Lovingmargy Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Hello! Ok, so I have this little dilemma here, and suggestions would be great!! I recently got broken up by a two and a half year relationship. It hurt,still does. But now that he is gone, I feel like I have nothing to loose! When one thinks about it, there are so many things you put off for another person. I am 19, and he just turned 20. I plan to travel to so many places! Just live my life! Now, I really like this guy that I have known for four years. He is a really good family friend. He is Latino, works out and looks REALLY good. I am a typical looking Latina, brown hair,brown eyes, just typical. I would love to ask him to hang out since we share so much in common. Do I start hanging out with this guy, or do I stay single for a while and do the things I want to do alone? And how do I tell this guy to hang out??? His girlfriend of two years just broke up with him too....I just don't know how to it,any help? lol!
spriggig Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 There might be an empty spot in your heart from the last relationship. It's tempting to try to fill that spot with another person, the problem is the spot is shaped like your ex and a new person will not fit. You should fill that spot with yourself first, so you can offer yourself once more as a whole person for a relationship. Take care of yourself for now. That other guy isn't going anywhere, he should be doing the same thing for himself. Even if he gets into a rebound, whoever she is won't fit in his empty spot either--it won't last.
hurt and devastated Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 I agree. I don't know if it would be healthy for either one of you to jump back into a relationship so quickly. There is a good chance you could end up clinging to one another just to "have someone". I think he would understand if you told him you're interested in him, but you need some time for yourself to get over your previous relationship. Besides, he might tell you the same thing if you start trying to be with him.
Username37 Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 Hang out with him. Don't jump. Both of you should recover first and NO hooking up haha Good luck to ya
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