times I do give out my number, I actually follow up when they contact me maybe 2/10 times (I've never given my number to someone who didn't contact me). I don't think that this is uncommon, and probably doesn't have too much to do with the guy - more just having second thoughts the next day. A guy has to make a pretty big impression on me for me to be excited to receive his call or text after I give him my number. Those two thoughts together are a scary concept. The girl may feel obligated to give the guy her number while the guy thinks that she's actually interested. So the guy gets all excited and happy he found a girl (he thinks) who may be interested. He calls or texts her, and she doesn't reply. Guy starts to get depressed and thinks the girl is a bitch for leading him on. Moral of the story. If a guy asks for you number and you're not interested, DON'T GIVE IT TO HIM!
Star Gazer Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 When a guy approaches you, you talk to him, and end up giving him your number. . . Do you think you decide to give him your number purely on his looks and how he interacts, Or do you think a big part of it is that rush you get that someone found you attractive ? . A rush you (the general "you," not the specific "you") get that someone else found you attractive? If you get a rush from the idea of someone finding you attractive, I think you might have a self-esteem problem. I would never give my number out just because someone found me attractive. I have to be interested in THEM, based on a number of factors.
elizabethjane Posted July 21, 2010 Posted July 21, 2010 Those two thoughts together are a scary concept. The girl may feel obligated to give the guy her number while the guy thinks that she's actually interested. So the guy gets all excited and happy he found a girl (he thinks) who may be interested. He calls or texts her, and she doesn't reply. Guy starts to get depressed and thinks the girl is a bitch for leading him on. Moral of the story. If a guy asks for you number and you're not interested, DON'T GIVE IT TO HIM! okay, but on the flip side - how many guys get girls' numbers and then don't call them? i've seen this happen a lot. Plus, you don't know in the moment that you're not going to answer the phone when he calls or respond to his texts. Most of the time girls give out their numbers is in bars - we're probably tipsy (or worse - drunk), and the next morning/day/night we're not sure if we really liked the guy. If you really think the girl is special (so special that you would become depressed if she didn't reply to you), I think you have to make a bit more of an effort. If you talk to me for fifteen minutes, do you really think there's enough of a connection that I'm going to remember you well enough the next day? You're basically a complete stranger. If you talk to me for an hour, though, I'm probably going to remember you and want to hear from you. It's about the whole experience that surrounds the exchange of numbers - not just about getting/giving a number.
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