BigMoney694 Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Bear with me...this will take a while to lay out. I met a young woman who took my breath away at a train station about three months ago. We sat next to each other on the train and really hit it off. She was visibly interested in me. We departed, not expecting to run into each other again. However, we met again on a train back home a week later. We discovered that we lived approximately 40 minutes away from each other, and exchanged contact info. For the next month and a half, we kept in touch by texting and calling each other. We flirted playfully, and had many meaningful conversations that lasted several hours. I initiated most of the contact (she struck me as the feminine type who would be attracted to this initiative). I would call or text about once a day, and if she wasn't answering, I would never text more than three times a day. I asked her if this was too clingy, and she vehemently told me this was not the case. We had talked about going out at the train station, so after a few weeks of calling, we arranged to go out that weekend. Unfortunately, we were a few days from going out when she got ill with mono. I know for sure she was not faking this, as her friends and family kept posting get-well messages on her Facebook wall. I had no idea she had mono (I thought she just had a small illness), so I expected her to get better in a week or so. I left her alone for a week or so to heal, sending her occasional messages to let her know I cared. A week later, I ask if she's feeling better. She was not, so I became somewhat skeptical. I asked her what she had, and said if the problem was that she didn't want to go out, it was all good, and that I respect her decision. She told me she had mono, so I apologized for second-guessing the problem, and told her to get well soon. She (understandably) fell out of contact with all of her friends and me for several weeks. During this time, I sent her a romantic acrostic poem I wrote for our date, to help her feel better. Anyways, I called about two weeks ago; she answered, and we had another long conversation. She seemed just as interested in me as she was before her virus (lots of giggling and whatnot). She was headed out of state for a week, but told me I should call her when she returned. I asked if she still wanted to go our, and she said 'sure'. Her vacation week passed, so I tried calling. No answer. I tried calling several times throughout the week, and left a message to tell her I was free for our date. Still no answer. Finally, I saw her online on Facebook, so I initiated a chat. She told me she was busy working all week, and that she didn't know if the date would work. I told her I was willing to work around this. Chat stops working. I check her profile...and couldn't. She had blocked me from her page. I cannot contact her on Facebook, and I assume she won't answer any texts or calls either. I am utterly confused as to why her interest in me has dropped so drastically, seemingly within just a week, after months of obvious mutual interest. Why did she suddenly block me and start ignoring me, is there any way I can win her back, and how? I have grown very strong feelings for her and wish nothing but the best for her. Thanks!
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 It sounds like you went way too far with your attentions before your first date even happened. I think you may have overpursued. That sort of thing can be a turnoff - it is just too 'easy', no challenge, no mystery, and it gets old fast. Some people like that sort of thing I guess, but most don't. As for why she dropped off like she did - she likely met someone else and decided to pursue him instead. There is no point in trying to win her back. Anything you do now will appear to her to be stalkerish since she made it clear that she was done.
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