Irishguy1125 Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 My GF and I have been dating for about 3 months and we started just before the semester ended at college and had spent time together all the time but never really had to experience long times apart or talk on the phone that long. Things were great until the long distance of the relationship started to set in, the lack of visiting and being more focused on phone. Then we kind of got bad with the phone as well. She told me yesterday she felt guilty she hadn't been as attentive to the relationship as me and felt bad that she didn't feel like we were a couple anymore. So we talked and decided to slow things down and just be "friends" until school starts again in early august and try to pick things up again when we get back. Is this kind of break normal, or do you think it is just setting me up for disappointment? I ask this because it felt like a break up but also I don't know if I should be No Contact with her since she already has wavering feelings for me because of the long distance and the busyness of her schedule and mine.
GrayClouds Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 I suspect deep down inside your already know the answer and just looking to confirm since you first post, so I will repeat my respond to that one: A "break" usually like this is just short for break-up, away to to do so that does not feel as bad as stating the actually truth. It seems to make sense to break-up but just do not set yourself up by hoping things will reconnect in a few months, Move on and focus on yourself. She is just being kind, trying to give you a soft landing for a break up, this way she does not look like the bad guy. Understand if she was really into you it would not how matter busy or how much distance. She is saying either your not worth the effort or there is something (READ: Someone) more interesting at the moment. Either way she saying your second choice. Please remember you deserve a girl so into you she can not contain herself. Anything less your settling and girls do not stay with guys if they believe the guy is just "settling" for them. As they say no one falls in love with a doormat, so do not behave like one. If you do not show your worth, they will not see your worth. Again go NC, spend the rest of the summer hitting the gym, getting buff, learn a new interesting hobbies, to remind yourself your to good to settle. There is a girl out there for you willing to work to be you love. This chick is not her. Good luck.
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