ontheway Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 (edited) I'll try to make this short and easy to follow. Our stories nearly mirror each other. I'm 27, she's 28. We dated for a few months in 2002, we had a highly energetic, romantic relationship. We were young and both had ex's at this point. I broke it off way back then to go back to my ex, she went back to hers. She got married to the same guy in 2004, I got engaged to the same girl in 2007. We stayed in contact throughout our entire relationships, and even saw each other on occasion over the years. I felt like this is the woman I was supposed to be with all of these years, and I knew she felt the same. I ended up not marrying my girl, a year past and coincidentally moved very close to where she was living with her husband. She told me her marriage was failing, not happy, etc, we started seeing each other and within a week she moved out. Over the next few months, she told me she was going to see him to get the rest of her things out, a few nights she didn't return my calls, strange crying episodes, I know take a hint right?... the week of the divorce was hell for me, etc... They ended up getting the divorce (no kids, no house) We were seeing each other exclusively everyday and it was pure magic. I mean it just didn't get any better than this. I built this up in my head for years, and now I finally had the woman of my dreams, we treated each other with absolute respect and love while together. 8 months into it, she moved in with me. After 1 week of living with me, she came home late on a week night saying she had been with her girlfriend. She was crying, distraught, a complete mess. Obviously something was wrong, she said she gets this way sometimes...ok. A few days later, she foolishly asked me to check the weather on her phone and bam, a barrage of text messages from the ex and her. She was saying things like, I'm so messed up after seeing you, I still love you, I still care for you, I don't know what to do I'm living here now. etc... I told her to get out, she did. A week later we got back together, not living with me, and it's never been the same. She hides her phone, is mysteriously checking it, I have even found more emails and texts back and fourth, she changed her number, only to give it to him again, the list of shady things goes on and on... We planned a trip to the beach for a week, thinking it would help us get past this... it had the opposite affect. When we got back things were even worse, I found messages actually on the trip, I questioned her about it multiple times... Clearly she is just not over her ex husband... now she says she needs space, she can't bring me down anymore with her, she is so sorry, I have to move on while she figures her life out... My question is what do I do now? Edited July 15, 2010 by ontheway
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