nry Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Well sorry to bore you all with this, but just feel I need to tell someone the full story as I am going out of my mind!! And hope to god she dosent use this forum! Basically been with this girl for four months, started out at uni then went long distance (1 1/2 hr to 2hr traviling). Now everything was o.k to start with, we got along so well. But one small problem. First time we tried to sleep together I was drunk, very drunk which led to it not working. Second time same happened (im a virgin btw, this has happened a number of times when drunk before with other people!). And from this caused me to develop some stupid performance anxiety which carried on the whole term of the relationship. She said I shouldnt take viagra to try boost my confidence back up so was a little like hmm how do I get over this. Anyway we would see each other every 2-3 weeks. And everything would be brilliant besides this one problem! Anyway last weekend when I went to visit everything was fine. Chatting away happily, she was pretty much all over me and honestly everything felt normal. 2 Days later she rings me to tell me its not working and that she dosent think she feels the same way about me any more. And she is finding the whole distance thing really difficult and promises me that its not because of the issue I was having. After this I said I just said this isnt what I want, but you cant help the way you feel. To which she replied it isnt what she wants, but its not fair on me she keeps doubting it and she is going to miss me. Was someother stuff said which I cant really remember, then I just said im cutting all contact with you and have done so. Now all I want is her back! Although I know its probably a bad idea, she goes travilling in a year, so its not going to work out long term. And can I blame her for leaving me after this problem? I think I would have done the same! But dosent change how I feel I just need someone to tell me to man up or something, I dont know. Just going crazy at the thought its over just like that. To go from being so close that weekend to being single just feels weird! As I love her so much, and cant stop thinking about this which is seriouslly ****** my work up!
Author nry Posted July 17, 2010 Author Posted July 17, 2010 And one more thing, I try telling myself that I will get over it, I will find someone else but its just not what I want! Cant help but feel the whole problem was the cause of this in the first place!
BellaBellaBella Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 I think the sexual issue probably had an impact. It sounds like anxiety. Next relationship skip the drinks prior to the attempt.
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