conehead Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]Long story short, I moved 400 miles away 2 years ago shortly after my ex broke up with me (I did some sh*tty things so I deserved it). I went back to visit over the weekend for my friends wedding and met up with my ex. I saw him for the first time in 2 years though we spoke off and on throughout that time. We had dinner, watched a movie, and got physical (obviously too quickly). He said he missed me a lot, that all his feelings came back when he saw me, wants us to try again (though we are both mindful of the 400 mile distance apart), held my hand, acted really sweet with me and even asked me about engagement rings. He said he’d like to come visit me in 3 weeks. Then the next day right after we got physical again, he made a 180. I asked him what’s wrong, he said he thinks what we’re doing is wrong. I asked would he be with me if I moved back for him and he said probably. Then I said ok lets plan for that, and he said its complicated. Why? He said he’s been seeing someone for months (he said they haven’t gotten physical because she is Catholic but I don’t know if I buy it). Basically, he chooses her over me and now my heart is in pieces. He said his feelings for me are stronger than they are for her but he says that he’s not sure about us given our history. He feels torn, I forced him to choose, and he chose her. I feel so betrayed, used and angry at him and at myself for actually having thought he was the nicest guy I knew. I honestly thought he was an angel and that’s why I was so hung up on him over 2 years. Now I’m no longer hung up. Just disgusted by him and I’ve lost all respect for him. [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]Oh, he also said if he chooses me he’s afraid that things might actually work out. I ask him wth does that mean and he said he’s scared I might actually move here and we’d might actually be together. I told him that makes no sense. I think he’s just full of sh*t with that statement. I told him I’m actually starting to hate him now, which I never thought would be possible. [/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]What hurts the most is that as betrayed as I feel, he feels he’s betrayed her more. I never thought I’d become the other woman, but that’s what I am (eventhough he and the other girl are not yet bf/gf though they have talked about becoming that). She knows I’m here and was upset upon hearing that, but when I asked him if he’s going to tell her that he slept with me, he said he will not. He will tell her we just hung out as friends. [/FONT][/sIZE]
MisUnderstanding Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 He just cheated on his gf to be with you... think about it. Now that girl has done nothing wrong, so put yourself in her place - the person she is exclusively dating goes and sleeps with his ex. Would you like to be that girl? Someday you could be if you two end up together. He clearly has no problems cheating.
brainygirl Posted July 15, 2010 Posted July 15, 2010 He's no good. You never put those feelings aside as you should when a relationship ends, and worse, you hung out with an ex (always a no-no), which lead to remembering old feelings being mistaken for those feelings. He's been seeing a girl who won't put out, and he enjoyed sex with you. So he said what he needed to say to get some. The reality is that he broke up with you for a reason, and you moved for a reason. Haven't you built a life where you are now? Be proud of that and chalk what happened up to lack of experience and nothing more.
Author conehead Posted July 15, 2010 Author Posted July 15, 2010 He was the only guy I was ever in love with. I think I stayed in love cuz I thought he was the nicest guy ever but in just one nite that all went out the window. I've lost all respect for him and when that happens with a guy I stop loving him. Its a dealbreaker for me. I'm not sad rite now at all just pissed
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