HoneyCoveredCookie Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 Okay I'm going to give the entire story so that its clear and easier to see what i'm going through - therefore making it easier to give me advice. Well basically I met this guy who was a best friend of one of my very good friends. We started talking and flirting and got into a relationship within a week. It was like an instant click. We just felt right for each other. I'm 17 years old and so was he. He had never dated before, making me his first girlfriend, first kiss.. etc. We had the PERFECT one month. He was easy to get along with, we were friends, had fun together, everything was fine. It was almost like I was teaching him what it was like to be in a relationship and he wanted to learn. I had a few issues with him, like he didn't call often, he didn't prioritize his time with me and his time with his friends very well, he didn't ever invite me out with them.. It just didn't feel right. It isn't such a big issue now that i think of it - but I that time I thought it was because he didn't care or yada yada. I brought it up and told him that if he couldn't fix it, this wouldn't work. I never expected us to break up in reality. He said he couldn't fix it and that he would if he could, but conditions at home were just bad and if we could over look that we didn't have to break up - I blamed him saying that he just didn't care enough to want to try to work on it etc, and at the end of the conversation he said that maybe us breaking up was the best thing, I agreed and regretted almost instantly. 2 days before our break up he told me about how I was the first girl he ever truly liked and didn't think he'd ever be able to get over me if things went wrong. We went on to talking about trying long distance if we had to move away for college and about how unlucky we were to meet each other so late, because now we just had a year together.. I thought he meant everything he said - since i didn't really think he knew how to play "the game" - and i thought me being his first girlfriend would have meant something.. When we broke up he promised to try again later when i'm back from vacation and that he needed time to think and that i should too.. and we weren't as similar as he thought we were.. And said he'd always be there as a friend, despite me telling him not to say anything unless he meant it. I didn't realise that those words were empty. After 3 weeks he told me that he was over me and treated me coldly, eventually he deleted me off facebook, Its like after the break up, like BAM, he became a completely different person..He didn't even give it a chance! Our relationship lasted just one month and its 3 months since we broke up and i'm still not over him. We've had no contact at all for the past month.. I've started talking to one of his good guyfriends alot lately.. very harmless flirting and a fun conversation. So one day my ex went to that friends house for a sleepover and checked our conversations in his inbox and cancelled plans of his friend and me meeting, pretending to be his friend AND deleted me off his friends face book list. I was happy to finally get out of all this drama and then he had to go ahead and add more immature drama into it. I don't get why he would've done this.. I don't know what to make of all of this. I can't even imagine what's going on in his mind and why he's doing what he's doing.. Whether he's over me.. Whether we'd ever be friends again.. Why he made promises he didn't mean.. Why its so hard for him to be friends.. And how our relationship turned into something so spiteful for no reason..
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