maria gostrey Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 i'm 23 and have always been single, save for an long distance online thing that recently fell apart. i've never really been one of those girls who always has a guy pining for her. only, i sometimes can't help but wish i received such attention. i'm short and "cute" and am moderately good looking. people tell me i'm smart and sophisticated. worldy, having been raised in 4 different continents. i'm not a big party girl, tho i'm very enthusiastic to have fun! i'd love to be in a multicultural, interracial relationship and think i'd make a fabulous girlfriend. only guys do not approach me. i don't know what i am doing wrong here... how can i make myself a more attractive dating prospect?
TouchedByViolet Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 Do you dress feminine? In my experience any 23 year old girl who is cute will have plenty of guys approaching her. They won't all ask you out but they will definitely make small talk at least. Do you put off a vibe or something that would keep guys away?
Enema Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 Why don't you approach men? Smart, sophisticated and wordly don't usually wait for things to just happen.
impz Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Go for casual dates with people, ask acquaintances out, go for those social outings organized by some interest groups. If you are that articulate, cute and nice, it will work out. Something about what you said bugs me though. i'd love to be in a multicultural, interracial relationship and think i'd make a fabulous girlfriend. only guys do not approach me. i don't know what i am doing wrong here... how can i make myself a more attractive dating prospect? Does it simply mean your criteria is too high, and you don't date people of the same race/culture?
Author maria gostrey Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 Go for casual dates with people, ask acquaintances out, go for those social outings organized by some interest groups. If you are that articulate, cute and nice, it will work out. Something about what you said bugs me though. Does it simply mean your criteria is too high, and you don't date people of the same race/culture? hm i'm not opposed to it, no but at the same time i'm very open to an interracial relationship.
SakenPT Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Hi there first of, i came to this forum looking for a website that has Cabins for Rent, this doesn't look like it but i stumbled upon this post.. never tought of registering on a forum just for adding one reply lol. I am a Man and i would like to help you by correcting some mistakes Your first mistake is , trying to search for a Man, almost looking desperate Two reasons why you shouldnt do this: First reason is that you are 23 years old , i am 28 and i feel like i am too young still, dont rush your search for a boyfriend, when the time is right you will find your perfect partner. Second of, Man dont like easy woman, just like Woman dont like easy Men . To give you an example there was a girl at my job who is completly hideous, she is too fat, too short, her mouth is too wide her ass is too square, altough because she is too pumpus and because she thinks that she could have any men she wanted to, she was able to get all the guys she wanted in my work. even prettier girls (and in my opinion nicer too) wanted to take the guys she could have... The second mistake you are doing is looking for a Guy at the Internet, you might end up getting scammed by a Nigerian guy who just wants your money..., or worse! getting hooked up with a Psycho who Murders girls that he finds on the internet! The Third mistake that you ware doing is wanting an interracial relationship, Cultures vary from country to country, and while it might be very interesting to talk to a person from another country and another race, the difference in multiculture will end up ruining everything, to give you an example i had a Brazilian Girlfriend and i wanted to date a Chinese Girl a while ago... didn't work out, we are just too diferent..., but... who knows it might work sometimes! Good luck and thinka bout what i wrote here cheers
Sadcakesleo Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 I'm quite curious to why you are having trouble meeting guys. Is it that your shy or unapproachable? I'm 25 and in my experience the only thing stopping me from approaching a woman is if they look unapproachable, maybe a scowl or some other body language. Could be the places your at or maybe it could be your own self esteem. Guys can be checking you out but you may not think so. Maybe more information about yourself would help everyone help you
Author maria gostrey Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Why don't you approach men? Smart, sophisticated and wordly don't usually wait for things to just happen. yeah, i'm a bit old fashioned i suppose. i'd like the guys to make a move first...but you are right, i shouldn't completely depend on them to initiate something.
Author maria gostrey Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 I'm quite curious to why you are having trouble meeting guys. Is it that your shy or unapproachable? I'm 25 and in my experience the only thing stopping me from approaching a woman is if they look unapproachable, maybe a scowl or some other body language. Could be the places your at or maybe it could be your own self esteem. Guys can be checking you out but you may not think so. Maybe more information about yourself would help everyone help you when i discuss this with my friends they have suggested that i may unintentionally give off a "don't approach me" vibe. they never quite specify how. i am slightly shy but not painfully so. i think my larger problem is that i'm not out going enough and barely give myself an opportunity to interact with boys.:\
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