harkkam Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Me and my ex have a mutual friend and my ex doesnt know that our mutual friend talks to me as well. So the mutual friend told me that she dated this guy about a month ago and no longer is dating him and is dating no one currently. We broke up about three months ago. The mutual friend asked if she ever would see me again and she said "I dont want to ever see him again that way he is right now unless he becomes this beautiful free bird" and my friend said she said it with passion like it would be awesome voice. We dated for a year and it was a bad break up. I have been NC now for a month. I am mad that she would date another guy so fast that she would just throw out our relationship so fast. The thought that she would hook up with some guy after loving her for a year just makes me want to punch her in the face. Even though she isnt dating anyone now, I just feel betrayed by her and I dont know why I still want her back. She disrespected me by dating this guy even after we broke up, she is saying through her actions that "I have no feelings for you and I dont care for you" Why is it that I keep thinking about her. He asked her last week and she said to that she wouldnt see me "unless he became this beautiful bird" The mutual friend suggests that I date and be a better person and six months from now that I could contact her and that he would try and setup a coffee date said he would try his best. Really nice guy and friend to me. ---- But I want revenge on throwing out our relationship. For hooking up with guys and making me feel worthless after all the energy I put. ---- I am lost confused and hurt and I dont know what to do? -Should I think about contacting her six months from now? -Should I say "no I dont want a woman like her, I deserve better especially after she hooked up with someone" ---- I dont know what to do
Username37 Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Dude. My ex-girlfriend hooked up with some dude 3 weeks after our break up. It hurts. The fact she just throws herself to a guy SHE JUST MET. And the dude is a total player who pretends to care about her, when really he just wants one thing ya know? My ex is pretty much another tally for the guy. Gah it pisses me off. Makes us feel worthless and betrayed. Like we've been cheated on. Dude, ignore her. Let her crash and burn. Let her realize the love that she lost. Good luck to you
McGrupp Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 keep your cool. give it another month and maybe change FOR YOU and recoonect. but until you CHANGE SOMETHING (your job, your clothes your attitude) it will never work. **** my ex banged a 45 yr old dude (shes 23 at the time) like 2 weeks after the split.
spriggig Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 But I want revenge on throwing out our relationship. For hooking up with guys and making me feel worthless after all the energy I put. Wanting revenge is obsession talking, not love. She can't "make" you feel anything--don't blame her or anyone else for what YOU feel. Your feelings and thoughts are yours alone. Take full responsibility for your thoughts and feelings, and you'll take another step toward becoming a man.
Bobby2010 Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 My slut , ex-fiance slept with a guy days after we broke up. It sucks, but you need to realize you aren't at fault. And you need to forget the 6-month nonsense. Do your best not to think about her.
carhill Posted July 18, 2010 Posted July 18, 2010 When the threads about high numbers and women pop up, and men express their feelings about what high numbers mean, the anecdotes shared in this thread go a long way to supporting those perspectives. Ex bones 45 y/o guy; ex has sex with someone two days after breakup. etc, etc. Yes, there were boots parked at stbx's door, the door I so nicely refinished, shortly after we separated (we're married, but no much longer). Gasp, surprise, yep, she's a high numbers gal. So, hence, perhaps as with others, she knows it's easy to gain the favor of another orbiter and does so with little thought or compunction. With the help of LS, I came to *expect* this behavior and am accepting of it. LS taught me to be more *selective* in the future in this regard. I dont know what to do Yes, that's a common feeling, along with nondescript but abject sadness. MC taught me about *acceptance*, more to recover the marriage than to deal with its loss, but the tools have worked well during the divorce process. It's literally seeing the 'fight' end and embracing the reality of the day as one's truth. Stop fighting reality. Reality is she's gone and f*cking someone else. Have at it. More power to you. Next
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