terminalmoraine Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 We dated for nine months and met on holiday He dumped me during my exams and said he couldnt continue in the relationship because the love wasn't equal and I deserve someone that can make me truly happy This was like 2 and a half months ago Hes never contacted me since that night at all Wondering is that usual for guys to do after a break up like go totally no contact with an ex? Do you think he has just erased me from his mind? Thanks
MissIceCream Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Hey, only one way to find out. Give him a quick text saying like you were at one of the restaurant you guys use to go out to, and that you thought of him, and was just wondering how he was doing. Keeping it light and fun. It's the best way to know. I'm sure he'll answer and you can figure it out from there. Good luck!
LoveTruthChaos Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Do NOT contact him. Don't let him know that you're thinking of him. You need to be strong....silence speaks louder than words. And yes, they do erase you completely. It sucks, but they do it.
counterman Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 I concur; do NOT contact him. I do not know the circumstances at which the break-up happened but it is irrelevant. If he didn't feel the same about you as you did about him, then he did the right thing by moving on. He did the right thing by both of you. That is further justified by the fact that he didn't contact you since to, say, make himself feel less guilty. Honest to God, after being with someone that long, it is hard to forget. BUT, he is moving on and so should you. I bet you that my ex has completely forgotten about me, dead-set. Hell, she is dating one of my former friends. Have I forgotten her? Of course not. It is normal to wonder and care, but do what's best for you and that is by moving on. Easier said than done. Focus on exercise, hanging out with your friends, trying a new class e.g. cooking, tennis lessons, etc., doing something you've always wanted to do, go shopping, whatever that makes you happy. If you're wondering if he's thinking about you, tell yourself "who cares!" and quickly get on with doing something. You'll be right;)
threebyfate Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 What he does or doesn't do, is no longer your concern. Stay away from that slippery slope. If he can go 2.5 months with no contact, he's not worth your time, energy or emotion. Keep moving on. It will take awhile but as each day, week, month clocks off, it only gets better until you feel like you're finally free of an unwanted and unnecessary ball and chain. You can do it!
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