Darby5126 Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 My 28 yr old GF hit on me (50 yr old) right after my separation from a 13 yr marriage. We went out hit it off incredibly! She was/is a 10 in the looks department. The intimacy was out of this world. We are both sexy people into the same things. We shared everything. She has alot of issues, two divorces, a bankruptcy, and she was from a broken home in South America. Her father was killed when she was young and may have been sexually abused in some way. We eventually met eachother's families and everything was great. Then she announced a break-up after 3-4 months claiming my divorce was going too slow as if she knew I was dragging my heels dealing with it. We got back after I told her that I told my wife that I was seeing somone else and moving on as well as having the lawyer go to work. She also had the annoying habit of "disappearing" for a few days or on a weekend that I had my daughter. She has a very independent streak. Life was good. Then a mini break-up over some jealousy on her part. Back on again. Life great, then a Thanksgiving break-up where she even wanted to be "friends with benefits". She loves my family and daughter. Then back together by Christmas. An incredible Valentines weekend, on an on. Then my birthday in May was a disaster. She was there for my party, but didn't even show up for a BBQ that HER family hosted for me. That pissed me off so I broke it off and initiated NC. She texts me after 3 weeks of NC stating she missed me. We talk and agree to meet. Great reunion, but htere was something missing. She then told me she couldnt continue because she was not achieving orgasm and that was very important to her. We go to a sex therapist who told her that many women have difficulty with this and that should not be the sole basis for ending the relationship as it appeared we were a good couple with alot going for us. We spend time together until she initites a fight because I went out by my self for a drive on an "our weekend" even though I only went for an hour, and was more than ready to spend the rest of the day with her. She then became impatient over the sex issue, and a few weeks later she announces another break-up. This lasted two weeks. We get back together and then I see that she dropped me as friend on FB. She told me that she hadnt even been on FB and that she didnt drop me and that her FB page was not working. I told her to fix it. (She never did) We continue to talk and date. Minimal sex. Then, she changes her profile pic and removed all photos on her page of me but get this, she leaves only the ones of my family and her. She basically erased my from her life. I called her on it and lost it with her. She hung up on me and said Have a nice Life. As this was bad behavior on her part, I initiated NC for a month. She then contacts me and we agree to meet. Very nice reunion with apolgy from her. We have had two recent dates in the past two weeks that went well. She asks about my divorce again wondering why it was taking so long. I told her I just want to date for awhile and then move forward to more. She went along with this. She then moves to a new apartment and said that we would reconnect when she finishes. I also told her how I really felt about her. She listened and seemed to be ok with it. When we are "together" we talk about twice a day. So attempt to call her the next day got no answer. Followed with a text, (not any needy message) no response. So I figure she is wrapped up with her move etc.. and give her space. So I am planning to call her later to check up on her. This has been a Merry Go Round relationship. We both state we love eachother, but her actions are speaking louder than her words. I love her to death and would love to re-unite long term with her. She has taught me a great deal. At this point I feel I just need to be patient with her and love her as she wants to be loved, not how I think she needs to be loved. Mutual friends say she really does love me but wants me to finalize my divorce and become independent. So I am torn about continuing this relationship. She could be playing me. Thoughts??
Ilovecake Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 (edited) She's not playing games, she's just being a normal 28 year old girl who doesn't know what she wants. She's simply waaaaaay too young for you. Everything you said in your opening post proves this undeniably. Think about it you were 22 when she was born, gross. Edited July 19, 2010 by Ilovecake
torranceshipman Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 To be fair Cake got it right...she is just being a typical 28 yr old...when you are young and hot you have a whole life of fun waiting for you and I don't think she is anywhere ready to give up on that...she will be flaky for a long time to come unfortunately... And she CERTAINLY won't see you on her radar if you watch her delete every trace of you from her FB account, then de-friend you, and you just let her do it...she won't respect you in the slightest!!
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