I dumped my girl because she was acting different and now i want her back!

[Iloveyou4ever]

So me and my ex gf had been dating for 4 years!! and i have to say best freaking years i have ever had with her she was really in love with me!! we lived together..but we fought a lot and i guess she felt unappreciated and well last month i broke up with her because she was acting different....but i realized she was truly the one for me and i messed things up...when i tried to get her back....she said that maybe it was for the best and that she was going to worry about herself and that hurt me like no other and while that was happening her ex bf found her on fb and they started talking (they dated in h.s) and so now he took my place!! just after 2 weeks of breaking up with me....i dont understand how someone can just fall out of love that quickly! we went out last week to the movies...and well she said that she feels so bad for whats happening...she said ill always be a part of her life and that she loves me...and we had went to see eclipse lol adn she said she feels like bella...deep inside of me i know she still has feelings for me..idk how to fight for her...because i know shes the one for me...and i told her ill be waiting as long as i can for her.....how do i show her that i really do love her? because i cant just let some one else take the love of my life....many people tell me to move on but thats not hwo i feel it in my heart..my heart and mind are telling me to wait for her and fight...help!!!!!

[Incognito3]

my recommendation would be to go into "no contact"... you have made your wishes clear to her and if you keep "fighting for her", i think you are going to push her further away. if you go into "no contact" you are showing her that you have a life and that you are not desperate. no one wants to be with someone who seems desparate.

 

i am a strong believer in that people want what they cannot have... if you two were meant to be, after being away from you for a while, she will realize what she is missing and come back.

 

that's my two cents!! hope that helps

[AlwaysConflicted]

You should trust your instincts. There is a reason why you dumped her. And I'm guessing there is a reason why you want her back. Maybe you want what you can't have. Maybe you're lonely. She's been in your life so long its hard to remember how to live by yourself.

 

When she said, "maybe it's for the best" that was a nail in the coffin. That means she's been thinking about your relationship lately and thinks your first instincts were correct.

 

You should go no contact. It's your only chance. If you truly love her and if she truly loves you, it will work out.

[LucreziaBorgia]

i broke up with her because she was acting different....

 

This is a pretty clear indication that she was laying the groundwork with this guy before you broke up. Consider it a plus that you broke up with her before you caught her cheating on you.

 

People don't fall out of love quickly. They fall out of love slowly and you don't even see evidence of it until it is too late to reverse the process. By the time you see it, they have already found someone else and you are on the way out. That 'acting different' was near the end of the process, not the beginning of it. They hide it pretty well for as long as some part of them wants to stay, but as soon as they decide it is over - that is when you begin to see it.

[EYECANDY000]

The best thing for you to do right nmow is leave her alone. You have to remember that you broke up with her. Now that she has reconnected with her ex bf the only thing you can do by keep texting her is drive her further away. trust me if she has someone occupying her time and mind at this moment she isnt thinking about you. Not to say she probaly wont miss you, but shes with someone else right now.

 

Right now, give her , her space.. and when shes ready to come back then she will. but I think trying to fight for her will lead to you being more hurt.