Would any woman date a guy like me?

[You'reasian]

I posted a similar thread in another forum and haven't gotten some good answers. Thanks!! Here's the thread BTW:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t237589

 

Anyways, Im a soon to be college student that has cleft lip/palate and I know that unless Im basically almost superman I have NO hope of getting a girlfriend so when I turn 30 I would like to have done all of the following. If I accomplish everything will any girl go out with me at age 30 or am I still screwed because of my cleft lip/palate. My voice is nasally and I have a significant scar. My teeth are also slightly crooked but thats the least of my worries as most people don't notice (I have small chompers haha)

 

Anyways, here is the hypothetical me (its a lot but for someone with cleft it will most likely be needed to get a girlfriend)

 

1. graduate from yale law school top of my class with my own company

2. incredibly nice and humble but confident. Very easy to talk to and trustworthy.

3. leave yale and start making $200,000.

4. start making $2,000,000 at age 28 and run my own public company.

5. have the physique of a world renowned athlete.

6. good facial characteristics minus the cleft.

6. own a jet, a small plane, and a helicopter, and I can fly them all.

7. regular contender in things like ironman triathlon.

8. speak English (native), Chinese, Spanish, French, and Japanese fluently. Also speak some Korean and Russian.

9. world traveler and humanitarian.

10. very disciplined and hard working but easy going at the same time.

 

Any other recommendations?

 

You skipped personality traits for the most part. The very last of your traits was very disciplined and hard working, but easy going. Those are some great goals though.

 

How important is personality in a relationship and building chemistry?

 

Your post obsesses with things that are somewhat skin deep. As if a few miniscule physical flaws have to be overcompensated by drastic financial/career ones. What about your inner-self?

 

Judging from this one post, you don't know yourself very well....

 

Would any woman date a guy like you?

 

Of course they would. Look at the women you've dated before.

 

Are you sure you're not trying to ask about someone else that you might be jealous of?

Edited July 18, 2010 by You'reasian

[ttkels]

Yeah, I don't you have to do all of that! If a girl wants you once you've done or have all of those things, she doesn't deserve you because she only wants the material things. Those things can vanish quickly. I do agree that you will need to meet a mature woman who is gonna like you for you and not your physical features.

 

Thanks for the advice!! However, I've actually noticed the opposite. However, then again, Im young and maybe when girls mature (i.e. out of college) things will change. Anyways, I usually do pretty good with the talking part of relationships and I actually joke that Im kinda like a shrink that doesn't need blue cross health insurance LOL. However, whenever I start getting physically close to a girl (Not sexually but like hugging, arm around, sitting on laps), the girl starts to avoid me. I'm not overbearing and have patience but every girl just wants to be friends with me AT BEST. Most girls avoid me all together and won't even talk to me or look at me. I've actually done quite well talking to a few girls because Im easy to talk to but beyond that, I've done horrible.

[classof2014]

Thanks for the advice everyone. However, I must say. Women do seem to like me on a social/emotional level as people tell me I am nice, easygoing, and understanding (which doesn't seem to be very common among men my age?). However, whenever the relationship with the girl progresses to anything physical (even hugging sometimes), the girl abruptly pulls away. I keep myself clean and smelling good so its not BO. I also shave so its not facial hair. I don't think Im moving too fast because lots of my friends hug girls just as friends and many even have f--k buddies. Will this problem continue throughout my life? Remember, I just want to have 1 stable girlfriend by the time Im 30...is that to much to ask?

[classof2014]

Does anyone have any advice as to when women will become more understanding of my facial differences?

[classof2014]

Any advice? I could really use it.