Els Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 I'm not usually a social person, but I figured I should probably try and get to know my new housemate better. So while we were chatting in the living room, the conversation turned to malls, and in my newfound eagerness to make some friends in this new place, I spontaneously asked her if she'd like to go to some mall that neither of us had been to. She seemed quite happy and agreed. Now, I LIKE her, but in my spontaneity I completely forgot that I'd be on the second day of my period tomorrow, which would render me very crampy, bloated, and cranky, plus I probably wouldn't be getting much sleep tonight since the bf is staying over but working tomorrow so I'll be awakened at 7am when he gets up. Plus I'll be trying a tampon to sleep for the first time tonight since I really want to avoid having to wash off all the mess in the ice-cold toilet early tomorrow morning, which might make OCD ol' me not be able to fall asleep easily, methinks. I can't exactly explain all this to a new acquaintance, although my bf and close friends would totally get it. Besides, I figure most people would probably not even consider this as a barrier to going out. What should I do? I'm beginning to think I'm just not cut out to be social.
zengirl Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 I wouldn't say any of that, because, yes, that is anything but normal. If something like that is keeping you from getting out of the house with a new potential friend to a mall you want to go to, I think you might want to consider trying something to help you get past these things because it'd be a happier life, really. That said. . . that isn't going to be worked out in a day, so I'd just say "I'm not feeling well -- I've got a bad case of cramps" since your housemate is a girl, too. I've known some girls with really debilitating cramps where moving was difficult, so even without the complicated mental somersaults of issues you put out here, they've canceled things now and again when life struck. Me? I got migraines when I was younger. I've had to cancel on someone because of a debilitating migraine, and it didn't make the person hate me forever.
Citizen Erased Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 To be honest, it sounds like you're grabbing at anything as an excuse to get out of it. Given you asked her, it's rather rude of you to cancel for things like that. Being as you're in a country away from your family and friends, it probably can't hurt to stick to these plans and possibly make a friend. Especially as you've mentioned you're not entirely thrilled with your current living situation as it is.
Author Els Posted July 17, 2010 Author Posted July 17, 2010 To be honest, it sounds like you're grabbing at anything as an excuse to get out of it. Given you asked her, it's rather rude of you to cancel for things like that. Being as you're in a country away from your family and friends, it probably can't hurt to stick to these plans and possibly make a friend. Especially as you've mentioned you're not entirely thrilled with your current living situation as it is. Yeah, it sounds like that, doesn't it? That's the biggest problem, I'm afraid it'll sound like that to her. I really hate doing lots of walking when my cramps are eating me up, though, and I definitely wouldn't be the funnest person to go out with if I'm severely lacking in sleep. Especially on a first-outing kind of thing. Zengirl, I think I'll probably do what you suggested if the cramps get really bad, but go if they aren't. But.. how do I put it, I just feel I should be warning her that they probably will be there tomorrow so she should probably make other plans, instead of wait-and-seeing, and telling her at the last minute.
Author Els Posted July 22, 2010 Author Posted July 22, 2010 Well, I went anyway. It was... okay. She was the typical Asian conservative woman... very polite and prim and proper. Took a HUGE amount of effort on my part to maintain decent polite conversation, but in the end I guess it was somewhat fun to go out with someone other than my bf for the first time in this new country. On the other hand, I hung out at the bf's place a couple of days ago (visitors are allowed even though staying over isn't), and met his guy housemate, the three of us played lots of video games together, and I let go and had fun pretty quickly. Maybe I'm just not made to hang out with other girls. Meh.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted July 22, 2010 Posted July 22, 2010 Well, I went anyway. It was... okay. She was the typical Asian conservative woman... very polite and prim and proper. Took a HUGE amount of effort on my part to maintain decent polite conversation, but in the end I guess it was somewhat fun to go out with someone other than my bf for the first time in this new country. On the other hand, I hung out at the bf's place a couple of days ago (visitors are allowed even though staying over isn't), and met his guy housemate, the three of us played lots of video games together, and I let go and had fun pretty quickly. Maybe I'm just not made to hang out with other girls. Meh. Im glad it worked out in the end for you some what El. Guess now im just curious what kind of rental place doesn't allow overnight visits?
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