kemo10304 Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Hola LS community ..soo heres my predicament ..A co-worker and I have been flirting with each other for quite sometime, actually went out to eat and give each other hugs alot. Im 28 an she just turned 21. Ok so she's had a boyfriend for quite sometime since she was like 18 including when we went out together but she says she's tired of him cuz he doesnt treat her right but wont let him go. About 4mos. ago I was behind the receptionist desk with her and we were really diggin each other and her bf showed up then she reverted back to him, (mind u she told me at the time she didnt have a boyfriend) so then that made things pretty salty as she said i was violating her space. Now its like back to the same things, she's always telling me how she hates him but again she wont leave him. Wat are some suggestions in how to deal with this situation as im i really dig her but im not gonna let her make a fool of me again. Help please !!?? Lol ..Thx
ladydesigner Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 First it probably isn't a good idea to start a relationship with someone you work with. If she has a boyfriend well why not wait for her to make a decision to leave. She probably likes the attention you are giving her and she may really be unhappy in her relationship. This is a hard road to walk and it sounds like you have already made the first steps down it. I would take a step back and reevaluate the situation before you get more emotionally involved. Most of these types of relationships end with someone getting hurt. Plus what if her boyfriend finds out and comes to your work to confront you? Bad situation. Welcome to LS and read the threads here, they will help.
jj33 Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 She sounds like trouble. Young and immature. Dont get invested in this. Admire her from afar (assuming she is hot). If its just a bf and hes not treating her right and shes saying she hates him and wont leave its not like they are married and its difficult to get out.
Author kemo10304 Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 @LadyDesigner .."First it probably isn't a good idea to start a relationship with someone you work with. If she has a boyfriend well why not wait for her to make a decision to leave. She probably likes the attention you are giving her and she may really be unhappy in her relationship." <--This couldnt be anymore head on, she does enjoy the attention i just realized. The type of job it is, she's receptionist at a senior citizen home an im kitchen staff and only work there 4hrs of the day, if it was to really become official i could quit but we dont see each other that much becuz bossman is alwayz lurking. But I completely agree and should just wait @JJ33_ "She sounds like trouble. Young and immature. "...Admire her from afar (assuming she is hot)." <--Ohh mann ur sooo right and yes OMG she is hot. Admire her from afar, I digg it completely and sounds like the best advice ever. I mean i talk to other girls an hook up but she is definitely wifey material even tho shes young dumb lol, we cld grow together cuz we've had pretty in-depth convos, and she's actually told me very personal family issues i know she just wouldnt tell anyone. should i cut off communication? or keep her at bay an stay cordial??? Thank u both
jj33 Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 You sound so sweet and like youve got a young mans case of KISAS (knight in shining armor syndrome). Shes hot hot hot and young and troubled and she has confided in you and she has drawn you in and you want to be the knight in shining armor who whisks her away from this bad guy and shows her hte love she deserves while you grow old together and she becomes hte woman you know she can be. Maybe but dude step back. If she cant break up with a guy who is not treating her right you could be wrapping yourself in heartache. Step back. Be cordial no more. Let her come to you WHEN she has broken up with the bf. If she asks why you are less talkative just say nothing has changed. If she suggests you hang out tell her no she has a bf. Show her you have boundaries. Treat her and her choices with respect, even if she doesnt. You dont want to be the guy she comes to and moans to while you moon over her
pureinheart Posted July 16, 2010 Posted July 16, 2010 You sound so sweet and like youve got a young mans case of KISAS (knight in shining armor syndrome). Shes hot hot hot and young and troubled and she has confided in you and she has drawn you in and you want to be the knight in shining armor who whisks her away from this bad guy and shows her hte love she deserves while you grow old together and she becomes hte woman you know she can be. Maybe but dude step back. If she cant break up with a guy who is not treating her right you could be wrapping yourself in heartache. Step back. Be cordial no more. Let her come to you WHEN she has broken up with the bf. If she asks why you are less talkative just say nothing has changed. If she suggests you hang out tell her no she has a bf. Show her you have boundaries. Treat her and her choices with respect, even if she doesnt. You dont want to be the guy she comes to and moans to while you moon over her Hi JJ, I was thinking the same thing when reading the OP:)
Author kemo10304 Posted July 23, 2010 Author Posted July 23, 2010 @JJ. Ahh luv the brute honesty and its soo true. Ok so now i dont stop to talk to her anymore and im starting to notice some tension...and i havent even done anything ..do u think I should just go ahead and avoid her now? I def don't wanna make things weird or uncomfortable.....help:o
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