Howlc7 Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 Hey, i split up with my gf of two years just over a month ago and have had my ups and downs since then but recently ive been wondering whether to try and get back with her... We broke up because she went away for a weekend with guys and girls from our college but i wasnt able to go. When she got back she told me that she had gotten drunk one of the days and had kissed one of the guys there and me being me i automatically took it really badly and broke up with her. A few days later we spoke about what happened and she promised me that she hadnt done anything else but kiss him. So after that i regreted breaking up with her over something that small and apologized but she started saying that our relationship wasnt that good anyway even though i know it was really and hope she thought that way as well. So about a week later she started going out with the guy which hurt me even more and we didnt speak again until a few days ago when she told me that i was right and that she had been hurt by him (not physically). But she had phoned him and he had apologized but she didnt seem very convinced and i had known from the start that he was no good for her but still their relationship continues. So my question is should i try and get back with her because i miss her greatly some days as i saw her almost everyday when we went out and she became a best friend as well as a gf or should i just try and move on because i keep thinking what if i got back with her and she did something worse. Sorry for going on lol. Any help is much appreciated!!!!
Norville_Rogers Posted July 19, 2010 Posted July 19, 2010 I would give it 6 months. By then she should have figured out what she wants. You already know what you want. So just wait to see what happens. You don't have to date anyone. And if she sees that you aren't dating anyone...then the guilt may (and I stress may) lead her to either confessing her desires elsewhere or make her see that she was that important to you. That's just one angle you could take.
Author Howlc7 Posted July 20, 2010 Author Posted July 20, 2010 Ok thankyou for that . Has anyone else got any other ideas just incase?
TaraMaiden Posted July 29, 2010 Posted July 29, 2010 Anyone this flaky can't be at all good, can they? She was right. If she kissed a guy, things weren't as good between you as you thought. Alcohol is no excuse. If she remembered doing it, she knew she was doing it, and could have stopped it. "I'm sorry, I have a BF, we can't do this!" Hell, I'd never dream of putting myself in that situation with anyone at all, period! She did it, she knows she did it, she remembers doing it, so she wanted to do it. Sure he kissed her, but look - she's with him now! Walk away, and date someone else. Someone who when you believe you have a great relationship, won't let you down.
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