dsaasd Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 My ex (we'll call him John) called me last night at 3AM after 10 months of absolutley no contact (except for an email from me asking him to mail me my high school yearbook that I left at his house, which he ignored). We dated for 2 years and it ended badly. When my phone it rang twice in a row I thought my roomate might have lost his keys or someting so picked up. I was completely asleep and at first I thought it was my roomate and only after a few sentences realized it was John.. Me, "oh its you" John "you remember me?" me "yes, its very late" John "i haven't heard your voice in a long time" John "its 3 am I have to work tommorrow at 6" John "can you tell me where Prince Arthur street is?" Me "No I don't know where you are right now, its 3 am, i have to get up in 2 hours" John "Oh okay goodnight" By the way, where I live, asking where Prince Arthur street is is like asking where 5th avenue is in NYC. Anyways after that I couldn't sleep and was looking out my window and a car pulled out outside and a guy (same build/walk as my ex) got out and turned off his car, walked towards my door, walked back to his car, started the engine, turned it off again, walked back to the apartment, walked back to the car and drove away. (I'm pretty sure it was him as this would be VERY odd behavior from anyone else) Anyways, any thoughts on what this was about, and what I should do? What if he calls again? My major problem is that it was basically 85% my fault that we broke up, i was seriously depressed and suicidal (not great for relationships). Currently I am happier than I have ever been and really enjoying my life, I certainly don't want to jepordize that but at the same time part of me wonders if he has changed as much as I have perhaps it would be worth another go around. I don't want to live my life regretting the fact that I didnt try. ANYWAYS HELP!!! thanks xoxo
Thorgs Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 If you're truly over him, why not go out and grab some lunch or something? If he was good to you in the relationship, then he'd probably be good to you as a friend (considering you're over him). Just a thought. If you're happier without him in your life, then just ignore it.
Author dsaasd Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 Well...the problem is that I am NOT over him. I'm over him inthe way that I no longer think about him on a daily basis, don't cry over the relationship anymore, don't miss him too much and am interested in dating other people. HOWEVER the idea of actually seeing him makes me so nervous I can hardly breath, and I don't think we could ever really be friends, the relationship was far too intense for that. Perhaps in the convo I had with him I came off as really cold/over him, but that was truely only because I was half asleep when it occurred.
lunita Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 That is a strange story. I'd be feeling all torn up about it too if it happened to me. The main issue I have with all of this is, do you know if he was drinking or anything? Either way, he wasn't calling you to ask about a street. He was calling to see if you were home and was calling to gauge you reaction to him. I'm saying all of this assuming it was him outside the window. It's clear that if it was HIM that he was looking for some sort of sign (lets hope he wasn't drunk and looking for a booty call or anything) and he chickend out in the end and left. I don't like telling people what to do on these forums, but if it were me, I might throw out a random text and see how he responds to it. Having said that, most people here would say don't bother... NC all the way! Because if you do text, you may be setting yourself up for hurt again if he doesn't respond. That's gotta be your call to make. You have to decide if you can handle that or even want to deal with it.
Author dsaasd Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 "That is a strange story." lol haha...i know. As for the drunk part...he definately didn't sound drunk...and he's never been one to drink and drive...(he lives about a 40 minute drive from my place, i live down town he lives in the suburbs)...however perhaps thats just my wishful thinking
lunita Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Egos are a huge blockage for some people. His ego may have stepped in if it WAS him. But like seriously...in the middle of the night? Even if it was him, why the middle of the night? It's odd for sure.
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