Ex and I were getting back together, then tells me he loves someone else..good story.

[scubaskunk]

Alright, I was dating my now ex boyfriend for about two years. Last March I had to move half way across the world. We were doing fine for the first few months, then in July, i was able to go back to Arizona and be with him for a month. We had our occasional arguements, but all in all, everything was great. Finally the time had come for me to come back here. We were doing alright for about a month and that's when he broke the news to me that he couldn't stand us being apart and the fact that we have cheated on eachother in the past, didn't make things better seeing as how he also can't trust me when im a thousand miles away.He broke it off with me and i was devasted!! Within a week i heard that he was dating my close friend. The same friend who was suppose to be trying to get me and my ex back together. Finally, after a month, my ex called to tell me that he missed me and he missed hearing my voice, yadda yadda yadda. i was so happy and during our breakup i felt that we had matured and everything was going to get better from here. This was in October. In that conversation he also told me that him and his gf weren't doing to great and he didn't even like her, which made me happy. We talked about plans of us getting back together(even though he is with my ex-friend)when i move back to the city we are both from. After that conversation we would talk a lot at everything was great..Then me and my friend, his girlfriend, started fighting about him. I guess it was just jealousy between us. for me becuase he was with her, and for her becuase she knows he will always love me. He told me that she had taken down all his pictures of me, and told him to stop talking to me becuase she's afraid that we may fall back in love again.....Now here comes my dillemma...

 

I hadn't talked to him in over a month so i decided to call him last week. When i called he sounded happy but as we got further into the conversation he was telling me that I couldn't expect for him to feel the same way about him if we don't talk for long period of time. I didn't call him in so long becuase even though i hate his gf right now, i still have respect for their relationship and don't feel like intruding. Anyways, in this conversation he told me that he didn't know where he wasnted to go with the relationship we are having right now. Becuase im not even sure i'll be moving back to the same city as him. then he told me that he isn't In Love with his gf, but he loves her. and that he would take a bullet for that girl..

 

Now after hearing something like that, what should i do. I am not dating anyone becuase i saw it as, well me and my ex are going to be together within 6 months, what's the point of getting into a relationship?? but he's still dating? should i just go witht he flow and if we end up being together then we should be but if not than that's okay too?? Help!

[carla]

Move on, forget them both. And I wouldn't call your friend maybe an ex friend to be nice. Friends don't screw around with their friends bf. You respect their relationship? WHY? Neither one of them respected you! You don't feel like intruding? To bad your so called friend wasn't as good of a friend to you as you are to her. I'm sorry but you need to move on. Find someone that is going to respect

you. Wouldn't it be nice to go back home knowing that they have spit up b/c they cheated on each other and you are walking down the street arm in arm with a gorgous man that treats you like a princess? Good Luck

[Fritz]

I agree. Move on. Neither deserve your love or friendship.

[morrigan]

Do you really think this guy is worth 6 months, let alone 6 minutes, of your time? The same applies for your "friend".

[SoleMate]

Scubaskunk, not to preach at you, but you have only one life to live. Spend your time with people who treat you right. I don't advocate anything other than turning on your heel and walking away to your new life which will never again include either of these people. Do be on the alert though...one or both will likely come crawling back at some future time whining about how they still want to be friends and how they hope you are not so petty as to hold a grudge.

 

Also...never consider a guy who will tell you that "he doesn't like his girlfriend". That's a bit of a danger sign. I don't care what her crimes are, if he is with her, he should be loyal enough not to criticize her...and to a rival, especially.

[Phoenix]

Never.....EVER get back with an ex!!!!!!!!!! Someone who will betray you once will do it again! I don't believe in second chances, because they have never worked out. Shame on me, they fooled me twice. No more, never again, not no how. Take this advice and run with it: those who will betray you will betray you, no matter what else you want to believe. Turn away from them both and do not let them turn you back. EVER!!!!!!!!

[Velveteel]

I don't feel as strongly as Phoenix about not getting back together with Exes. Sometimes it can work. But in this case, it does sound as if he's stringing you along. He may not even know he's doing it. He probably feels confused, and wonders if his painful lingering feelings for you mean he should get back together with you instead of staying with his girlfriend. Most of us feel conflicted in this way at some point. It doesn't mean you should wait around for him, though. And it doesn't mean that he's the guy for you. The guy for you will break up with his current girlfriend--even if he loves her--because he knows he'd rather be with you. The current situation isn't fair to either you or his girlfriend. All it does is comfort him. He's being well-loved by one woman while another is waiting in the wings.

 

Cut him loose! You'll be stronger for it. And you'll find someone whose heart isn't divided.