IfiKnewThen Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 has anyone has success in getting their love or partner or significant other back? especially when it all looked hopeless and the other person seemed adament about not wanting you back?
whichwayisup Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Are you the OW, in hopes the MM will choose you? Most that are the dumpers, usually don't go looking to get back together. Especially if they're adament about not wanting you back.
mmk1 Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Yes, many times over our 5 year A. We have a vicious cycle where each one has had enough, rips the other's heart out and then later we get back together, anywhere from a month or two to a year later. My experience tells me people in As are disfunctional, and I am certainly including myself. As for MW and MM in affairs, I am a MM involved with a MW, they also tend to be in unfulfilling marriages which they refuse to leave for all the traditional reasons. BTW, we just broke up again yesterday as she again realized it was the right thing to do, for like the 5th time. I could wait around again for her, but I have to ask myself why. My advice, that I wish I could take myself, is stop thinking about getting back together and, if single, find someone else who is single and available, or, if married, examine your marriage to see if you want to save it or leave it and then act accordingly. Forget about the other person if you want to be happy. This post is a moment of clarity for me and I hope it helps you.
Fieldsofgold Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Yes, there have been several times when I have gotten back together with someone. It ended up being just as much an exercise in futility the second time, as the first. The "getting back togethers" were successful. The gotten-back-together relationships never were. At some point I came to realize that typically, the reason the relationship didn't work out the first time, is the same reason it won't work out the second or third time.
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