cupranod Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 My marriage is just about to come to an end,we separated 7 months ago having been together almost 8 years,and married for just over 3.We have a 4 year old Son. My Wife has filed for divorce,following a period of illness I had with serious depression;she said she had had enough of it.Obviously there's more to it,she had little physical interest in me for a long time and at times just seemed indifferent.She wasn't the most affectionate of people,very in control of her emotions and matter of fact. When we met,she was 3 months out of an 8 year relationship,and prior to that she was married for the same length of time before she ended that,leaving her then 3 year old with his Father as she 'thought he would have a better life'. She also has had several short relationships of 6 to 12 months. She does seem to move on very quickly,and after I moved out (even just before) she started seeing another man,which she still is,but describes him as 'adult conversation and company,and one of many friends'.Obviously she won't divulge to me what's going on due to divorce proceedings,but it's pretty obvious.I have asked her,but she rightly says to mind my own business and 'move on',which she has done rapidly!! She knows this man from her youth many years back. During my depression I felt very unwanted,and took myself off away at weekends just to get away.She thought I was having an affair,which I wasn't,and said she couldn't trust me.I did become friends (only!!) with another couple of women,which she didn't like! Now she says to me 'well it's ok for me to have a man friend,the same as you had women friends.'It's like she is trying to get back at me!! She glams herself up now,whereas she never bothered before,and seems completely over me.Is she rebounding? I know it changes nothing,but I'm trying to avoid another woman like it in the future.I'm hurting like hell,but will deal with it,whereas she seems fine. How the hell do people move from one relationship to another so fast!!?? Maybe she had emotionally checked out a long time before!
wrencn Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 My husband was a rebound relationship. I married him 4 months after I was left pregnant and alone by my first love. What starts in chaos ends in chaos. It is much easier to repress your feelings and jump into another relationship than it is to face your issues. You are going to drive yourself crazy wondering what your wife is thinking. She could also be dying on the inside but really great about showing a brave front. I thought my husband didn't care, when it was the exact opposite. But her feelings don't matter at this point. I know you don't want to hear that- I didn't either. I hope you find peace.
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