robaday Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 I've heard this theory a couple of times-once on these threads. Is it true that people in the same psychological or mental state often attract similar people into their lives? When I say this, in my first relationship, my girlfriend at the time was best friends with someone close to me who passed away-we got close in grief and mourning and formed a relationship. Two traumatized people. It ended, I've often thought when she had actually finished her grieving, whilst mine had only just begun. The second, more recent one, was with a girl who had had two horrific relationships in the past in which she was abused. She had no self-esteem or confidence. At the time, I felt my self esteem was pretty high and as she was lovely and beautiful, I thought why not? Of course this ended. Partly when I realized my self-esteem was taking a major hit, and I realized I was actually far weaker than I thought and far far more damaged by the past than I ever dared believe. There were other reasons as well, huge insecurity on her part, and I realized I alone could not make it work, and be her "everything" Has anyone else experienced this? or heard of this theory? in my life its proved far more accurate than I dared believe.
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