buzzie2 Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 There is a guy that works in another department from mine. He seems nice but really shy. I have seen him staring at me from upstairs and at our morning briefings. There are not lustful they are kind of like a puppy dog look. This one day he came in on his day off. He didn't come into my department but stood outside of it. He just stared at me and was really obvious about it. I've also noticed that friends of his are being extra nice to me lately and he seems to be more cheerful around others. Does this mean he must really like me?
Author buzzie2 Posted July 17, 2010 Author Posted July 17, 2010 He doesn't seem like the type that would be psycho lol!
Enchanted Girl Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Well, he could be psycho anyway, but he might also be shy. I don't know. I know a lot of girls wait for a guy to ask them out, but I don't think guys should be forced to endure the entirety of that pressure. I asked my current boyfriend out myself actually and it was no big deal. He might be too shy and intimidated to make a move.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Isn't it kinda creepy just being stared at after a while? Maybe I'm ancient but I was told early on that it's not polite to stare. So, if you think he's zeroing in on you and you find him attractive and wouldn't mind breaking the ice with him--at least talking for crissake--go up to him and say: "you want?" If he acts like he doesn't know what you're talking about (which is what he'll most likely do if he's just shy--deny), you can say I was just teasing you with that "you want?" remark but it does seem like he's "looking" at you quite often and you have become curious if he'd like to meet and talk over coffee or some shi+. If he's an idiot savant he might start banging himself in the eye and telling you "of course you know it's time for Wapner". But if he is a normal and decent chap who just does want to get to know you past the staring state, he should say something like "sure, how about X,Y or Z?" all of them meaning something like breakfast or lunch in the coming days just to get the conversation rolling. After that you'll both have a better idea of what's what.
Disillusioned Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 You obviously can't help it if you're attractive, LOL! But seriously, it depends on whether he looks in your eyes or at your body. if it's the former, any number of things can be going through his mind. But if he mostly looks at your body, well... you can figure that one out pretty easily.
Author buzzie2 Posted July 17, 2010 Author Posted July 17, 2010 He definately looks in my eyes. And I have talked to him. The other day I said hi and asked him how he was doing. He got really shy and just said okay in a quiet voice. But I did notice that he was in a really good mood later in the day after I talked to him!
TheLoneSock Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Since when does staring mean psycho. That seems to be the go to assumption for so many people. Get real. OP, he's just shy and lacking confidence. It's up to you if you want to do his job and make the move, or wait an eternity for him to do it - key word eternity. Neither seem like great choices, I know. Maybe a fellow female LSer can give advice on how to induce more confidence in him, or get him to do what he's supposed to.
alyssatranswarrior Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 (edited) A shy puppy dog, attractive? IDK. Resorting to staring...idk. IMO it's not manly enough. Sure it's "cute" that he was chirpy after talking with you, but that's surely a minor achievement compared with the potential of dating him. Really you need to answer the question "Do i find him attractive and interesting, and would like to go on a date with him". The important distinction is... REGARDLESS of his possible like for you. If it is reciprocal, you should ask him out because he is too wimpy! If not, you should continue to talk in little bits only, and not lead him on. The other thing to consider is, if hes a collegue that could go weird if the dates don't work out Edited July 17, 2010 by alyssatranswarrior
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 He definately looks in my eyes. And I have talked to him. The other day I said hi and asked him how he was doing. He got really shy and just said okay in a quiet voice. But I did notice that he was in a really good mood later in the day after I talked to him! This is rather sweet, and I think your instincts are right on. I'm guessing you're not "Ruth Buzzie" (or even old enough to have a clue who that would be). So why not practice your own boldness and invite him to lunch or coffee one day?
USMCHokie Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 (edited) I actually like when I get stared at, whether it's guy or girl...but then again, I'm a huge attention whore... This past weekend, while I was running on a local trail that cuts through a very popular picnic area in DC, someone actually took a picture of me while I was running by...so that might be just as creepy as being stared at, no...? But to answer the question, I agree with all the others...he may just be insecure, unconfident, or just plain shy when it comes to women...I have a friend at the gym who's a bit of a creeper in that he kinda stares at women but is too scared to approach them and say hi...we make fun of him daily... It may not be ideal, but if you think he's attractive and might be interested in seeing him outside of work, then go ahead and help him out by making the first move...I don't buy into all that crap about girls having to always be passive and wait for the guy...regardless of your gender, if you're interested, then do something about it! Edited July 20, 2010 by USMCHokie
callingyouuu Posted July 20, 2010 Posted July 20, 2010 Haha, I've definitely given that stare before... another person guilty of shyness right here. I don't think he realizes that he's doing it at the moment, but curiosity and fascination sort of gets the better of him. What happens when you meet his gaze? As everyone else has said, I think he's definitely interested but just really shy about pulling the trigger.
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