Feelin Frisky Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 It gets smaller if you replace it with something that works but it leaves a scar that won't go away. It was a big tragedy in one's life and depending upon the circumstances can be prickly even in your dreams until you die of old age.
spriggig Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 September, 1984. I'm sitting in the Honolulu Airport crying my eyes out because my first GF had just broken up with me. She had just moved there to go to college and be with her family and she called me and asked me to visit. It was the end of the world. Other GF's came and went but the first one hurt for years afterward. Maybe because we give ourselves so easily, freely and completely the first time. I still have a few memories I run across while rummaging around in my brain at night. A few mental snapshots--all the real photos are long gone. I can visit the memories and see us together, recall bits of conversations, etc. and feel only nostalgia and happiness for what we shared all those years ago. So that level of heartbreak can heal completely. But this, what I feel now at the end of my first and probably only marriage? It's not the end of the world, but I think I'd need longer than I have left to live to heal from this completely. I really hope I'm wrong about that.
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