18inlove Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 So I am 19 now and my BF 31..We been dating for almost 11months. When we met he was still on the fence with his ex of 4.5 years (she was married and putting off divorce)and was confused between the two of us and in which he would ignore me for days..and with my persistance, he chose me, which left her devastated. I know he loved her alot to stay with her for so long even tho she was married. But he gave up cause he didnt think she ever would leave him. i know it was difficult for him to do but he did. I often wonder was I a rebound to mask the pain. If he used me to forget her. As soon as we got together he asked me to move in and I been living with him ever since. Everyone said he rushed things. that he cant find someone his own age ect...Also we have some of their shared furniture and decorations in our apartment???? So just wondering could he still be harboring feelings for her or was I the guineu pig for him to get over her? Why would he want to rush into a new realtionship with me after coming out of that one?
hopesndreams Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 Why would he want to rush into a new realtionship with me after coming out of that one? The question is, why were you in a relationship with an old man that was helping a married woman cheat? he chose me, which left her devastated. Looks like you got the prize. Too bad the prize is broken. But he gave up cause he didnt think she ever would leave him. In other words, he didn't "choose" you because if she left her H, he would be with her now. That makes you the backup plan. As soon as we got together he asked me to move in and I been living with him ever since. He is very needy. He doesn't like to be alone for any amount of time. When things don't go well in his world, fully expect him to cheat on you. Past behavior is predicative of future behavior.
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