Joe10 Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 (edited) Like the poster, I think a 'tough' woman and a 'sensitive' man make a 'sweet' couple, maybe too sweet, and it attracts irrational criticism, rooted in envy. But what else to expect from a group who envy other people for their property. If you think about it, they are just being consistent. Edited July 28, 2010 by Joe10
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2010 Posted July 28, 2010 Do you have sex with your car, home, Mastercard? Do you talk to it? Someone's got a lot of imagination. The woman is sharing her success, with her sweetheart. So what? Men do that all the time. There are no 'real' or 'fake' men, just men. Ahahaha... ( note the sarcasm) If you have to put a value on sex, it's cheap. I can go out, get drunk and get a ONS without having to throw in my electricity bill. Like I'd said, she has a good heart, but the long term of things is that he's still " mooching" off of her even if he has as stable job. PS. Yes, my mastercard gives me the best orgasms.
Joe10 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 (edited) We are not talking about our lives, we are talking about the life of one couple. So one member is successful, the other not. What difference does it make if the low earner is the man or the woman? It doesn't make any difference in this couple because he didn't get laid off from a great job, he never had one in the first place, it's a nice guy. Edited July 29, 2010 by Joe10
Joe10 Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 (edited) Some folks are just amazed that there can be a woman not dating for money, and a man having great sex without opening his wallet. Wow. It's so unusual. We've got the bitter men who are fed up with paying for lousy sex, and the bitter women who are jealous because love died quickly after the wedding and all what's left is a bunch of money. There are also bitter women who are envious because they are tired of being used like toilet paper by the bad guys. Edited July 29, 2010 by Joe10
Author LoveLace Posted July 29, 2010 Author Posted July 29, 2010 To use the word "mooch" doesn't fit for him...He has always managed to squeeze in a good dose of generosity when his wallet allows...(aside from the red carpet treatment, lol) when he has the cash, he can't wait to get her out for a night of fun together. Apparently, romantic as heck too and I think those are happy times for him...when the pocket's low, he appears down because he cant contribute more..I guess. I did suggest that maybe she's just spoiling him a little too much so he feels not "adequate"...? Like she's beating him in the cash department? lol
sam light Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 You can't thrive in this world without money. That applies to countries who pretend they are not capitalists. Everyone is. In the US it's very possible to do well for yourself, no it isn't easy, but the opportunities are here. (ask any immigrant). For a guy to do poorly here to point of the OP's friend...something is wrong with him. You need to be financially OK to be a normal person. In nearly every hard luck story I've heard, you can probe deeper to find the "victims" poor habits at fault. The economy of this world will always have it's ups and downs. You have to prepare for bad times when the getting is good. Not leasing a BMW and mortgaging a McMansion. Love vs money? The person needs to be loveable, to be worthy of love they shouldn't be losers. The rules of money are clear to the bright, to fail at this game you must be a loser. Not talking about super wealthy, just people who can support themselves and treat a date right.
Author LoveLace Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 Well, he's for sure not one of those with credit card debt and he doesn't blow money he doesn't have on nice things for himself. He has no debt at all, and if he has extra cash, it gets spent on his GF to do something nice for her, and/or it goes toward living expense. If he's unemployed it's never for too long...he always finds something even if it's not as much pay and temporary. But mostly it's only been a prob since he was laid from construction...which yes was the economy thing. It's not like he's been a couch potato since then...all he's done is spend his time looking for work but none of it has been something permanent yet. It's a horrible time to be a labor worker right now. He's only 1 of tons of them I know who are in really bad situations right now and they are not "losers" at all and they had no way to be "prepared" for what's happened to them.... However he could've been called a "loser" in his past because of bad decisions he made when he was a lot younger (he's 40)...and yes some of those desicions lead him to the path he's on now. But he's no longer the irresponsible person he was then and he knows he'l always have some regrets...don't we all. Anyway since then, Sara's family had someone get laid off from a job they had for 25 years and now they are scrambling to help support his family. It was totally unexpected and devastating (it's a family of 4 children). After that happened, they apologized to Sara for giving her a hard time. They have been nice as pie to her BF since then. They are glad, but at the same time think it's kind of crappy that they decide to be understanding now when they could have tried harder to do that before, instead of putting them both through misery. Sara's parents offered them some help money and she took it while her BF did not want to, he hates nothing more then borrowing...but anyway all is well for now.
Crow9726 Posted July 31, 2010 Posted July 31, 2010 To give a brief response to the OP's question... For me...it's definitely love. Used to think the same about my XW...she chose a new love (original high school boyfriend/first everything) over me after 28 years...as long as I got stuck paying for the aftermath of our marriage...and still wants more. My only other relationship...she chose money and security over love...among other reasons. Hmmm...maybe I should change my way of thinking since I've lost twice now?
Author LoveLace Posted July 31, 2010 Author Posted July 31, 2010 I think it just depends from person to person and how much they weigh money on happiness. My friend and her man may not have a ton of money but they are not starving or homeless and they are happy to have each other. But someone else might be miserable in her situation just because he can't afford to take her out all the time....I guess it's knowing he would if he really could. I have another friend with a wealthy husband but he pretty much never uses his means to give her special attention. IOW, my poorer friend is much happier with her man than the wealthier friend is with hers...he's a successful salesman but he doesn't treat his wife anything like Sara's BF treats her..he's more stable in many ways, but I would choose Sara's guy over him any day just because of how much sweeter he is..
sam light Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 they are not "losers" at all and they had no way to be "prepared" for what's happened to them I admit to a dislike of the term "loser", a less harsh term didn't come to mind. Construction was absolutely booming for years, that was the time that the wise ones prepared for the eventual downturn. Just keeping up with the bills wasn't enough for the wise, they also saved money and didn't buy flashy new trucks. As for the person who got laid off after 25 years, this person was employed for 25 years and had ample time to prepare for bad times. Again...just getting bye in the good times is a failure in the making.
truelovepro Posted August 2, 2010 Posted August 2, 2010 Simple Money can Not bring you happiness, love will.
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