EA reignited after 3 years of NC

[tattoo]

first of all, i don't believe the story about your H's EA....that just seems to made up in order to get more lighter replies....if you are really tried too hard to get your M on track....as you put it...then you won't trash your "hard work" for the same man twice....so don't feed the bull....get the D and let your H be free from you...from your depiction i don't really see any problem in his life except you....i am sure he will be happy.....did you really stop the affair....?????....did you really confess your A....???

 

I am NOT lying about his EA.

 

Considering I had been involved in my own EA/PA, I kind of could see the signs on his side. Long guarded phone calls, he would sit in his car in the garage for 30 minutes or more talking before finally coming into the house. Weekend calls, evening calls that were answered quickly and he'd go into the other room. I could see her name came up on the phone because of call display. Lots of messaging on the phone. I talked to him about it and he CONFIRMED IT he was talking alot to her but he didn't consider it an affair, they were just friends. It wasn't just friends. Takes a cheater to know one, unfortunately.

 

Believe me, I confessed the affair, he knew. I was frightened the night I told him, he threw things around and hit the walls a few times. I can't forget that. He was pissed, alright. So, yeah, I did confess.

 

Maybe I am the problem in his life, you could be right.

[U2RockZz]

"Believe me, I confessed the affair, he knew. I was frightened the night I told him, he threw things around and hit the walls a few times. I can't forget that. He was pissed, alright. So, yeah, I did confess."

 

mmm....you can't forget that night,yet you couldn't wait to reengage in your A.... which is really unbelievable......i still don't understand why are you asking for MC,IC....don't you think it's waste of time , money for him.....while you are experiencing butterflies from your OM.....i don't see any point in there.....

 

 

6 yrs is really awful amount time to waste on a serial cheater.....get a D for every ones sake

[WalkInThePark]

I -ironically he wants another child - I cannot even begin to contemplate the rationale of this, as how can we have another baby when we still haven't fixed our marriage?

 

Don't go there. It's probably a way he thinks he can get you stuck in your marriage.

 

My first impression is that you don't have enough emotional intimacy in your relationship. You have to figure out if that can change. Maybe you need to put a deadline on it.

 

The fact that he is a good man is not enough. You can't be married to no matter what good person.

[Confused_in_canada]

Hey Finally found your thread,

 

So emotional intimacy with your husband is huge! If he isn't willing to meet you there then he isn't willing to meet you anywhere. If he can't meet you in MC either than it's time to truly cut the cord. I've learned alot over the last few weeks and one of the things I've learned is to truly act on your feelings and stop the wavering.

 

It's a shame that it takes a serious wakeup call to get things bumped in the right direction but, if things aren't going to change then it's time to shift your responsibilities and look after you!

 

I've tried to regain the intimacy and it just doesn't seem to work, it's hard, and so is a marriage but, if you both Seriously want it to work you have to work as a team to make it work. As I said before over in my dramatic life if your the only one pulling the sled and nobody wants to help, sooner or later you'll burn out and there won't be any body there to help you...

 

I'm scared as hell as to what the next few months bring for me but, if it brings happiness to both of us then we are both ahead of the game!

 

Good luck, stay positive and Get Strong.... Funnily enough I found the Eminem Song - "Not Afraid" a great motivator!!!!

 

CC

[turnera]

Why don't you just tell him that he's one step away from being single?

[2sunny]

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