BBG Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 My boyfriend and I had been dating for over a year now. I've told him before that in our relationship, he can talk to me about everything he wants and we can discuss about it. Apparently, I'm not that open when he says he likes to see girls' breasts. Well... Every now and then I tried to compromise. I told him that he can look at other girls. I know what "looking" at other girls is to him. I can accept that. The problem is, he got so curious on how other girls' breast will look like that he asked and multiple times persuaded me to put a spy-cam in my toilet. The plan is, he wants me to ask my friends for a sleep over (my best girlfriends), let the spy-cam on while they are bathing and.. you can figure what happens next. I've told him I will never betray my friendship like that (with quite a number of fights and tears). He promised he won't ask for it anymore. But now, his words are filled with double meanings. As though he's still asking whether is it still alright to have a look at real girls' breasts now after we've talked about it? What should I do? -confused-
wuggle Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 My boyfriend and I had been dating for over a year now. I've told him before that in our relationship, he can talk to me about everything he wants and we can discuss about it. Apparently, I'm not that open when he says he likes to see girls' breasts. Well... Every now and then I tried to compromise. I told him that he can look at other girls. I know what "looking" at other girls is to him. I can accept that. The problem is, he got so curious on how other girls' breast will look like that he asked and multiple times persuaded me to put a spy-cam in my toilet. The plan is, he wants me to ask my friends for a sleep over (my best girlfriends), let the spy-cam on while they are bathing and.. you can figure what happens next. I've told him I will never betray my friendship like that (with quite a number of fights and tears). He promised he won't ask for it anymore. But now, his words are filled with double meanings. As though he's still asking whether is it still alright to have a look at real girls' breasts now after we've talked about it? What should I do? -confused- Dump him. He sounds like a creep. Any guy who respects his GF so little to ask her to spy on her friends doesn't deserve to have a GF in the first place. There are plenty of pictures of breast on the internet and he needs the real thing he can pay for it.
Curious-One Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 My boyfriend and I had been dating for over a year now. I've told him before that in our relationship, he can talk to me about everything he wants and we can discuss about it. Apparently, I'm not that open when he says he likes to see girls' breasts. Well... Every now and then I tried to compromise. I told him that he can look at other girls. I know what "looking" at other girls is to him. I can accept that. The problem is, he got so curious on how other girls' breast will look like that he asked and multiple times persuaded me to put a spy-cam in my toilet. The plan is, he wants me to ask my friends for a sleep over (my best girlfriends), let the spy-cam on while they are bathing and.. you can figure what happens next. I've told him I will never betray my friendship like that (with quite a number of fights and tears). He promised he won't ask for it anymore. But now, his words are filled with double meanings. As though he's still asking whether is it still alright to have a look at real girls' breasts now after we've talked about it? What should I do? -confused- I am afraid you might be a troll especially since you only have 1 post but ill answer anyway. Bolded part is CRAZYYYYYYYYYY, he got some major problems (SRS)
Author BBG Posted July 17, 2010 Author Posted July 17, 2010 But he promised me he wouldn't do it anymore. And words are easy to say. He's my first boyfriend and I really do think he's a keeper. What else can I do if I don't want to break this relationship up? In terms of other things, he's good. This is the only problem that gives me a very hard time.
lovelorcet Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Would you enjoy watching him masturbate while he watches your friends shower? Would you be ok if he slept with your friends as well?
zengirl Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Get a good attorney because you are conspiring to commit a criminal offense with your boyfriend. Are you out of your mind? Putting spy cameras in the toilet to watch other people??? The poster didn't sound like she was going to do it. Talking about it isn't a crime. She doesn't need an attorney. The boyfriend does sound like a rotten piece of work, though. I try to say nice, positive things, but, really, that is pretty awful.
Author BBG Posted July 17, 2010 Author Posted July 17, 2010 thanks for the replies. I think I know what I should do.
counterman Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 That's sick. I thought when I read the title that your boyfriend kept having a go at your own breasts and perhaps likes them so much he cannot resist. But this? Er. Yes, you do know what to do.
Blade Runner Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 The problem is, he got so curious on how other girls' breast will look like that he asked and multiple times persuaded me to put a spy-cam in my toilet. The plan is, he wants me to ask my friends for a sleep over (my best girlfriends), let the spy-cam on while they are bathing and.. you can figure what happens next.[/Quote] I hope this is a troll account, if so...not quite sure what to think, not really that funny or clever, if not - what the hell kind of guy is this? That's just plain sick. Why are you still with him if other girls/breasts/whatever are on his mind all the time?
Author BBG Posted July 17, 2010 Author Posted July 17, 2010 this is real alright. I don't know why am I still with him. He promised he won't ask me anymore. But can I count on that? He says he loves me and wouldn't ever want to hurt me or lose me.
counterman Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Actions speak louder than words, that's the most important thing I have learnt from being in my last relationship. Anyone that can that. Hell, I can say that to you right now. Think about how this is making you feel, and be brutally honest with yourself because it is certainly affecting you negatively.
threebyfate Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 this is real alright. I don't know why am I still with him. He promised he won't ask me anymore. But can I count on that? He says he loves me and wouldn't ever want to hurt me or lose me. IF this is real and I remain unconvinced, you're focused on the wrong issue. The guy's a sicko. Punt his sorry arse out the door. Time to move on.
Author BBG Posted July 17, 2010 Author Posted July 17, 2010 He tries to joke with it and doesn't mean anything too. When I take it personally and tell that he shouldn't have said that, he would say I'm putting the blame on him. I don't want to make a mistake to end our relationship because of this. As a person, he is really nice and like a best friend. I mean, people have their fantasies right?
hopesndreams Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 I mean, people have their fantasies right? Ummm, yeah....as long as it stays a fantasy! With the way today's world is, and the people in it, he might just act it out, with your blessing.
Author BBG Posted July 17, 2010 Author Posted July 17, 2010 I will never set a friend up like that. It is betrayal to the max! I'm trying to make it stay as only a fantasy. Wish me luck.
norajane Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 But he promised me he wouldn't do it anymore. And words are easy to say. He's my first boyfriend and I really do think he's a keeper. What else can I do if I don't want to break this relationship up? In terms of other things, he's good. This is the only problem that gives me a very hard time. No, he's not a keeper. Not at all. Are you two 15 or something? Because that's the only thing I can think of that would make a guy think this was a good idea, and the only reason I can think of that you would entertain the idea in the first place instead of dumping him on the spot. If he's 15, yeah, he's going to be obsessed with boobies and seeing other girls' boobies. He's not going to stop wanting that. And you, YOU should learn RIGHT NOW that a guy who makes requests like these is NOT a keeper. In fact, he's the epitome of a loser. Don't be such a doormat that you accept this kind of guy in your life. There are plenty of other, better guys out there. Find one.
Author BBG Posted July 17, 2010 Author Posted July 17, 2010 Thanks for the wake up call.. We may be young but not 15... Loveshack is awesome
lordWilhelm Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 You say that he says this lightly and makes jokes about it. But there are tears and broken promises, and at the end of the day he asked you to do something illegal and that's downright disrespectful to everyone concerned. This is a great big red flag, and if you won't break up with him over this you should at least to tell him this is VERY serious.
Stung Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 But he promised me he wouldn't do it anymore. And words are easy to say. He's my first boyfriend and I really do think he's a keeper. What else can I do if I don't want to break this relationship up? In terms of other things, he's good. This is the only problem that gives me a very hard time. He's not a keeper. To be blunt, your boyfriend? Is a sexual predator. He has no respect for women, for privacy, for other people's rights to their own body. He has no respect for you, he wants to use you as some kind of pimp, to your own friends. He wants to make you break the law, and lie. You do know that what he's talking about is a crime, right? It's not normal. It says terrible things about his boundaries and the way he deals with other people and the world. There is nothing you can do, you can't make another person become wonderful and moral when they are not, no matter how many other aspects of him you like. You can either accept him as he is, and reconcile yourself to the fact that he is a predator and one day you will find the police at your door and have to live with the knowledge that he did something terrible to someone else, or you can sever all ties with him now and ask him to get professional help. Please understand that if you give in and do what he wants you to do you will be betraying your friends' trust, violating their rights, and breaking the law. I would have already dumped this guy so fast his head would be spinning, and alerted the local police to keep an eye out for him in the future.
LondonS Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 wow- I am surprised you had to ask on a forum what should u do about this... thats like a limit of being naive... you are dating a mentally ill Psycho...so advice is to > DUMP HIM ..if you aint worked that out for urself yet !
Untouchable_Fire Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 He tries to joke with it and doesn't mean anything too. When I take it personally and tell that he shouldn't have said that, he would say I'm putting the blame on him. I don't want to make a mistake to end our relationship because of this. As a person, he is really nice and like a best friend. I mean, people have their fantasies right? Yes, but he has asked you to violate the privacy of your friends. Actually it's much worse than that... what he asked you to do is very illegal. I'm just guessing that he has been putting lots of thought into this. I think he needs help... therapy or something. Otherwise he may escalate this voyeuristic behavior into something much more dangerous.
bac Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 I will never set a friend up like that. It is betrayal to the max! I'm trying to make it stay as only a fantasy. Wish me luck. I think you might do treesomes, group sex or soft swap of GFs. So, he can observe plenty of new breasts.
Serenitynow Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 Dump him. He sounds like a creep. LOL sounds like a creep ? This guy is psycho! He reminds me of the weirdos on the crime stories that talk their wife into helping them kidnap girls and have their way with them. Dont be surprised if he does this without your knowledge, or already has it hooked up. .
Ruby Slippers Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 He's not a keeper. To be blunt, your boyfriend? Is a sexual predator. He has no respect for women, for privacy, for other people's rights to their own body. He has no respect for you, he wants to use you as some kind of pimp, to your own friends. He wants to make you break the law, and lie. You do know that what he's talking about is a crime, right? It's not normal. It says terrible things about his boundaries and the way he deals with other people and the world. There is nothing you can do, you can't make another person become wonderful and moral when they are not, no matter how many other aspects of him you like. You can either accept him as he is, and reconcile yourself to the fact that he is a predator and one day you will find the police at your door and have to live with the knowledge that he did something terrible to someone else, or you can sever all ties with him now and ask him to get professional help. Please understand that if you give in and do what he wants you to do you will be betraying your friends' trust, violating their rights, and breaking the law. I would have already dumped this guy so fast his head would be spinning, and alerted the local police to keep an eye out for him in the future. Ditto. I'm also having trouble believing this account is real. But yeah, major creep, loser, and predator.
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