trying to get my boyfriend to be fair and understanding.

[Jlovestruckx0]

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now, im happy im still with him. There are details about my relationship that im not completely happy with , but at the end of the day i love my bf. I've been feeling a bit unappreciated lately and not listened to. My bf says that since were together often theres nothing really to talk about so when i want to talk about things such as improving our relationship, he doesnt want to hear it. My bf is always tired and he uses it as a constant excuse to avoid conversations, he gives me a cranky attitude til the point where i give up on the topic and go the rest of the night frustrated, annoyed, and overwhelmed about the problem. Im thinking about spending alot less tim with him because im beginning to feel like hes not even excited to be with me anymore, although he says otherwise, im not feeling the string physical and emotional connection we had a couple of months ago. I know we still care the same i just feel like we need something to really pull us together and get us talking and get him to appreciate me. It seems like everytime he has something he wants to talk about i give him my full attention , but what I want to talk about never seems to have a purpose to him, im tired of it. I feel like i'm always excited to be with him and i try to play around and cuddle but he gets annoyed and tells me i have too much energy for him and hes tired. I feel like hes shutting me out, but im the idiot who still wants him around all the time. Maybe I just need to let go a bit and get over my wanting to be with him all the time? What ways can i get him to appreciate and want me around again , or atleast show that he wants me around, is space what we need? I want to feel wanted by him again, and I want to feel that strong connection again, i know its not gone it just needs some readjusting, Any advice please? And any advice on how to get ym bf to have energy around me and not get annoyed when I try to give him attention, he says he doesnt like all the attention, hes not use to it, but shouldnt he appreciate me more for it since im the only person who treats him so well? The attention that i give him that he doesnt appreciate is the attention I need, but i cant get it from him, any advice on how to talk to him about this without getting mad or bored?

[Howlc7]

Basically i think you should do what you suggested and just spend some time apart from him and maybe it'll make him realise how much he needs you and give him a wake up call. If not then he's not worth it, they're are better people that will appreciate the attention you give them