phineas Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Women that are truly interested in you will be magically responsive. This. There is a single mom I know that has been wanting to hold quite a bit of play dates lately. She also blew up my cell phone with late night texts while I was camping for the week. She missed me. sometimes, when I send her a friendly text she responds before I can even put my phone down. It's like how does she text so fast? I do the same. I call (not text) and leave a voice mail if no answer. That way its all on them. You just know that there are women that ignore the first contact, then when the guy never calls a 2nd time, they are stuck, sitting there like WTH ? LOL Yeah, I believe I had a woman do this to me twice. She flirted HARD with me. Asked me for my number, asked me to hang out ect. We hung out, I called her once & poof. 6 months later she was blowing up my phone out of the blue with joke texts ect. I called her back once & poof. WTH?!?! really? buh-bye.
fishtaco Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 We hung out, I called her once & poof. Exactly. Painfully common. That's just how it is. A chick from the past contacted me out of the blue to go out. Went out once, she was "busy" for the next date, so I put the ball in her court, never heard from her again. Another one I hit on but she turned be down. Then months later she actually managed to find me on FB then gave me her number. I called to setup a date, never returned my call. Then there's one that approached me. She flaked on the first outing we were supposed to go. But very maturely, made sure to take the initiative to invite me out the next time, because she knew she dropped the ball the first time. She has been responsive ever since. Unfortunately I'm not all that interested in her since day one. I would not have asked her for her number even before all this. So don't get the wrong idea that I lost interest because she has been responsive. In fact, she's earning so much points with me that I'm TRYING to like her. But I think by now she probably figured out I'm a dead end, since I haven't made a move. She's still keeping in contact, we'll probably end up as friends. She's a very classy lady. Too bad I don't find her attractive. But I am very impressed with her. One in a million.
gypsy_nicky Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 This. There is a single mom I know that has been wanting to hold quite a bit of play dates lately. She also blew up my cell phone with late night texts while I was camping for the week. She missed me. sometimes, when I send her a friendly text she responds before I can even put my phone down. It's like how does she text so fast? Yeah, I believe I had a woman do this to me twice. She flirted HARD with me. Asked me for my number, asked me to hang out ect. We hung out, I called her once & poof. 6 months later she was blowing up my phone out of the blue with joke texts ect. I called her back once & poof. WTH?!?! really? buh-bye. you got baited and you fell for it, that's why she kept disappearing. She was looking for a different response.
FL Lady Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I HATE games and refuse to play them. Chemistry is there or it's not. For the record I am 39 and described to look 31 by others. I don't care though and enjoy the younger male attention.
FL Lady Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Women hit their sexual peak at 33 and men at 18. HA!!!
FL Lady Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Nah...can't say I agree with this one... To the Marine in this post, you are HOT. The BEST man I've ever made love to was a US Marine my ex husband (now) was USAF. Ha!!!
impz Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I can never understand why women want to play games, or men for that matter. You read so many posters here talking about how they get their girls, only for them to break up. I will say that games are good for those who are keen to enjoy the chase, rather than having a fulfilling relationship that leads to marriage. Other than that, I see little or no purpose playing games. If I have to do such rubbish to get a lady, I rather stay single. I am already married though
Bogo123 Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Alot of times people play games because they don't want the other person to lose interest. It keeps the suspense going. I prefer when they are straight up. I only lose interest when they smother me.
USMCHokie Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 So, I've never had game playing backfire on me. I've only had the opposite- a couple guys lose interest because I text/call them first and they want to chase me. Whatever.. Clearly they weren't that interested to begin with then. I never understood why a guy would disappear just because you showed some interest...and use that "need to chase you" excuse...what a load of lame bullsh*t...I think you're honestly better off not dating men who would pull that ridiculousness... To the Marine in this post, you are HOT. The BEST man I've ever made love to was a US Marine my ex husband (now) was USAF. Ha!!! Ummm...thank you...
JadedHeart Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I believe you have to accept the fact that there are games involved. It's a reality, besides how are you going to win if you don't play? Back in my former beta average chump days I used to be vehemently opposed to games. Learn how to play them and learn how to play them right. You'll go crazy trying to find a girl that does not play games, I know I did. Until I had the realization that that's just how it is.
USMCHokie Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I believe you have to accept the fact that there are games involved. It's a reality, besides how are you going to win if you don't play? Back in my former beta average chump days I used to be vehemently opposed to games. Learn how to play them and learn how to play them right. You'll go crazy trying to find a girl that does not play games, I know I did. Until I had the realization that that's just how it is. Again, I have to disagree, but perhaps you are attracted to the types or attract the types who are into playing games. The only thing you'll get from playing games is a girl who play games... But then again, not playing games might be seen as a "game" to some women (or even men, for that matter) who are playing games themselves...for example, a girl only gets one voicemail from me before I write her off...if she's all into playing games and wants to play hard to get or whatever, then I won't be bothered with her...then she'll insist that I'm playing some sort of game myself and wonder why I don't keep chasing her...then she'll complain that men are difficult or whatever other bullsh*t... I think I'd rather not deal with that crap...
BubbleFreak Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 And I assume now you are 16? Now I am 14 I never would have guessed immaturity existed in Bubble World . I am always serious. Actually I don't know why women are the focus of the game playing. On other male dominated forums that I have been to, guys are constantly posting stuff like "how do I trick this girl into having sex with me" or "how do I trick this chick into giving me a bj"
Author Serenitynow Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 Actually I don't know why women are the focus of the game playing. On other male dominated forums that I have been to, guys are constantly posting stuff like "how do I trick this girl into having sex with me" or "how do I trick this chick into giving me a bj" Well since I dont date guys, I would think thats a pretty good reason why I focus on women
phineas Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Now that i've thought about it, I do play one game. I've known a lot of women over the time that wanted to be friends with me. but nothing more. OK. The game I play is called "we are just friends & this new woman I met wants naked time with me so i'll call you to hang out next time I come up for air" Oh wait, that isn't a game, that's just how I roll. but, almost like clockwork the "just friends" woman decides she wants more all of a sudden. just don't get it at all.
Curt Posted July 20, 2010 Moderators Posted July 20, 2010 Playing games DO WORK! Noone denies that. But the problem is you are less likely to get someone who will appreciate you the way you are. People need to realize that playing games is intended for people who wanna get the attraction from someone whom they think they wont be able to get unless they use tricks. This I find very interesting and insightful...
EasyHeart Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Both genders play games. Games work great if you're just looking for casual sex, but they'll destroy any chance of having a real relationship. As to calling/texting, I think we have to distinguish between first contact and contact after you're dating. I have no problem with a woman calling me first or returning my call quickly. Especially for a first or second date, when I call I'm mostly trying to gauge her interest, and the more interested she is the more interested I become. But if we've dated a few times, I have problems with women who call/text/email CONSTANTLY. Give it a break, ladies! I do not need to hear from you 147 times every day. Let me chase you! And while we're on the topic of chasing: Yes, men like to chase. We are hunters; it is hardwired into our DNA by millions of years of evolution. I think some of the biggest problems in dating now is that women have been told they need to stop acting like women and constantly compete with men. In the dating world, women are a prize that men want to compete for. When women start acting like hunters, men reflexively act like prey -- and they run away. That doesn't mean we want to take away your civil rights. But when I date (and eventually marry) I want someone who complements me, not someone who competes with me.
JadedHeart Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Again, I have to disagree, but perhaps you are attracted to the types or attract the types who are into playing games. The only thing you'll get from playing games is a girl who play games... But then again, not playing games might be seen as a "game" to some women (or even men, for that matter) who are playing games themselves...for example, a girl only gets one voicemail from me before I write her off...if she's all into playing games and wants to play hard to get or whatever, then I won't be bothered with her...then she'll insist that I'm playing some sort of game myself and wonder why I don't keep chasing her...then she'll complain that men are difficult or whatever other bullsh*t... I think I'd rather not deal with that crap... So what do you do when a girl gives you a ***** test? "Honey can you pick out all the green skittles for me?" Now you can either be a smooth operator or a beta chump. People seem to think games are only indicative to phone calls and messages. You can either respond no don't test me I refuse. Or you can say, but I'm color blind sorry! If you don't play they'll get bored and eventually find a man that will play ball. Think about it, learn their games, use it to your advantage. Like I said in my previous post, I used to be vehemently opposed to any game playing. Think of it logically, are your chances of being with a girl more likely by playing or not playing? I'd say it's the former rather than the latter. If she accuses you of playing games what would you do? You can either respond no you're playing games I'm done. Or you can... *figure it out for yourself* Go forth, learn and master the game. You can't win if you don't play guys.
Bogo123 Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Both genders play games. Games work great if you're just looking for casual sex, but they'll destroy any chance of having a real relationship. Can you explain why? Of course too much game playing can lead to someone losing interest, frsutration, etc. But maybe they start out playing games in the early stages of dating and then they both decide to drop the games and become serious and it works out.
Bogo123 Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 And you wonder why women play games? http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/dating-advice/547479
Sanman Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Oh good god! Those are stupid games. They may work when simply dating one person. However, games usually signal to me that I am the back burner guy and I treat her in kind.
jamesum Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 (edited) So what do you do when a girl gives you a ***** test? Dump her? You have a choice. If you are ugly but you wont settle for any woman less than Megan Fox, then you will have to play games and you are going to be playing the games your whole life until you decide to lose her. But some people like me for example prefer women in my league who reciprocate my attraction toward her without me having to jump off a bridge in order to pass her stupid test. Edited July 20, 2010 by jamesum
sally4sara Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I don't play games, but that can be relative I think. If someone gives me too much of a hassle early on (rescheduling, being difficult with agreeing to what to do when we hang out, or always being suspicious of my motives) I dust them. That has been called "playing games" by some of the guys I've dated. I wondered how I was playing if I wasn't around anymore. I think many of the normal things a person does isn't game playing but rather someone suspecting its a game. So I didn't answer immediately when you called? Why does that mean I play games? Can't a girl go to the bathroom, blast music in the car and not hear the phone or not take personal calls while working?
paddington bear Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 I tried playing games with a 'wishy washing hmm I'm not sure' guy after he'd strung me along for months (well...I will correct myself, I was immature and stupid and allowed him to string me along for months). Anyway, I'd read some dating guide. So, instead of being all friendly, I started being flirtateous. Instead of answering the phone as soon as he rang, I'd not answer. If he asked me out and there were other people there, I'd go talk to them. What I got? Him actually saying 'you've really changed, you seem much more lively or something' and talking about wanting to have kids and suddenly getting in touch all the time yadda yadda. However...guy was and remains a total commitment-phobic. So, while I sparked his interest for a while, the game playing didn't make a non-commital man want to commit. It did though, teach me a lesson about how my behaviour was negatively impacting my dating life with other men - as in up the flirting, downplay the neediness and the I want a serious relationship vibes. Games won't work on someone who is just not for catching. I think people get playing games in a stupid, going by the book way with games simply meaning not being a damn doormat for a guy and dropping everthing when he calls, calling/texting him obsessively etc. That is not playing games, that is just being sensible and stopping yourself from actually driving away the very person you genuinely like.
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