JackyD233 Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 (edited) Alright, so I am new to this website and just wanted to get some opinions on my latest situation. Long story short, my ex and I have been broken up almost a year, I was the one dumped. We remained in contact from time to time for the first 4 months and of course I made a few desperate attempts to get her back. Doesn't everyone? Since then we have really only texted each other around holidays - she texted me usually. Overall, we ended on good terms and a lot of our major factors was just timing. So since Christmas it's been almost a full 7 months of no contact. Needless to say, going that long without seeing or hearing a peep out of someone you once loved works wonders! I won't be bold and say I am 100% healed, but I am 99.9% healed. Anyway, here is my situation... Given what I said above, I really wanted to send my ex a birthday card. Not to get in contact or to get her back (she is going to have to initiate this if it ever happens), just because I wanted to let her know I still cared. She didn't reply, and normally i would have accepted that, but I can't get the thought out of my head that her STRICT parents took the card before she even got it. She is still living at home finishing up school and depending how she acted around them during the breakup, maybe they thought it'd be best she didn't get it. Who knows for sure. Thinking with a level head, I think their a smaller chance that her parents took it, than she actually got it, but there's still a chance. I hate the feeling of not knowing if she actually got it. I also hate that I made the effort, because I cared, and she might think I just didn't give a ****. Is there a way I can ask if she got it without giving her the wrong impression? I'll feel like an idiot and give the wrong impression if she did and I'm texting her asking if she got it, when she really just chose not to reply, lol. To anyone thinking of doing something like this, be sure to do it in a more direct way - text, phone call, email. At least that way you know they got it and the following action, or the lack thereof, gives you a hint. Edited July 19, 2010 by JackyD233
norajane Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 I really wanted to send my ex a birthday card. Not to get in contact or to get her back (she is going to have to initiate this if it ever happens), just because I wanted to let her know I still cared. She didn't reply, and normally i would have accepted that, but I can't get the thought out of my head that her STRICT parents took the card before she even got it. You are grasping at straws. You didn't send the card only because you wanted her to know you cared. You sent it because you wanted her to reply. She hasn't. Let it go. She hasn't contacted you in 7 months. Why is it so important to you that she know you still care? So important that you are imagining far-fetched reasons for her not to have gotten the card? So important that you now want to follow up about why she didn't reply? Do not text, do not call, do not send carrier pigeon or smoke signals. Let. It. Go.
northstar1 Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 You are grasping at straws. You didn't send the card only because you wanted her to know you cared. You sent it because you wanted her to reply. She hasn't. Let it go. She hasn't contacted you in 7 months. Why is it so important to you that she know you still care? So important that you are imagining far-fetched reasons for her not to have gotten the card? So important that you now want to follow up about why she didn't reply? Do not text, do not call, do not send carrier pigeon or smoke signals. Let. It. Go. exactly. please don't look for more reasons of why she didn't reply. she's moved on and no longer wants contact. time to move on for good and leave her in the past.
listen_to_me_please Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 Do not send the card. Do not call or text or contact her. If you by chance you bump into her in the future in person, then see where it goes but for now its over. It doesn't matter if you still care because obviously she doesn't care about you and she has clearly moved on with her life. Her not responding to you is sort of a kind-act, as she knows you still care about her, and she doesn't want to lead you on. Be happy she's not stringing you along like so many women do to men.
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