StoptheDrama Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 It's official!! Many of you may know from previous threads that I currently work with my xMM but have been looking for a new job. Well, I got it. I just returned yesterday from a 3 day trip (2 day interview process), signed and returned my offer letter this afternoon (at work...how unprofessional of me ) and submitted my resignation. I am finally free!!! OK, in 2 weeks, I will finally be free :D:D I no longer have to deal with him- this is an amazing feeling!!! I start my new job September 7th and, in 4 weeks, there will be 2,023 miles between us - give or take a mile :D:D:D:D ((laughing)) In my excitement, I accidentally started this thread as a response to one I was reading...blame it on giddy fingers!
silverplanets Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 It's official!! Many of you may know from previous threads that I currently work with my xMM but have been looking for a new job. Well, I got it. I just returned yesterday from a 3 day trip (2 day interview process), signed and returned my offer letter this afternoon (at work...how unprofessional of me ) and submitted my resignation. I am finally free!!! OK, in 2 weeks, I will finally be free :D:D I no longer have to deal with him- this is an amazing feeling!!! I start my new job September 7th and, in 4 weeks, there will be 2,023 miles between us - give or take a mile :D:D:D:D ((laughing)) In my excitement, I accidentally started this thread as a response to one I was reading...blame it on giddy fingers! Great news stoptd. I am pleased for you and having left the country all those years ago after the orignal A ended I know how healing distance can be. I hope you will be able to leave without any comments to him .. no more drama ... just keep professional until you go and leave with your head held high. good luck and good job (literally !!!) :)
Author StoptheDrama Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 Great news stoptd. I am pleased for you and having left the country all those years ago after the orignal A ended I know how healing distance can be. I hope you will be able to leave without any comments to him .. no more drama ... just keep professional until you go and leave with your head held high. good luck and good job (literally !!!) :) silverplanets - thanks for the kind words. Nothing changes on my part with regard to my interaction with him-professional to the end. I will walk out that door for the last time with my head held high and a huge grin on my face :D The word must be spreading already - xMM just called to congratulate me. What a hilarious voicemail!! Apparently, he will miss me 'dearly', wants to stay in contact, and is very proud of me...:sick::sick:
jj33 Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Congratulations I am so happy for you!!! A whole new chapter of your life. New part of the country even (if its 2000+miles!) It shouldnt matter but nonetheless I am glad he did the right thing and left a nice message. If he hadnt it would have made a little bit of a difference even tho you are over him. I just got a huge accolade (press releases and everything) has he mentioned it in any of the emails he has sent to me? added a congratulations on xyz in an email. no its as if it didnt even happen so far as he is concerned. And yes he knows.
silverplanets Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 silverplanets - thanks for the kind words. Nothing changes on my part with regard to my interaction with him-professional to the end. I will walk out that door for the last time with my head held high and a huge grin on my face :D The word must be spreading already - xMM just called to congratulate me. What a hilarious voicemail!! Apparently, he will miss me 'dearly', wants to stay in contact, and is very proud of me...:sick::sick: Hi stoptd, I'm just really pleased for you ... On the bold though ... what are you going to do about this. Not particuarly the voicemail (which can just be ignored) but the fact that you have a change coming up and this will, at times, feel a little lonely ... and xMM is going to quite happily keep emailing you and "pretending" he is there for you ... I guess what I am asking is are going to let this negative drain on your energy follow you as you move ... or are you going to change emails, change mobile and ensure you are beyond is desperate grasp ..???? It would be a little bit pointless to uproot your life like this and then leave a gap open that he can worm his way through ... btw - the fact that you've walked from him proves already that you don't need him to prosper ... so any hurdles you hit in your new job/location I have full confidence that you can accept, handle and overcome them entirely through your own strength and resourcefulness. Chris
silverplanets Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 Congratulations I am so happy for you!!! A whole new chapter of your life. New part of the country even (if its 2000+miles!) It shouldnt matter but nonetheless I am glad he did the right thing and left a nice message. If he hadnt it would have made a little bit of a difference even tho you are over him. I just got a huge accolade (press releases and everything) has he mentioned it in any of the emails he has sent to me? added a congratulations on xyz in an email. no its as if it didnt even happen so far as he is concerned. And yes he knows. Hi jj, My own view is that is doesn't matter ... not one bit ... unless you let it matter. I guess it depends upon the exact nature of the A, if they lied to you, if they threw you under the bus ,how much you've moved on since then etc ... Not one part of my life nowadays requires validation from xMW and hence what she does/doesn't think would be entirely inconsequential. If I heard that she had taken a lot of time for self-reflection and was now working with needy children or similar then I'd be genuinly pleased that she had discovered meaning to her life that wasn't to do with her, her, her ... but in terms of my life there's not one strand of it that in any way needing of validation from her. Or to put it more positively .. what I do nowadays I do primarily for me .. and the warm glow I get from that is not in any way dependant upon xMW's views on it. be safe Chris
jj33 Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 I guess I am not as evolved it did matter to me. He has since acknowledged it and it didnt make it better or more important (I didnt do what I did for him it was nothing to do with him) but it was such a big milestone for me that his delay in commenting on it was notable in itself. Anyway Im glad Stop is moving on so she wont have to even consider these things.
Author StoptheDrama Posted July 16, 2010 Author Posted July 16, 2010 Hi stoptd, I'm just really pleased for you ... On the bold though ... what are you going to do about this. Not particuarly the voicemail (which can just be ignored) but the fact that you have a change coming up and this will, at times, feel a little lonely ... and xMM is going to quite happily keep emailing you and "pretending" he is there for you ... I guess what I am asking is are going to let this negative drain on your energy follow you as you move ... or are you going to change emails, change mobile and ensure you are beyond is desperate grasp ..???? It would be a little bit pointless to uproot your life like this and then leave a gap open that he can worm his way through ... btw - the fact that you've walked from him proves already that you don't need him to prosper ... so any hurdles you hit in your new job/location I have full confidence that you can accept, handle and overcome them entirely through your own strength and resourcefulness. Chris Silverplanets - Thanks again for the kind words :) After the voicemail, I decided that, with a change of scenery, my new start will also include a new cell phone number. As for email, he's been blocked from my personal account for a long time. The last thing I want or need is for him to try to reestablish something I have fought long and hard to leave behind. I want a new start all the way around and that is what I am getting. JJ - thank you for the kind words and encouragement!!! :) I have been waiting for this moment for a long time.
silverplanets Posted July 17, 2010 Posted July 17, 2010 Silverplanets - Thanks again for the kind words :) After the voicemail, I decided that, with a change of scenery, my new start will also include a new cell phone number. As for email, he's been blocked from my personal account for a long time. The last thing I want or need is for him to try to reestablish something I have fought long and hard to leave behind. I want a new start all the way around and that is what I am getting. JJ - thank you for the kind words and encouragement!!! :) I have been waiting for this moment for a long time. I am totally proud of you ....:rolleyes: I wouldn't criticise you if you didn't BUT given that you want a new start then I am so totally pleased that you are changing it. I love it when people take actions that match their words :rolleyes: No salmon here !!! (to keep in vogue with the current fish fascination !!!) Chris
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