nlw82 Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Well, I just wanted to see if anyone had any insight into dating after getting divorced. The idea just seems so daunting at the very least. After being married five years I feel like I have absolutely no clue what I'm doing. Which is probably the case . I also wanted to get opinions on whether it may be too early to think about dating again. Really my whole divorce blew up in January and went extremely quick as I understand it. Thanks!
alexlakeman Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 U make no indication if u r of male sex or female? I think it makes a difference. In general, I guess, start going to happy hour with freinds, hanging out with them, etc. The typical problem is that at this point, since u were married, most of ur freinds are not single, so they won't be into the single scene, but atleast u get out, have fun, maybe meet new potential mates through them. For me, I'm a big believer in match dot com etc. Good luck
Author nlw82 Posted July 16, 2010 Author Posted July 16, 2010 I think that my biggest problem is that I feel socially inept and I also feel like I'm getting old really fast. I'm 28 and I keep getting told that I'm still young but I certainly don't feel like it.
Southern Belle Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Hello from a fellow Kentuckian!! You may want to try Meetup.com. I just searched, and there are scads of groups listed for Louisville. These are just some of the groups.. Movie fans Reading Photography Philosophy Role-playing games Board games French/Spanish/Chinese language group meets Green living Salsa/Mambo dancing Golf/hiking/canoeing/kayaking/mountain biking Scuba diving (like, in the Ohio River?? Yikes!!! ) One group is for those dedicated to a Raw Foods diet One group is a Flash Mob activity group ( evidently, they flash mob bars and bowling alleys and such) Another group is for those who practice Witchcraft (would love to be a fly on the wall) There is also an active Singles group (they are meeting for Paintball on Saturday). I haven't had a chance to go to any meetups in my area yet due to work, but am looking into it. My area doesn't have nearly the number of groups that Louisville has. And, Good Lord!! You feel like you are "getting old fast", and you are only 28?! You have your whole life ahead of you, dear. I am also recently single again, in my early 40's, and don't feel like I should be put out to pasture just yet. Good luck to you!!
Author nlw82 Posted July 18, 2010 Author Posted July 18, 2010 Thank you for all the replies. I'll take some of that into consideration. I do have one other thing that is driving me nuts. Why is it that women cannot see decent people for who they are? I never boast about anything I do and I only mention this in relation to the question. A female friend of mine of smacked around by a guy and left on the highway tonight. I went out at 0430 to go pick her up and take her home. I was already awake...she didn't ask me to. I found out through a third party what happened. At my core this is who I am. I do not expect any reward for it or anything, and keep in mind this is a friend of mine and I'm not interested in her at all, but I have been talking to this other girl I know and she see cannot see that this is the kind of person I am. I'm not gonna go say anything about because that would contradict the reason I helped my friend in the first place...because it was the right thing to do. Just curious. I may be totally off base with this and I realize that.
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